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Spidey66 · 2025-08-15T14:29:51+00:00

We’re in the US ATM . We flew London to Seattle so a long flight. We paid extra for premium economy seats, and got good seats. just before take off, our (front) row were approached by a mother with a new baby (looked like only 3-4 months or so) asking for someone to swap because she had a baby. To cut a long story short, she didn’t get it and stormed off in a huff. Turned out she was actually in economy and wanted a premium seat without premium cost and was wanting one of us to pay premium price and sit in economy! Isn’t that the height of entitlement!!! She thought we should bow down to the fact she had a baby! I love hearing stories of entitlement. Tell me yours.

sueelleker · 18/08/2025 09:28

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 18/08/2025 07:03

Jaw dropping!

Was she expecting you to fund yourself to trail around after her??

She sounds none too bright!

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This reminds me of an old story where a family were going on holiday. They wanted their nanny to come with them to continue looking after the children, but expected her to pay for herself as "it was a holiday for her".
SlightlySeethrough; I hope the woman by the pool went out to meet her coach. We were on holiday in Majorca, and waiting in reception for our coach to the airport. A family came barrelling out; screaming because the driver of their coach didn't come to find them where they were sitting by the pool.

Sahara123 · 18/08/2025 09:29

Firenzo · 18/08/2025 09:09

Cue loads of negative comments towards her.

I think you’ll find that ‘queue’ is how it should be spelt 😉

But yes, what a cow, well played!

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Unless there’s a joke here I’m missing it’s definitely cue !

Robin67 · 18/08/2025 09:31

RoseAndGeranium · 18/08/2025 07:45

My SiL visited our nearby city to see an old friend of hers, plus us, with her husband and DC. The old friend was happy to put them up for a night and (without consulting me) DH offered to pay for them to stay one night in a hotel in the city, and one night with us. At the time, I was eight months into a pregnancy with some complications and looking after our toddler. Our shower room was half way through a refurb, which we had paused for lack of funds after finding some underlying structural issues, so we had only one bathroom so I asked DH if maybe SiL (who is much better off financially than us) if could get another night at the hotel. He called the hotel and they had space but SiL was adamant that she wanted to stay with us. Reluctantly I agreed as it was soon after covid so we had missed visiting them the previous Christmas because of lockdown and apparently she was still upset about that. A week before they were due to stay I caught an awful cold from my toddler that turned into a serious chest infection. I’m asthmatic and was finding it so hard to breathe I had to sleep sitting up. The day before they were due to stay I went to the GP who took by blood oxygen level and sent me to hospital. I was discharged, with advice that I really, really needed to rest, the following day, which was the day of SiL’s family stay at the hotel, and the day before she was meant to stay with us. Knackered, worried about the baby, still struggling to breathe, and back in charge of the toddler, I begged DH to see if the hotel could take SiL’s family for another night. They could. He reluctantly booked the room for a second night and we paid for it ourselves. He called her and she was really angry and told him I was ‘creating a rift’ between him and his family. The next day they visited us. I made a lovely fresh lunch (sitting down, wheezing) and did my best to socialise with them. She managed to go the entire day without asking me a single question about anything at all, let alone how I (heavily pregnant and clearly still unwell) was feeling. When I eventually went to lie down she let her 10 and 8 year olds run around upstairs outside the bedroom screaming and even come into the room to ask me why I was lying down. SiL insisted my husband go back to the hotel for dinner with them, leaving me to manage bath and bed alone with our toddler, despite still finding it hard to breathe, and she spent the evening sulkily telling him how upsetting it was to have to stay at the (very nice) hotel (that we had paid for).
I actually don’t think I’ll ever forgive her.

What does your husband say about all this. I hope he put her back in her place

LoyalMember · 18/08/2025 09:33

I sat on a stool at the bar in my old local. A woman, who usually sat in the same seat, walked in with her husband, and she stood waiting for me to leave, then paced up and down behind me until I'd finished my drink. It was so weird and unsettling. She didn't own the stool, ffs.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 18/08/2025 09:35

WickedWitchOfTheEast87 · 17/08/2025 19:25

@Phoebesparrow omg that is absolutely fucking cheeky my jaw is still on the floor! 😯

My entitled CF was also over a pre-booked seat on a train. I was going to visit one of my sisters and it was a 5 hour journey. I can't stand on trains because I have arthritis in my ankles so I always pay to reserve a seat on a table with a plug socket and it didn't cost much at this time only a few pounds extra. I get on the train and there is someone sitting in my seat with their phone charging.

