Tell me your stories of entitlement

[Spidey66]

We’re in the US ATM . We flew London to Seattle so a long flight. We paid extra for premium economy seats, and got good seats.

just before take off, our (front) row were approached by a mother with a new baby (looked like only 3-4 months or so) asking for someone to swap because she had a baby. To cut a long story short, she didn’t get it and stormed off in a huff. Turned out she was actually in economy and wanted a premium seat without premium cost and was wanting one of us to pay premium price and sit in economy! Isn’t that the height of entitlement!!! She thought we should bow down to the fact she had a baby!

I love hearing stories of entitlement. Tell me yours.

This is soo weird 😅

The sink is being used to wash a bowl of gravy. Use tap, wash gravy down sink. Run tap and rinse sink. What do people think is going to happen to them if they use the sink afterwards? It's a pub bathroom. I guarantee at some point someone has vomited into that sink.

You don't touch the sink itself when washing your hands.
You don't lick the sink (or perhaps you do?).
What is the issue?

If someone has just stroked a dog and the dog has licked their hand, they will wash their hands at that same sink. Is this more socially acceptable dog spit?

The lipgloss. That was one of Megan’s stories to try to paint Kale as horrible and unfriendly. She apparently asked Kale to lend her lipgloss as she had apparently forgotten hers. As if that wouldn’t be seen as utterly minging by any normal person, and are we supposed to believe that the palace staff wouldn’t have plenty of spare cosmetics to hand?

I don’t think they deliberately split you up. I fly with my two older teens fairly regularly and I don’t pre book seats because they are not fussed, but 9/10 we are sitting together or are separated only by the aisle

I put mine in the dishwasher. With the toilet brush 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

The issue was entitlement. There was a tap provided to was the dog bowl, that's what should have been used.

My DH was lying in hospital in a coma dying. My SIL and BIL came from Australia to be there as they knew he didn’t have much longer. As you can imagine I was walking round in a daze, on auto pilot, trying to be there for my children, whilst coming to terms with my DH of 34 years having a week to live. Instead of my SIL and BIL hiring a car they asked me to sort out insurance with my DHs car insurance company so they could use my DH’s car. He had expressly told me he didn’t want them using it but WTF! That’s not all, my DH had bought himself a really expensive set of golf clubs and hoped in his last year of life to get a few rounds of golf in. Alas he didn’t which still really upsets me (almost in tears typing this). Same SIL and BIL whilst in hospital room with husband in coma, asked me if BIL could borrow the golf clubs as wanted to get a round in whilst there. Said no. That night texted my SIL to explain all this upset me. The next day my SIL’s daughter told me her mum was really upset and had done nothing wrong. There are no words.

At the time I did have a successful sewing business! Was a dreadful people pleaser when I set up and took a while to learn to say no. Retired now but these requests still come in; still say no.

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Quite a number of years ago, I was in ASDA and there was an African lady queueing in front of me. She had a 5 year old, a toddler in her hip and a baby.

She had some stuff on the belt and when it had gone through, her vouchers didn't cover it, so she started putting stuff back. She had no luxuries, just the cheapest basic food and nappies. She had virtually nothing left, so I handed her £20, she looked utterly broken.

I shoved all her stuff back on the belt and as she was leaving, gave me the biggest, saddest smile.

My stuff went through and the woman on the till snapped, "Are you going to pay for MY fucking shopping?!"

I'm rarely lost for a reply, but I was then.

Think I've posted this before....
I'm a childminder. Several years ago one of the Mum's from the school where I do drop offs/ collections contacted me to enquire about before and after school care. She had 4 kids. Put me on the spot a bit- her plans for the children had fallen through- and she wanted to come that evening to see me. Anyway, she came round, just with 3 of the children and wanted care from the following Monday. I felt a bit pushed by her and when I worked things out I could only have the kids 2 evenings a week. The only contact details I had was her work email- no phone numbers, address, she hadn't filled in any paperwork- so I emailed her to say I couldn't do it. No reply so I emailed again
The following Monday, I was dropping children at school and the reception teacher said " Oh you're picking entitled Mum's children up today aren't you?" Said no I absolutely wasn't! Told her what had happened, she was gobsmacked and said she'd contact their dad ( they were divorced). Bear in mind I hadn't even met the 4th child and didn't even know what he looked like and I didn't even know what classes any of them were in! I had no contracts, contact details, medical information, payment....nothing!
The dad then rings me and asks me if I could collect them as he was working 200 miles away. Apparently their Mum had dropped them at school and gone straight to the airport to catch a plane for a weeks holiday with her mates! I told the Dad that I wasn't going to collect them then he had a moan because he'd have to cone back and collect them himself! I mentioned the after school club and apparently they had to leave the week before due to bad behaviour....that was the childcare that fell through!
I never heard from her again, and she completely ignored me at the school!
Ironically, she owned and ran a children's nursery.....

Moved into our previous house and was breaking up an old concrete path with a lump hammer. Neighbour very kindly offered to lend me a pickaxe, which helped enormously. Didn't get the job done in one go and apologized a few days later that I hadn't returned the pickaxe yet. Neighbour said "Don't worry, I borrowed it from the other neighbour six months ago and they haven't asked for it back".

Our house had been empty for several years and the garden was a real mess. When I had sorted it out, the same neighbour said "It looks great, but I don't know where we are going to throw our hedge-clippings now".

