Page 24 | Tell me your stories of entitlement

EmShire · 18/08/2025 12:24

This is another pretty lightweight one, but I remember a few years ago I was sitting at the back of a musical performance in a pretty small venue.

Two people, possibly mother and daughter, came in halfway through and then left after about five minutes. I felt sorry for the solo performer who would have noticed them leaving so soon after coming in. It was such an intimate venue that almost everyone would have noticed them come and go.

Phoebesparrow · 18/08/2025 12:25

Mmmmbacon · 18/08/2025 11:34

A popular member of my hobby group broke down in tears during the session. She told us that she'd arrived at work on Monday morning to find the office empty. Her employers had done a bunk owing money to both the landlord and staff. (This was true, btw.)
Her home life is chaotic at the best of times, but as the breadwinner, she was naturally stressed about feeding the family and paying the mortgage until she could find another job. She was in pieces.
The leader of the group suggested we have a whip round and being a generous bunch, we collected just under a grand for her. She was genuinely touched and grateful and a couple of weeks later, posted on the group Whatsapp, saying she thought 'you lovely lot' would like to see how she'd used the money. It was a photo of a pedigree puppy.

I was once scrolling fb and a plea came up from a lady asking if anyone knew of anywhere that could give out free food as she was struggling to feed her kids in the holidays and she didn't get any money from their father

I answered via messenger saying if been there as a single parent myself and would like to offer some food from my cupboards/freezer

She was grateful and gave me her address,I caught a taxi to hers with my children and dropped off about £100 worth of food (I'm going back about 15 years ago)

We became FB friends so we could stay in touch

Some other people showed up as I was leaving with even more food and money-fab,nobody would go hungry

About a week later I saw her posts,she,the father of her children and her 5 kids where staying in a 5* hotel in an expensive country for a fortnight

I chalked it up to experience and won't help anyone unless I know them and know they genuinely need help

ThatBlackCat · 18/08/2025 12:26

KilkennyCats · 18/08/2025 11:44

Well, if it makes you feel better, I suppose 🤷🏻‍♀️
But maybe you should ask yourself why?

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Because it helps people. Why should helping people be a bad thing? A mature person would be grateful, not take offence.

MysteriousMank · 18/08/2025 12:26

ThatBlackCat · 18/08/2025 09:07

It's still there in the emoji list at the bottom right underneath the text box. You just posted it yourself.

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I am, of course, referring to the laughing emoji as an option to react to a post which was controversially removed by MN earlier this year. How odd of you to think I was referring to the same emoji I used at the end of the same sentence.

R0setheHat · 18/08/2025 12:28

BeltaLodaLife · 18/08/2025 12:03

Who in earth said they were uneducated? There isn’t a comment on here telling that poster she was uneducated. But she was using the entirely wrong word for what she was talking about, and everyone else knew it. Just not her. Leaving someone ignorant when everyone else is looking at it thinking, “um…” is just mean. She should be aware of it, so it doesn’t happen again.

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snowmichael · Today 11:35
It astonishes me whenever I find people who would prefer to remain uneducated rather than be corrected

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Can you see how they’re the same word? Ugh people who lack basic reading and comprehension skills drives me mad… or perhaps a blind spot on your part like so many normal people have

snowmichael · 18/08/2025 12:29

Itsbetterbythebeach · 18/08/2025 04:11

Purchased a house from an old couple in their 80s who had lived there for 45 years. They were moving somewhere smaller and were struggling to get all their stuff sorted and packed before the completion date. As we weren’t moving in straight away (the house needed quite a bit of work done on it 1st) we said no problem you can leave some of your stuff there for a few days while you get sorted. 4 weeks later the house is still full of their stuff and the builders are about to start so we move it all into the garage, tell them it’s in there and change the locks. Next day got a call from the builders. They arrived to start work to find the previous owners in the house. Apparently the new place that they had moved to didn’t have a dishwasher so every day they had been loading their dirty plates in the car & driving them over to put them in the dishwasher at the house they had sold to us.That morning when they arrived they couldn’t get in as the locks had been changed so they jimmied a window and were found by the builders in the kitchen drinking a cup of tea while they waited for the dishwasher to finish. First job I gave the builders was to gut the kitchen.

You're a far better person than I am - I would have called the police and had them charged with breaking and entering

gamerchick · 18/08/2025 12:30

MysteriousMank · 18/08/2025 12:26

I am, of course, referring to the laughing emoji as an option to react to a post which was controversially removed by MN earlier this year. How odd of you to think I was referring to the same emoji I used at the end of the same sentence.

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It wasn't controversially removed though. It was being used to abuse vulnerable people. Silent bullying is sometimes worse than in your face. If people are going to use it to laugh at people in pain then it needed to be taken away. People really need to get over it. It's not coming back.

SerafinasGoose · 18/08/2025 12:30

Spidey66 · 15/08/2025 15:29

We’re in the US ATM . We flew London to Seattle so a long flight. We paid extra for premium economy seats, and got good seats.

just before take off, our (front) row were approached by a mother with a new baby (looked like only 3-4 months or so) asking for someone to swap because she had a baby. To cut a long story short, she didn’t get it and stormed off in a huff. Turned out she was actually in economy and wanted a premium seat without premium cost and was wanting one of us to pay premium price and sit in economy! Isn’t that the height of entitlement!!! She thought we should bow down to the fact she had a baby!