I politely said to him "excuse me but you're sitting in my seat" he replied calmly "those seats are free you can sit there" whilst pointing at the seats opposite that had no plug socket. My cheeky fucker alarm bells started going so I replied firmly "I paid to book that seat and I will be sitting in it. Now please move or I'll get a member staff to move you" CF huffed then got up and moved his stuff but left his phone charging which got my back up even more so when I sat down and unpacked my stuff I unplugged it and plugged mine in CF rudely told me "I need to charge my phone" his rudeness, entitlement and utter cheek made me snap so I rudely replied "well you should have booked a seat with a charger like I did you rude dickhead" he looked shocked at my reponse but I didn't care had he moved right away and asked nicely I would have let him charge his phone but I refuse to reward entitled cheeky fucker behaviour.

Another one was in the supermarket it was so busy and I'd cued for 15 mins and was next whe this lady with one item walks to the front and puts her item in front of my shopping . I politely said there was a cue and she replied that it was ok its one item. I know I could have let it go but her tone and the entitlement pissed me off so I told her no she isn't cutting in front of me. She then turns to the cashier and tells her to just scan her item so I said to the cashier if she allows this lady to cut the cue I'll be speaking to the manager, cashier then called the manager and the lady was arguing that its one item she's in a rush. At which point I said to the manager that myself and all the others behind have cued up why should she be allowed to cut and the other customers agreed so the manager told her to get in the cue like everyone else. She was furious but cued and spent the whole time giving me daggers but I didn't care I hate cue jumpers their entitlement annoys me.

Of course she should have asked, but TBH if there’s someone right behind me in the queue with only one or two items, when I’ve got a lot, I will always offer to let them go first.

Yetuhayamatunda · 18/08/2025 09:36

Firenzo · 18/08/2025 09:09

Cue loads of negative comments towards her.

I think you’ll find that ‘queue’ is how it should be spelt 😉

But yes, what a cow, well played!

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Cue is correct in this instance.

Cue is signal to do something whereas queue is a line of people waiting their turn. I am not a native English speaker so don’t have a better definition than this but I am sure the Oxford dictionary would agree.😁

ClairDeLaLune · 18/08/2025 09:38

Carlou · 18/08/2025 08:46

I work in a hospital. The amount of people who come in as inpatients for something minor and then sadly lose the use of their arms, legs (and manners!) is overwhelming. A young fit woman whose tray was directly in front of her with a drink on it waved me down urgently to ask can you get me a drink? I told her where to get her own cup of coffee and she started in about me not doing my job! ...she got up to the loo and applied her make up before the Dr's round with no troubles and the bathroom was further then the kitchenette! Another one is when a patient's family member feels that nurses should be at THEIR beck and call just because their family member is in hospital....can you get me a sandwich? Can you make me a coffee? Can you let little Johnny run around in the nurse's station so I can get a bit of peace and quiet..... Oh and the oldie but goodie... making snide comments about nurses only watching their netflicks on the computers instead of making cups of tea for everyone... (most blood results, referrals to various places like social workers, physio's etc, and general nursing notes are online these days..so we NOT playing on our computers - we are working). Oh and the druggy who flung open the curtains whilst I was doing CPR on a real person in a real emergency to announce he was fed up waiting for his next lot of meds. Oblivious to the fact that someone was dying and we were trying to save them!

Crikey @Carlou that sounds like a nightmare, the absolute brass neck of some people.

Reminds me of recently I took my mum to visit her old friend in hospital, I knew there was going to be an extremely long boring repetitive conversation so I said I’d go and get coffees from the café at the other end of the hospital and was planning to take my time. Unfortunately a nurse overheard me and said “oh I’ll make you coffees” Grateful but not grateful! Nurses, stick to your job!!

