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Baby dies of whooping cough. Concerns about vaccine hesitancy.

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flyingsquirrelsagogo · 31/08/2025 10:38

Article on the the BBC website today. It’s so sad.
Vaccines are probably the most important public health measure ever introduced. But they’ve been so successful that people forget how awful things were before we had them and how deadly the diseases were.

Baby dies of whooping cough after mother not vaccinated while pregnant https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cx2xe5l4mn5o

A close-up shot of a baby's feet. The infant is lying down and has a white hospital tag around their ankle. The rest of the baby is blurry.

Baby dies of whooping cough after mother not vaccinated while pregnant

The first death from the illness this year comes as vaccination rates among children have declined.

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cx2xe5l4mn5o

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Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 31/08/2025 11:12

Unfortunately I think that it will take a lot of children dying or being left disabled before these vaccines are the work of the devil parents will change their minds.

flyingsquirrelsagogo · 31/08/2025 11:13

Jalesia · 31/08/2025 10:51

Very sad but I'm not sure it's necessary to remember how awful the disease was - I'm not old enough to remember any incidences of whooping cough and I'll confess I don't know much about it. Just accepted the vax on the nhs as it was recommended and my midwife just did it at one of my regular appointments. But I also have no one trying to influence any anti-vax opinions in my life (and don't have much sm) so the default for me has always been to just do whatever the NHS recommends.

When I say “we don’t remember” I mean as a generation. These awful diseases were eradicated (mostly) so we don’t see the effects on child mortality and morbidity in our day to day lives.

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Sleepygrumpyandnothappy · 31/08/2025 11:14

applegingermint · 31/08/2025 11:04

You will get a letter or text from your GP as he approaches 3yr4m as the 3 year old vaccines are given then. Same as your 12 month vaccinations which presumably you managed not to miss.

That is not the most effective comms strategy though. Vaccine take up is dreadful, the NHS needs to be approaching this the way any other organisation would think about user engagement.

Oh and incidentally my borough has one of the worst take up rates in the country. Vaccines aren’t offered at routine midwife appointments and neither the hospital or community midwives mention pharmacies as an option. Connection maybe?

And yes for people concerned, my son has had everything since. (Including basics like err, a midwife visiting us at home after discharge, which unbelievably I had to advocate for and escalate through other channels because the aforementioned hospital fucked up the paperwork.)

Wornouttoday · 31/08/2025 11:15

They played a clip of a child with whooping cough on radio 4 news earlier today. If this article here and the terrible sound of the child coughing like that doesn’t prompt you to get vaccinated asap then God help your child for having a selfish and neglectful parent.

flyingsquirrelsagogo · 31/08/2025 11:17

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 31/08/2025 11:07

I had to work really hard to get my vaccine for similar reasons - after I'd got it, I found the "drop in" nurse always seemed to be hanging around other clinics bullying women in public into getting their vaccine. Which was pointless and rude. Let's say a woman wanted to go against her community/culture around vaccines - surely better for her to discretely pop in?

(And I was on high risk so in hospital every two weeks trying to find her)

It always boggles my mind how useless midwives are in this respect. If I can be expected to take home daily injections with one demo post-birth, then surely a trained midwife can administer a bloody vaccine at routine appointments!

What do you mean by “bullying”?
This sounds like outreach / proactive care. What do you see as bullying?

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flyingsquirrelsagogo · 31/08/2025 11:19

Sleepygrumpyandnothappy · 31/08/2025 11:14

That is not the most effective comms strategy though. Vaccine take up is dreadful, the NHS needs to be approaching this the way any other organisation would think about user engagement.

Oh and incidentally my borough has one of the worst take up rates in the country. Vaccines aren’t offered at routine midwife appointments and neither the hospital or community midwives mention pharmacies as an option. Connection maybe?

And yes for people concerned, my son has had everything since. (Including basics like err, a midwife visiting us at home after discharge, which unbelievably I had to advocate for and escalate through other channels because the aforementioned hospital fucked up the paperwork.)

And yet another poster called a more proactive post “bullying”. So what should they do?

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stichguru · 31/08/2025 11:22

upseedaisee · 31/08/2025 11:09

Indeed. That bloody Andrew Wakefield bloke should have gone on trial for genocide.