Urgh what a horrible person. I've paid for people's shopping in the past, only a small amount of money when their card wasn't working or a couple of kids trying to buy some snacks and presumably either didn't have the money in their account or bank problems, whatever, offered to pay, kid or person thanked me and smiled and the cashier smiled at me when they started serving me, everyone quite happy. That's how it should be.
Some people just can't see a nice thing happening to someone else without seeing it as a kindness not happening to them. I'm sorry that cashier was so rude, you did a nice thing for another person and you shouldn't be made to feel bad about it

We have friends we've had for 30 years, who moved abroad years ago and we rarely see them. As is the way of things, we aren't great at being in touch (dh and the other dh do a bit more) but every time I text my friend, she asks me to arrange postage for something she can't get in her country. It gets delivered to me and I post it on.

I seriously don't mind doing it, but it's got to the stage where that's just about all the contact we have now. Would you post this for me and how are the kids btw? I'm so sad about that friendship but I don't know how to revive it without having to go down the Post Office 😭

Here is some free advice

It is considered rude to assume that your opinions are fact, and to criticise others for not having the same opinions as you

I was on the PTA committee at my DC primary school. We would hold cake sales each half term to raise money for trips etc. All cakes were 20p . One woman chose several slices of gateaux and huge cupcakes and then complained that the cornflake cakes should be cheaper than the slices of gateaux. I suggested that perhaps we should actually charge her more for the bigger cakes then. Another time at the summer fete we were selling teas/ coffee/ squash etc for 30p with a free biscuits. The same woman argued that as she didn't want a biscuit, could she have a free drink instead.

I had something similar happened years ago

A work colleague was struggling to find childcare for one day (the morning) and work where being nasty and insisting she came in,but she couldn't as lack of childcare

I happened to have the day off and offered to have him

Next thing I know,I'm having him every Monday and Tuesday,she had a word with the male boss (who's never had to worry about childcare as his wife does everything bar wiping his arse) about me working for her on those days and I was lumbered with her other 3 kids school runs,her housework and having them all at all hours (including overnights) all unpaid

I was missing out on my own work (I needed the money) and was being taken for a mug,so I told her I was stopping it

She went insane,started a smear campaign against me and male boss joined in and tried to give me a written warning (my biggest regret is telling him to do so as I would take legal advice-i should have let him do it and then taken legal advice)

My colleagues stuck up for me so main boss made her a manager (she was useless but had a tiny bit of power over me)

One Tuesday,I was leaving and said bye to everyone and left-she was there,glaring at me

The following day,I showed up,did my shift as normal and heard the rumours about how she'd gone home and found her husband in bed with another woman and had left the house with the kids

It turned out he had a whole other family a few miles away (who knew about her) and he'd been living a double life for years

She'd quit between me leaving on the Tuesday night and starting again on the Wednesday afternoon

(She was a two faced bitch anyway-she worked her way around most of the male bosses to climb her way to manager behind husbands back)

Can't say I was too upset and nobody will ever take advantage of me like that again

I grew up in abusive home and everyone else's red flags where my normal-im not the people pleaser I used to be anymore (thanks to dp who points out the pisstakers)

Really isn't.

Maybe I'm missing something big here, but I don't get how this can actually happen at all.

If there's a buffet in the public place where you are, and you haven't paid for it or been invited to an event where a buffet might be provided, what would possess you to assume that it was a free for all?

Surely people aren't usually in the habit of just going to all the effort and expense of laying on a random buffet so that anybody passing through who fancies some can tuck in?!

I could well understand if, say, there are two separate private events going on at a large venue and you accidentally find yourself in the wrong room at the wrong buffet... but when you weren't expecting to be attending a buffet at all, you happen to see one and assume that it must be fine for you to help yourself?!

We found all the slates taken off during re-roofing done 20+ years earlier! No wonder the survey had said the roof timbers were bowing and needed to be replaced.

Buying and selling houses is peak time to encounter CFs. My all-time favourite was the cocky young sales rep from a well known removals firm who came to quote for our removal to our present house. He'd already signed up the family we were buying from and took it for granted we would pay his extortionate fee as well. We didn't. We went with a small local firm that came with personal recommendations from people we knew and trusted and whose fee was much, much lower. Sale rep rang up to find out why we hadn't replied accepting his quote and I broke the news to him. He was very cross. His parting words were not to blame him if it all went wrong on the day. Bloody cheek!

Come moving day, our chaps were absolutely excellent. They turned up on time the day before, packed the house in a brace of shakes, turned up bright and early on moving day to pack the van, unpacked quickly and efficiently at the other end and identified the only minor breakage themselves, taking the print away to get the glass replaced, returning it a couple of days later. I recommended them wholeheartedly as often as I could for years afterwards.

Unfortunately, the other family had a sequence of disasters. The big firm had sent too small a van because the rep had underestimated the size of the job. There was a long delay while another van was summoned. Our movers agreed to work around the chaos and got us in on time with minimum fuss.

Meanwhile, news reached us that the big firm's first van had broken down in the entrance way to the new house, which was a block of flats standing in its own grounds. None of the other residents could get in or out until it was fixed. What a first impression to make on your new neighbours!

The big firm's second crew arrived and I made some small talk with them while they joined the queue to get in and out. One of them said to me about the rep 'I bet he told you we use top of the range materials to pack, didn't he? Well, we don't. We use the same as everyone else.' No love lost there, I sensed!

I imagine the rep had a tricky conversation with his boss when all this was relayed back to HQ. I hope he squirmed.

Well, it says he thought it was a restaurant, not a party.
You don’t need an invitation to a restaurant, nor do you pay up front.

That's an excellent point
Thank you for politely pointing that out, I had completely forgotten that aspect of student loans

Royals always had ladies in waiting for this very reason. However prestigious a role it was paid.