Tell me your stories of entitlement

[Spidey66]

We’re in the US ATM . We flew London to Seattle so a long flight. We paid extra for premium economy seats, and got good seats.

just before take off, our (front) row were approached by a mother with a new baby (looked like only 3-4 months or so) asking for someone to swap because she had a baby. To cut a long story short, she didn’t get it and stormed off in a huff. Turned out she was actually in economy and wanted a premium seat without premium cost and was wanting one of us to pay premium price and sit in economy! Isn’t that the height of entitlement!!! She thought we should bow down to the fact she had a baby!

I love hearing stories of entitlement. Tell me yours.

Purchased a house from an old couple in their 80s who had lived there for 45 years. They were moving somewhere smaller and were struggling to get all their stuff sorted and packed before the completion date. As we weren’t moving in straight away (the house needed quite a bit of work done on it 1st) we said no problem you can leave some of your stuff there for a few days while you get sorted. 4 weeks later the house is still full of their stuff and the builders are about to start so we move it all into the garage, tell them it’s in there and change the locks. Next day got a call from the builders. They arrived to start work to find the previous owners in the house. Apparently the new place that they had moved to didn’t have a dishwasher so every day they had been loading their dirty plates in the car & driving them over to put them in the dishwasher at the house they had sold to us.That morning when they arrived they couldn’t get in as the locks had been changed so they jimmied a window and were found by the builders in the kitchen drinking a cup of tea while they waited for the dishwasher to finish. First job I gave the builders was to gut the kitchen.

I thought that - yes it might be better to rinse out a dog bowl under an outside tap but I'd probably not think to ask if there was one.

What's the harm, it's a dog bowl, people are washing their hands after having touched their genitals, they're washing actual piss and shit traces off ... a bit of dog lick and gravy is hardly worse!

I just realised there was also a time where me and DP were inadvertently CF’ers.

We used to meet a friend once a week at the pub whilst he played darts and the pub always had a buffet on that we assumed was just a Tuesday tradition, we are both ND and just didn’t think to link it to the darts.

We never ate much - usually just a couple of triangles of sandwiches and some crisps, maybe a little cake to share.

We carried on going to the pub after my friend stopped playing darts and still happily had a little bit of the buffet, it wasn’t till someone told us to our face how cheeky we were that we realised the food was just for the darts players 🤦🏼‍♀️.

They didn’t mind when our friend was playing but seemed to assume we carried on going for the food, it was actually just somewhere local we felt comfortable.

Hopefully we made up for it, after my mums funeral we dropped off the food left over from the wake (refrigerated and stored properly) and I regularly baked cakes for the team every week after that.

We were mortified but the pub owners knew us well enough to know that it wasn’t intentional. The funny thing was that we’d have happily eaten nothing but didn’t want to offend whoever had put on the spread!

Autism is a minefield and it’s often things like this that set you apart from other people when you have a completely different mindset.

I was childminding a 9 month old, a 1 year old and a 3 year old. One day, I was picking up my own 4 and 5 year old's from school and a Dad asked if I wouldn't mind having his own 4 year old for an hour.

I didn't know this Dad or the child that well but thought it would be nice for my youngest to have his little friend over.

Anyway, that one hour, turned into three hours!!! I'd called the Dad multiple times and got no response. After calling the Mum multiple times too, she was very apologetic and sent over her teenager to collect the little one.

The worst part of it was that this one child was harder work than all 5 of the other children put together. I got a constant barrage of questions and the child just would not leave me alone for 5 minutes when I was trying to cook and get the children fed, change nappies etc

All of my little mindees had gone home and I was trying to start my own kids' bedtime routine with this kid hanging on my coat tails the whole time. I was absolutely furious as I'd been working all day and this child was utterly exhausting.

I think the Dad thought 'well, she's got 5 kids already, 1 more won't hurt!' He never offered to pay me either, knowing that it's what I did for a living!

I later discovered that this Dad would do whatever it took to palm his child off on anyone at every given opportunity. I never looked after her again. He was most put out when he tried to get my husband to watch her at the park one day and my husband said no (having heard what had happened to me!) My husband said that the Dad was really taken aback at his response and called him rude for not agreeing to take his child.