Overtheway · 18/08/2025 09:43

krustykittens · 17/08/2025 18:36

I used to volunteer at the Bath Kid's Lit Festival and one year we moved a child who was deaf down to a front row so he could more easily lip read. We did this sort of thing all the time for children who might have difficulty, for whatever reason, following what was happening on stage. Cue a very entitled mummy who saw us moving him and his mother, who charged down the aisle asking why, in a very loud voice, they were getting preferential treatment? I explained but it didn't stop her. "If HE gets moved to the front, then so should we!" Her voice was getting louder and she was doing a lot of arm waving and pointing in their direction, so you know, very obvious, even if you are deaf, that she had a problem with you. Having done back to back shows in the heat and been up all night with my own sick child, I really had enough of her.
"Does you child have a disability we should be aware of?"
"No."
"Then go back to your seat and be grateful."
Amazingly, she did, didn't even threaten to report me to someone, but I was furious to turn around and see the boy in tears with his mother and another volunteer trying to comfort him. Apparently, this stuff happened to them all the time because the child wasn't obviously disabled and it was really beginning to get to him when they were out in public. He was eight.

I HATED volunteering at the Lit Fest and gave it up soon after.

Whilst you sound lovely and moving the child to where he could lip read more easily was the right thing to do, please don't tell anyone to be grateful their child isn't Deaf (especially in front a Deaf child and their parent).

My son is Deaf and we work so hard to make sure he doesn't see his disability as a negative. It's part of who he is and not a reason to pity him.

Firenzo · 18/08/2025 09:43

Yetuhayamatunda · 18/08/2025 09:36

Cue is correct in this instance.

Cue is signal to do something whereas queue is a line of people waiting their turn. I am not a native English speaker so don’t have a better definition than this but I am sure the Oxford dictionary would agree.😁

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Ah sorry it was a joke. Clearly not a good one!

CoffeenWalnut · 18/08/2025 09:45

Firenzo · 18/08/2025 09:43

Ah sorry it was a joke. Clearly not a good one!

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I realise that, but obviously not everyone does.

ClairDeLaLune · 18/08/2025 09:48

Firenzo · 18/08/2025 09:09

Cue loads of negative comments towards her.

I think you’ll find that ‘queue’ is how it should be spelt 😉

But yes, what a cow, well played!

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There’s a page on Facebook for people incorrectly correcting other people - you should join it!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 18/08/2025 09:50

Bought a flat that was in a dire state generally, and suspected that the owner (who we’d heard was planning to return to his own country right after the sale) would leave all sorts of junk for us to get rid of.

So I told the agent that I’d be checking, and would not allow completion unless the place was cleared completely.

Arrnaged to meet the agent to check a couple of hours before the time. Sure enough, masses of all sort of crap and rubbish, including a manky old sofa.
So I said completion would be delayed until he’d cleared it completely - I certainly wasn’t prepared to pay anyone to take it all away,

Apparently he threw a right royal wobbly, but did get it cleared - except for some food festering in the filthy old oven, but that was going in a skip anyway.

He had also left about £20k worth of unpaid bills! - utilities and all sorts. It was fun and games dealing with all the creditors, threats of bailiffs, etc.

eyeses · 18/08/2025 09:56

KimberleyClark · 18/08/2025 07:38

I often find with men in the gym they use the machine then go on their phone for 20 mins while still sitting on the machine so nope else can use it. Then they get back on the machine.

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To be fair I often find that women will do the same but the other way around - look at their phone for 20 minutes then start to actually excercise when they see people hovering or looking.
It' amazing how many people think the machines are just for sitting on and the benches are tables for their drink bottles.

Darkdiamond · 18/08/2025 09:58

ThatBlackCat · 18/08/2025 07:50

Well that's you being ungrateful. If I messed up I would be grateful someone decided to do me a favour and help me out. So thankfully we're not all like you with a stick up about taking an insult instead of just being grateful. There are two choices; you can be childish and take offence, or you can be a grown up and grateful and thank the person for caring enough to stop you continuing to make an error. Luckily I and others are the latter.