I love hearing stories of entitlement. Tell me yours.

Really glad she was told 'no'. If this became the default response then the CFs would stop asking.

Those namby pamby who respond 'its nice to be nice' and willingly give their paid-for service to others for free are not being 'nice' at all. They're making a nuisance out of already over-entitled people and a rod for everyone else's backs.

EmShire · 18/08/2025 12:31

Another one a friend told me. He travelled to a few hours to visit someone in their hometown, and his friend gave him a bit of card to get stamped which would go towards a free coffee for the guy in question. My friend initially thought he was giving him it so he could get a discount, which would be very generous, and then realised it was a self serving move.

ThatBlackCat · 18/08/2025 12:34

MysteriousMank · 18/08/2025 12:26

I am, of course, referring to the laughing emoji as an option to react to a post which was controversially removed by MN earlier this year. How odd of you to think I was referring to the same emoji I used at the end of the same sentence.

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Thankfully it was removed because people only used it to mock. We warned Mumsnet that this would happen and it never should have been given an option. Thankfully it's gone. I just wish Facebook would stop allowing it to be used to mock posts too.

WearyAuldWumman · 18/08/2025 12:35

KimberleyClark · 18/08/2025 07:38

I often find with men in the gym they use the machine then go on their phone for 20 mins while still sitting on the machine so nope else can use it. Then they get back on the machine.

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Even better is when they waste time taking selfies...

Arlanymor · 18/08/2025 12:35

Americano75 · 18/08/2025 12:00

Please tell me it was you with the weedkiller? I'm howling!

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You beat me to it, I was going to say: "I hope you paid cash for the weedkiller so it was untraceable in terms of your bank account!" I watch too many true crime documentaries don't I?!

mablismum · 18/08/2025 12:36

My ex-best friend was an incredible CF and in those days I was a total doormat so let her get away with a lot of entitled behaviour. I had to be away with work for a week and her car was in the garage so I (kindly, I thought) offered her the use of mine while I was away. I thought she’d be pleased but when I told her when I’d need it back, she threw an almighty strop saying she’d planned to go away that weekend and that if I insisted on having my car back then, there was no point in her borrowing it at all. Looking back, I can’t believe it did, it but I just gave in and let her keep the car for the weekend, and did without until she came back from her trip. On another occasion I let her stay in my spare room while she was looking for somewhere to live. She left the place in a tip and regularly came in pissed in the early hours. One night I had enough and got up to ask her to stop making so much noise (it was about 3am on a work night). The next morning she was livid, said she’d “never been spoken to like that in her life” and stormed off, expecting me to apologise to her!
We no longer speak - I finally saw the light after another storming out episode and stopped being such a pushover!

snowmichael · 18/08/2025 12:37

workingitout1234 · 18/08/2025 07:25

The front row seats have a bassinet whereas the rest of the rows don’t which is why she asked. She would have had to have baby on her lap the whole way, which can be very hot and difficult as nowhere to put the baby
I’ve had to be that mother and ask to move when flying alone before but the air hostesses arranged it for me and a gentleman was happy to move as he was cold on the front rows. This was off the back of my flight being cancelled last minute hence not arranging a seat with bassinet

If you need a bulkhead seat with a bassinet, book and pay for one

BlankBlankBlank14 · 18/08/2025 12:38

snowmichael · 18/08/2025 12:23

Pedants Anonymous, as an organisation, would obviously correctly capitalise proper nouns

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And finish their sentences with full stops!

Francestein · 18/08/2025 12:39

I had an older (but fit-looking) couple yell at me for parking in a disabled bay today. I pulled the top of my shirt down and showed them the still-healing scars from my heart surgery and told them that they are not the carpark police and harassing disabled people is a crime. I offered to call the actual police to prove it, but they weren’t keen.

Arlanymor · 18/08/2025 12:39

NeedMoreTinfoil · 18/08/2025 12:04

I have had a lot of similar experiences with air and train seat idiots.

My favourite train seat experience is getting on a train at London KX, finding my seat and sitting down, nice and early. I had reserved a seat as it is mandatory for the online advance purchase I made.

A youngish guy gets on my (almost empty, hardly any reserved seats) carriage, comes up to me and tells me "Move. You're in my seat". Very terse and very rude.

I'm , "Um. no, I'm in my reserved seat What seat number is on your ticket?" trying to defuse his stroppy attitude.

He refuses to answer, demands again that I move and when I refuse insists I show him my ticket. I decline to move or show him my ticket until he at the very least checks his own ticket.

He rants and raves a bit more, looming over me, and the train guard arrives and asks what is going on. Guard insists he shows his ticket and of course Captain Numpty has a seat reserved elsewhere, in fact just across the aisle from me. He grudgingly sits in it, no apology whatsoever for his aggression and rudeness.