The same Dad then started bringing his dog on the school run. He would let the dog off on one of those extending leads. That dog just seemed to hate kids. It would aggressively run up to kids and bark at them. He'd leave it tied up outside the school gate where it would run at and bark at the kids as they entered the playground. The Dad was oblivious to it and never kept control of the thing.

Every time we saw it, it would come running up to my son on the fully extended lead and bark at him. Up until this point, my son loved dogs and we'd taught him never to touch dogs without asking first. However, due to this particular dog's behaviour, both my son and his other friend developed a fear of dogs. The dog escaped their garden numerous times and eventually got run over.

The family got another dog. My son was about 10 when he went to the local park and bumped into this Dad (with the new dog) and his child. My son began playing with the child on the play equipment while the Dad walked off over to the other side of the park chatting on his phone (as he often did). Dogs weren't supposed to be allowed in the park (even on lead) but the Dad let it off the lead and it came running up to my son and jumped up at him.

My son shit himself because of the behaviour of this man's previous dog so he ran home absolutely petrified. I don't think that I've seen my son so panicked ever. It has taken many years of work with other dogs to help him to overcome this fear of dogs.

I was furious and I think that it was years of pent up anger over this man's behaviour. I rang the Dad up and said "Keep your fucking dog away from my son!" My husband said I was so loud on the phone that he could hear me from the back garden.

The cheeky fucker turned it around on my son and complained that my son had left his child alone in the park (the Dad was there, just over the other side but still in sight of his child).

I went even more mental at the Dad and said that it was not my son's responsibility to take care of HIS child and reminded him that the whole reason my son left the park was because HIS dog scared the shit out of my son and my son had only developed a fear of dogs because of this man's first dog!!!

His response was very typical of this type of dog owner who lets down their poor animals by not having control over them "My dog was just being friendly..." 🤬

Unreal at the gall of this man. We haven't spoken since!

That was so satisfying to read when you phoned him up - so glad you read him the riot act! Richly deserved. How do people like that go through life being so stupid and clueless? 😱

There's some world class cf on here. My two minor ones are-I worked at school and was helping at a production. School canteen provided tea coffee squash and biscuits but as there were a few of us who are coeliac i bought some nice gf biscuits with my own money, labelled them and put them on a separate dish. Only to catch one of the dads going oh these are much nicer and grabbing three! I politely said, those are free from. And he fucking winked and said "yeah but chocolate"
Second was from when ds was little. We'd have little birthday parties and all mates and parents would come (have a drink,chat) We had one couple who were proper weave your own lentil types, and they always just dropped and ran,fine always a welcome option. But their kids (about 3 yr old) lived on a strictly wholefood sugar free diet, so they would go to town on party food and everytime would need a poo(but needed assistance).We just used to look at each other and go "it's your turn" Parents then suggested we make the kids party food healthier because it upset their tummies.It was 3 yr olds parties in the 90s! There was healthy stuff, but they just made a beeline for the sausage rolls and fairy cakes!

I have never, ever done that with anyone else. Even if someone really upsets me I seeth for a bit and then let it go. I am usually such a peace keeper and try my best to avoid conflict.

However, seeing how terrified my child was, the Mumma Bear came out of me that day and I absolutely let rip! I didn't even say hello when he picked up the phone, I just started with the "Keep your fucking dog away from my son" line. Then, when he tried to blame my 10 year old for HIS actions, that's when I went absolutely mental at the guy!

I think my husband was pretty impressed as knowing how much I try to avoid conflict, he would usually be the one to deal with stuff like this. He didn't need to do anything that day...😁

I do feel sorry for his child, the guy just never seems to want to be around her. She's a sweet kid, just was very needy until she became a teenager. I do understand because my kids also need a lot of care and attention but I suck it up and don't palm them off on people I barely know!

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Sorry, I couldn't help it.

I remember your thread from back then. Too lazy to find out for himself and he must have had paperwork back then. Still expecting you to sort his life out.

I am beginning to really detest men.

I loved the spa thread! Did she ever bring her dd again?

But did CF attend the evening reception or not?!?

I remember that; did he work it out in the end?

My step son was living way beyond his means and had married a woman who refused to work.

He asked if he could barrow 10k (that we had set aside for new windows) as he wanted to start his own business. I felt I had no choice but to agree as he is my DH's son. He only wanted it for two years and we weren't ready to buy the windows yet anyway as we needed to save a further £3,800.