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Here is some free advice. It is considered rude to correct someone's grammar, whether you think you are imparting a gift or not. It isnt your call to make. It isn't a polite thing to do and it isn't caring. It is very condescending and potentially embarrassing for the person. The priority in society is to make people feel comfortable, where possible. Correcting another adult's grammar is overstepping your mark and is seen as a rude thing to do. Maybe you didn't know, but hopefully now you will, so you can save yourself the embarrassment of breaking these social norms when you are out in public.

You're welcome!

Rallentanda · 18/08/2025 10:01

Neighbour went on holiday during the heatwave a couple of years ago. Pushed a note through my door before leaving. "It would be great if you could keep the garden alive while we're gone." Not a request, more of an obligation.

As it happened I was going away - which she'd have known if she'd chatted to me about this - and had no intention of sorting this out for her. (It parched a bit then rained before she got back so nothing looked like it had died.)

Firenzo · 18/08/2025 10:03

ClairDeLaLune · 18/08/2025 09:48

There’s a page on Facebook for people incorrectly correcting other people - you should join it!

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Que?

(I’m being a knob aren’t I, my twisted unfunny sense of humour!)

jumpingthehighjump · 18/08/2025 10:04

Darkdiamond · 18/08/2025 09:58

Here is some free advice. It is considered rude to correct someone's grammar, whether you think you are imparting a gift or not. It isnt your call to make. It isn't a polite thing to do and it isn't caring. It is very condescending and potentially embarrassing for the person. The priority in society is to make people feel comfortable, where possible. Correcting another adult's grammar is overstepping your mark and is seen as a rude thing to do. Maybe you didn't know, but hopefully now you will, so you can save yourself the embarrassment of breaking these social norms when you are out in public.

You're welcome!

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I feel you should end up your correct post about correcting someone's spelling with...

Thank you for your attention to this matter!
(just like Trump does 🤣)

DancingInTheMoonlights · 18/08/2025 10:06

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 17/08/2025 17:10

My SiL experienced a real CF after her mother died. A general invitation went round the family, asking them to take anything they might like before the house was cleared.

The wife of a grandson of the dead woman, so no blood relation, swooped straight in and helped herself to all the jewellery!

I’m pleased to say that they made her give it all back.

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I feel like I need to more detail on this! Absolute madness!! What did they say to her?! What did she say?! Unbelievable CFness

eyeses · 18/08/2025 10:08

SardinesOnGingerbread · 18/08/2025 09:07

I don't want to derail this most excellent and enjoyable thread, but just to say how much I wish we'd stop using the word 'Nazi' to indicate irritating behaviour. There are many cultures (my own included) and people whose familial experience of Nazis was not a little questionable grammatical correction. Please, as you were. Let the fuckery continue!

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I just wanted to second this.

Fimofriend · 18/08/2025 10:10

Graphinette · 18/08/2025 06:45

My step son was living way beyond his means and had married a woman who refused to work.

He asked if he could barrow 10k (that we had set aside for new windows) as he wanted to start his own business. I felt I had no choice but to agree as he is my DH's son. He only wanted it for two years and we weren't ready to buy the windows yet anyway as we needed to save a further £3,800.

After 4.5 years of no money back, no starting his own business but him immediately going on holiday and buying a BMW (which he then chopped in for a merc), DH asked for it back but nicely.

We received a letter (all in capital letters) saying no, he had no intention of paying it back, doing so would bring him and his wife 'genuine hardship' (in their new off the plans three bed detached) and we were dumped from their lives.

I called him, tried to reason with him and when that was futile, told him I would take him to court with his letter to us as 'exhibit A', and the money appeared in my account within the week.

On their exit from our lives, he managed to persuade his sister (Dh's daughter) and DH's sister to dump us all too so we had to quickly change our wills as we had left everything to all the people who had cut us out.

That was on expensive loan in every sense of the word.

We've heard nothing in the last 9 years. Just the occasional meme on Facebook about toxic fathers and shizz like that.

So glad I found out what they were like though. That is an upside.

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Ah yes, one of my SILs ( the one who is a CF.) has cut off her parents (my PILs). She cannot explain why. In my country you can't completely remove your children from the will and my PILs didn't want to treat their three children differently in the will because they don't want to cause problems between the siblings.