He and the pharma company he was in cahoots with are responsible for thousands of babies and children dying or ending up disabled in some way. All for money and prestige.

Couldn't agree more

WhatNoRaisins · 31/08/2025 11:24

I think it's a real problem with how a lot of NHS services are organised. When things appear haphazard to the patients then it can also appear unimportant. It's going to be more difficult to convince patients to take up important services when there isn't a consistent timetable of when they are available or if appointments are often cancelled.

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 31/08/2025 11:31

Wornouttoday · 31/08/2025 11:10

Bullying?

Well I would call:

  • announcing women's names from her list (we were all the in the GD test clinic)
  • asking them loudly if they'd had the vaccine
  • asking them follow up questions about their "reasons for refusing the vaccine"
  • stating that they "needed to record the reason for refusal"

Bullying.

I already had the vaccine, and I didn't appreciate the fact that a) the woman responsible had no record and b) she was making my special category health data available in this fashion.

A useless strategy anyway, as she didn't convince anyone to take the vaccine who hadn't already had it.

fungibletoken · 31/08/2025 11:33

Sleepygrumpyandnothappy · 31/08/2025 10:41

I don’t disagree that there has been a cultural shift away from vaccines which needs to be addressed. But I didn’t get the whooping cough vaccine in pregnancy because the nurse who was meant to administer them was never in the hospital when I was there for scans. You couldn’t book an appointment, it was a drop in service but fell apart if no one was available for drop ins. I suspect a small proportion of the fall in take up is similar tales of the NHS not working for users.

I wonder if this varies by trust - in my pregnancies over the last few years I've always had them through my GP. The midwife told me once I was eligible and chased up to make sure I'd done it. I think I also received a message from my GP too.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 31/08/2025 11:35

Wornouttoday · 31/08/2025 11:09

The mother in this case acted stupidly and foolishly and her own baby has paid the highest price. It’s unutterably tragic. The poor baby had no choice in the matter.

Vaccine hesitancy is a euphemism for foolish and selfish refusal to be vaccinated against potentially fatal illnesses.

I wish our government would do what some countries do - not allow parents to register at nurseries and schools unless they’re fully vaccinated.

And then we’d probably have people saying it’s against their human rights to force people to vaccinate their children, and the human rights lawyers would be rubbing their hands in glee….

MimsyMe · 31/08/2025 11:41

Very sad.

I grew up pre-vaccine and I caught whooping cough as a young child. I remember being unable to stop coughing, just looping in a seemingly never ending cough.

I remember the GP coming to visit me, and I remember my mum being very worried and with me all the time. I remember her begging me to just try to stop coughing.

It’s an absolutely horrible disease. Poor little baby, to die from such a thing.

TheMadGardener · 31/08/2025 11:49

I am in my 50s and having whooping cough aged 4 is probably my earliest memory. I don't remember much before about the age of 7, but I do remember standing at the bottom of the stairs whooping and coughing. According to my somewhat unreliable parent, I had actually been vaccinated but managed to get a light dose of whooping cough anyway. No one else I've ever known has had it - I assumed it was pretty rare these days.

It really is awful that vaccination rates have fallen so low. Some of it is parental ignorance, some of it is wilful choice, some of it is down to the government/NHS not putting more resources into a really stringent campaign to make people more aware, so that even those who are normally oblivious can't miss the information and no one has to go looking for it.

My children are young adults now and are vaccinated up to the eyeballs.

Bumblebee72 · 31/08/2025 12:07

It's always tragic when a baby dies from something easily preventable. If the mother turned down the vaccine, hopefully she will be prosecuted for manslaughter. There needs to be a message sent to the anti-vax morons.

buffy2025 · 31/08/2025 12:08

We shouldn’t even be in the situation where there are deaths from measles or whooping cough
it’s like we are going backwards to the time when there were no vaccines except now they’re free and available and people are refusing them

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 31/08/2025 12:09

flyingsquirrelsagogo · 31/08/2025 11:19

And yet another poster called a more proactive post “bullying”. So what should they do?

I've just answered how it was bullying (as well as a data breach), but I never said that the "proactive" method was good in the first place.

That poster, myself and many others I know struggled to get the advertised service of drop ins (which would be valuable to those covertly going against their community).

floorpuddles · 31/08/2025 12:09

Sleepygrumpyandnothappy · 31/08/2025 10:43

Which they didn’t have.