Train starts to fill up and I overhear Gobby ask another passenger does the train go to a certain town. Reassured by the yes answer, Gobby goes to sleep.

Of course we get to his destination and Gobby is still in dreamland. I guess the poor dear wore himself out with all the unnecessary yelling earlier. I wait until the train is gently pulling out of the station to deposit my empty coffee cup in the bin behind Gobby's seat with a loud clang. Perfect timing for Gobby to open his eyes and see the platform signs receding into the distance. He gets rather agitated when he finds out he has a good hour delay now he has to get a train back from the next stop. I of course was all innocent face but dying of laughter inside.

And people don't believe in karma!! That's brilliant, made me laugh out loud. Hope he paid for the extra leg of his journey too!

MysteriousMank · 18/08/2025 12:41

snowmichael · 18/08/2025 11:16

There are two sorts of people in the world, those who can extrapolate from partial information.

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Brilliant!

Spookygoose · 18/08/2025 12:43

R0setheHat · 18/08/2025 12:28

snowmichael · Today 11:35
It astonishes me whenever I find people who would prefer to remain uneducated rather than be corrected

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Can you see how they’re the same word? Ugh people who lack basic reading and comprehension skills drives me mad… or perhaps a blind spot on your part like so many normal people have

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Urrgghh, Ppl who kerect other ppl’s gramer and speling just come off luking like snobs wif a superior atitoode. They cud be dyslexic, cud b a typo, cud jus like speling it like that. Who cares? It’s nun of yer business. Reminds me of a thread where a woman described in detail her horrific experience of domestic violence, including being repeatedly kicked in the head by her husband and the first reply said “It’s “brought”, not “bought”. You didn’t buy it, you brought it” 😮

DeadMemories · 18/08/2025 12:43

Arlanymor · 18/08/2025 12:35

You beat me to it, I was going to say: "I hope you paid cash for the weedkiller so it was untraceable in terms of your bank account!" I watch too many true crime documentaries don't I?!

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I was going to ask what brand she used, I need some for some stubborn grass that keeps growing up the fence

Arlanymor · 18/08/2025 12:46

DeadMemories · 18/08/2025 12:43

I was going to ask what brand she used, I need some for some stubborn grass that keeps growing up the fence

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😂That's your story and you're sticking to it right?!

Arraminta · 18/08/2025 12:46

Paid ££££££ to stay in a farmhouse in the South of France. We'd paid extra to have it cleaned and beds changed half way through the holiday. Owner dutifully arrived with clean bedding but expected me to help with everything, including cleaning the bathrooms. When I politely declined she huffily replied 'I'm not the maid, you know'.

She then proceeded to angrily and loudly Hoover and clean. She slammed every door she could, too.

WearyAuldWumman · 18/08/2025 12:46

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 18/08/2025 09:50

Bought a flat that was in a dire state generally, and suspected that the owner (who we’d heard was planning to return to his own country right after the sale) would leave all sorts of junk for us to get rid of.

So I told the agent that I’d be checking, and would not allow completion unless the place was cleared completely.

Arrnaged to meet the agent to check a couple of hours before the time. Sure enough, masses of all sort of crap and rubbish, including a manky old sofa.
So I said completion would be delayed until he’d cleared it completely - I certainly wasn’t prepared to pay anyone to take it all away,

Apparently he threw a right royal wobbly, but did get it cleared - except for some food festering in the filthy old oven, but that was going in a skip anyway.

He had also left about £20k worth of unpaid bills! - utilities and all sorts. It was fun and games dealing with all the creditors, threats of bailiffs, etc.

When I sold a house last year, the email from the buyer's side stipulated that everything had to be cleared from the house, including the loft and sheds. I'd never previously heard of that needing to be stated - now I know why!

When I finally managed to get into the loft of this house, I found a section of surplus living room carpet and a venetian blind. Fair enough - someone probably just left that in case it was needed by the next owner.

DeadMemories · 18/08/2025 12:47

Arlanymor · 18/08/2025 12:46

😂That's your story and you're sticking to it right?!

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Hell yes 😂

MsMimi87 · 18/08/2025 12:47

When i was early 20s started uni and met a few nice people on the course. One of the women and I became friendly, not like best mates but a few drinks lunches, kept each other a seat etc. Then she told me she was engaged, and would I be her bridesmaid! I was taken aback but I knew she didn't have many, if any, friends, and I threw myself into supporting her. She had me traipsing across London to different wedding dress shops, spending all day there with her trying on dresses, I treated her to lunch after as a nice gesture, she said the wedding was in 6 months, had a date and venue etc and told me to pick a dress that i would wear again she didn't mind what I wore. I organised a little hen do with some other women from the course when she said she wasn't planning in doing one, again my own expense all the hen do bits etc and organised it for the end of the uni term before the others would be heading off to home towns etc, she was pleased. So anyway wedding is around 3 months away at this point and I go onto Facebook and shes GOT MARRIED!!! Posting pics of her wedding which took place in her local town hall.
I get that its their wedding can do what they like but how long had that actual wedding been the plan and im running around doing all bridesmaid duties and I didn't even get a text to say sorry were just getting married next week with just the family!

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