Daughter wearing see through linen trousers.

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Lovely, lovely DD 23. Works and lives in Germany, home for a few weeks summer holiday. She’s great - sociable, capable, good company etc. However she can be a bit sensitive about any personal comments and I haven’t made any for years.
She is slim and tall and wears white wide legged linen trousers from Cos that she bought 3 years ago. They are well past their best.
She wears lace thongs which are very visible - sometimes dark colours underneath. Wise Mumsnetters….. is it best to stay quiet and pass no comment, or worth the fallout by pointing it out? Don’t think she realises that other people could be looking at her - what would you do?

I'd tell her! What she does with the information is up to her..

Stay quiet.

I’d think she’s aware and not bothered. Lots of clothes now are quite see through. No need to say anything if she doesn’t take your observations well.

"Do you know you can see your pants through those trousers?"

That should do it. Then as an adult she can decide what she does with that information.

Why the pussyfooting around, get on with it if it's that bad:
'DD I can see your knickers through those trousers, the fabric's quite thin you know'
Or she knows and doesn't care.
Or just stay quiet.

Just tell her? It's quite difficult to see your own bum in bright daylight, she probably doesn't realise.

If you think she knows and doesn’t care then don’t say anything. If you think she doesn’t then a very chilled ‘Did you know your trousers are see through? Just wondering if you mind or if it’s a thing nowadays?’
Don’t ask/tell her when you’re outside of the house. She can’t change it then and might feel embarrassed.

Guaranteed she's been told by friends already.

But I cant understand why you wouldn't just say, "Do you know those trousers are see-through?"

Weird.

And also, it's not 'personal' comment at all.

Buy her a packet of some seamless thongs in nude and just say they’re handy as don’t show under pale fabric and leave it up to her.

I'd stay quiet. So much sensitivity around clothes. Even an observation without judgement can be taken wrongly. I would say nothing, I assume she looks at herself in a mirror anyway.

Tell her. She may not even realise they're see through. I have a pair that only works with invisible skin-toned underwear. Unfortunately one day I was changing pants in a hurry and pulled those on without thinking. DH met me later in the day and immediately told me my red underwear was fully visible and I was mortified 😂

Guaranteed she's been told by friends already.
Pretty sure she hasn't. This is the sort of thing only parents or a partner can bring up easily

Unless there is a drip feed coming, she knows. It’s her choice to dress like this. Leave it be.

Why not do a wash and then hold them up and say "oh look, these have gone see through now, better be careful or everyone will see your knickers"
Say it lightly and not when she's actually wearing them so she won't feel uncomfortable or under attack

In today’s episode of Not Saying Simple Basic Stuff to Relatives for Fear of Upsetting Them…

She’s a grown woman and presumably owns a mirror, so I would assume she knows and doesn’t care. For that reason I’d mind my own business.

Seriously?

That's what friends are for in my book.

If I or a friend go on a night out/day out with our knickers showing, I can guarantee we'll politely mention it.

Why wouldn't you? 🤷‍♂️

She must know. Even if she can’t see due to the angle - common sense should tell her that dark indies will show under white clothes?! Especially worn white clothes. You can still mention it though - fancy going shopping for some new trousers DD?

Flesh coloured underwear doesn’t show through white trousers
just tell her you can see her thong

Im sure they know they are see through - it’s fashion

“Is it the fashion these days to be able to see your underwear?” She can reply accordingly and then you move on from the conversation.

"Darling, shall I treat you to some new linen trousers? The fabric is getting a bit thin, and I know see through is fashionable now, but..."

From my experience with my adult Dd ,after I mentioned her gym leggings leave nothing to the imagination...I'd leave well alone

Definitely don't do that lol.

I would mention it but in a gentle way eg "nice pants". My mum told me recently she could see my arse through my swimsuit (which was past it's best) when we were at the pool and I was very grateful (can't see it myself) and VERY mortified at how long it has been out for all to see lolllll sorry morning swimmers