Did you not take one up at the hospital antenatal department when/where you went for a scan?

Oldglasses · 31/08/2025 12:27

I had whooping cough when I was about 9. I still remember how ill I was. I got in my parents’ bed at night as the coughing was so bad. It was the school holidays - I’d caught it off another boy on holiday.
My dad didn’t believe in vaccines.

Emma543 · 31/08/2025 12:42

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 31/08/2025 11:31

Well I would call:

  • announcing women's names from her list (we were all the in the GD test clinic)
  • asking them loudly if they'd had the vaccine
  • asking them follow up questions about their "reasons for refusing the vaccine"
  • stating that they "needed to record the reason for refusal"

Bullying.

I already had the vaccine, and I didn't appreciate the fact that a) the woman responsible had no record and b) she was making my special category health data available in this fashion.

A useless strategy anyway, as she didn't convince anyone to take the vaccine who hadn't already had it.

That’s quite a low threshold for ‘bullying’

blueflannel · 31/08/2025 12:45

Shoxfordian · 31/08/2025 10:45

There's definitely disorganisation in the nhs, but you could have been more persistent about it probably and/or complained or found a private vaccine failing all that.

This is a really sad story but its mostly a story about stupidity in refusing vaccines- play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Unfortunately I think this needs to happen. These diseases never went away and people have become complacent. Maybe it will be the shock that some need to make appts and get their dc up to date with vaccines. Terrible that it has to be this way no child should lose their life to preventable illnesses in 2025

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 31/08/2025 12:48

Emma543 · 31/08/2025 12:42

That’s quite a low threshold for ‘bullying’

Well I witnessed it, I saw the embarrassment of the women involved, and it's my job to design processes that a) are compliant with data protection law (this absolutely wasn't) and b) support people with accessing healthcare. And "loudly blabbing out people's details in a public space" weirdly doesn't make the list.

But we all have our opinions.

Beachtastic · 31/08/2025 12:51

MimsyMe · 31/08/2025 11:41

Very sad.

I grew up pre-vaccine and I caught whooping cough as a young child. I remember being unable to stop coughing, just looping in a seemingly never ending cough.

I remember the GP coming to visit me, and I remember my mum being very worried and with me all the time. I remember her begging me to just try to stop coughing.

It’s an absolutely horrible disease. Poor little baby, to die from such a thing.

Yes, I had it too (in the 1960s).

Just in case anyone on this thread believes the MMR nonsense, here's a perfect summary of it. I save it and repost it whenever I can because this kind of disinformation is criminally dangerous.

https://tallguywrites.livejournal.com/148012.html

Owlsandeagles · 31/08/2025 12:51

My daughter caught whooping cough last year. She’s fully vaccinated.
Doc didn’t think she had it for this reason, but her test came back positive.
It was horrific. The sound of her coughing and struggling to breathe over and over was the worst thing I’ve heard. She’d be bright red in the face, vomiting from coughing so much.
I’ll never forget the night she woke up coughing, struggling to breathe then complete silence. I’ve never got out of bed so fast, convinced she’d stopped breathing. It was absolutely awful.

Her cough lasted around 4 months, she still has to have a blue inhaler every now and then as she complains of a tight chest, something which never happened before whooping cough.

I remember seeing a segment on the news of parents saying they hadn’t vaccinated their children against whooping cough but would get if their child started coughing 🙄 , to me these people are the reason my daughter was ill with it. It’s an illness that’s preventable. Why wouldn’t you get your child vaccinated?!!

flyingsquirrelsagogo · 31/08/2025 12:52

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 31/08/2025 12:48

Well I witnessed it, I saw the embarrassment of the women involved, and it's my job to design processes that a) are compliant with data protection law (this absolutely wasn't) and b) support people with accessing healthcare. And "loudly blabbing out people's details in a public space" weirdly doesn't make the list.

But we all have our opinions.

I agree that approach was very heavy handed and really not best practice.

I am interested in what approaches you think will help.
Surely we need to be “proactive”. But how?

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Beachtastic · 31/08/2025 12:53

Edited my post above to include the correct link, not the one to Bob the Vampire 🤣🤣🤣

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