However, you can jump a generation for a part of the estate. Both my DH and the other SIL said that they were fine with some of the money going directly to the next generation so that is what is in the will. CF SIL doesn't know so she'll get a little surprise.

She is the one I have mentioned in an earlier thread who moved into a new house and then a couple of months later borrowed the neighbours caravan AND CAR for the summer vacation. What I assume happened was she and her DH wanted to borrow the caravan. The neighbours then said "but your car is too small to pull it" ( in an attempt of avoiding to lend it to them) and then SIL said that they could just switch cars for the duration of their vacation. I guess their neighbours could not come up with a good reply to that so they had to make do with a tiny car for two weeks.

She is also the one who tried to use some mutual friends' summer party as a sales party, undoubtedly hoping that she would get the hostess "present" herself. She had just told the hosts that they ( her and her DH) would bring a friend. Told, not asked. Luckily, her DH accidentally spilled the beans before the party when he requested a big table to be available for the products, causing the hosts to "uninvite" the seller. If you can call it that when the seller wasn't invited in the first place

snowmichael · 18/08/2025 10:10

Arlanymor · 17/08/2025 16:13

My ex-husband - who cheated, causing me to divorce him - emailing me out of the blue, to my WORK email (in a job that I wasn't doing when I knew him, so he looked me up online), asking me to confirm the date of our wedding and the date of our decree absolute so that he could fill in a form for security clearance. We divorced in 2007, this email arrived in my inbox earlier this year. The thread is on here somewhere. Stupid entitled toilet goblin.

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Depending how much bad blood there is between you, you could give him a reply like "To the best of my recall it's <give wrong dates>, but I've tried to erase you from my memory"
Then he will probably fail in getting his security clearance when they check, and find he's given incorrect information

AnonymousBleep · 18/08/2025 10:10

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 17/08/2025 17:17

People that do this on budget airline flights because they won't pay the fee to sit next to their own children then complain when others won't move for them drive me mad. Ryanair et al should INSIST that anyone flying with a child under 12 MUST pay to seat the child next to one of the adults in the party.

I know they have a policy of deliberately splitting up people on one booking who opt not to pay the fee to book seats together. My husband and I never do, because it's always a short flight and we rarely fly at peak times, so we almost always manage to sit together once boarding is complete. And if we can't, well it's only an hour or two at most for us, so it's no biggie. But for people with children it's really not on to go up and down the plane pressuring other people to move. They may have chosen their seat for a reason and paid extra to do so.

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I don't think they actually do have that policy - I never pay extra for seats together for myself and my two teens (now aged 14 and 16) when we travel (because none of us cares where we sit, they just plug themselves into headphones for the whole flight anyway) and we've never once been split up, not in the last 4 years of going away together at least once a year. Isn't it just that if you check in early enough, you're more likely to get seats together?

Sorry if this is derailing the thread!

Cravey · 18/08/2025 10:10

My sister in law, informed us a couple of weeks ago that she and nephew would be coming for Xmas. Along with his new girlfriend ( who nobody has met ) and her 3 children. When told no, she asked dh to contribute to an air bnb for them, again a hard no. Then proceeded to cry that she wouldn’t come this year. I’ve told dh that’s her bed gone then. No matter what. Worse of all I spoke to nephew and he knew nothing about it. He has in fact told his mum he would be staying with girlfriend this year. I’m pretty sure that’s why she thought it would be nicer for her to bring them all with her.

snowmichael · 18/08/2025 10:11

MidnightPatrol · 17/08/2025 16:18

My mum offered to loan me the money to pay for my university fees / loan, but at 1% below the government interest rate.

The logic was that this was a better interest rate on her savings at the time. Presented as doing me a massive favour.

Thanks mum. I should have taken it and paid it off over a full 40 year term to be petty.

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That does appear to be a win-win for both of you

Anguauberwaldironfoundersson · 18/08/2025 10:12

The father who turned up with his twin 3 year olds to my daughter’s 3rd birthday party at the local softplay and asked me “what time shall I come back and collect them?” He really wasn’t happy when I told him that this wasn’t a drop and go party. He’d never met me or my husband before!

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