After 4.5 years of no money back, no starting his own business but him immediately going on holiday and buying a BMW (which he then chopped in for a merc), DH asked for it back but nicely.

We received a letter (all in capital letters) saying no, he had no intention of paying it back, doing so would bring him and his wife 'genuine hardship' (in their new off the plans three bed detached) and we were dumped from their lives.

I called him, tried to reason with him and when that was futile, told him I would take him to court with his letter to us as 'exhibit A', and the money appeared in my account within the week.

On their exit from our lives, he managed to persuade his sister (Dh's daughter) and DH's sister to dump us all too so we had to quickly change our wills as we had left everything to all the people who had cut us out.

That was on expensive loan in every sense of the word.

We've heard nothing in the last 9 years. Just the occasional meme on Facebook about toxic fathers and shizz like that.

So glad I found out what they were like though. That is an upside.

My BIL and his wife have been using my PILs car for about six years now as they couldn't be bothered buying their own. Too expensive, apparently. My PILs are still registered as the keepers of the car so receive several speeding and parking fines a year that they then pay instead of my BIL paying himself.

My BILs family have now outgrown the car so are planning on selling it to fund a new one 🙃

Jaw dropping!

Was she expecting you to fund yourself to trail around after her??

She sounds none too bright!

Every year for more than 15 years I organise a Christmas meal at our local pub. It is usually about 20 people or more and anyone who has done this sort of thing knows how fiddly it is. Menu choices in advance, even collecting deposits sometimes depending on who the landlord is.

I always have everyone round for nibbles and a drink before going off for the meal up the road.
One couple hadn't replied as to whether they were coming or not. I persisted two or three times asking by email but never got a reply so assumed they weren't coming. Fine.
Numbers were sorted, all menu choices given to the pub.

On the night everyone here having a drink, doorbell goes and it is this couple. I said ..."you weren't coming, I haven't given menu choices and numbers including you to the pub". She insisted she had told me, no she had not, and just came in and carried on and said she'd sort it with the pub because I had said I was not going to .
She kept going on her phone to insist she had replied to me but then said "ooops I thought I'd replied, but I haven't"

We were a minute or two behind everyone arriving up at the pub, locking up our house etc.
Of course when we had got there, everyone else had sat down and there was nowhere for me and DH to sit! CF couple was sat in the middle of everyone!
The pub were great but only could set up a card table for us at the end of the big long table with everyone on and it was a foot lower like being on the children's table!

Needless to say, it went from bad to worse when CF couple took someone's meal they'd ordered.
Total nightmare, and after 20 years nearly of doing this, I did not organise another Christmas meal despite everyone asking me to and no one else stepping in, and a couple of years it never happened at all because no one could be arsed. Hardly surprising....

A couple of mine. 35yrs ago we ran a youth group in a nearby village. Our own DC were toddlers, it was facing closure so we figured we would help to keep it going. Our own DC might benefit as they grew. Anyway, the kids were generally a nice bunch aged 10 plus. One lad became friends with our kids. He often turned up unannounced and asked to play with our lot. Usually not an issue, it was a fairly isolated village with few kids the same age as ours. He was a lovely lad.
During the summer holiday we had planned a day out with our kids. Told 'Peter' we wouldn't be home that day. He showed up at 7am, we said sorry not today, he said his mum had said we could take him too and had dropped him off. We tried ringing but she didn't answer. Neither she nor us had mobile phones in those days. I took him home, she wasn't there, he didn't have a key. It turned out she spent the day with a boyfriend as she had offloaded her son and her DH was away! We had to cancel our plans, we couldn't take Peter with us as the car wasn't big enough, apparently we should have taken our kids seats out of our car so 4 would fit on backseat. Umm...no..not happening.
Second one, we swapped council houses with a woman who on moving day hadn't packed, apparently we 'should help her as we wanted to swop' even though it was through the council, she wanted the move and had listed before we did! It was filthy with floorboards stinking of dog faeces and piss! Obviously after all agreed to move she didn't clean.

Very similar situation, invited all the kids in DS’ s class to a party and a parent got in touch to say her son was gluten intolerant and couldn’t eat dairy. Made a special section of the buffet table just for him.

Party was going well when we found the mother helping her son at the chocolate fountain. When asked about his dairy intolerance she replied We let him decide, he knows the consequences. He was 4.

I thought that too.

But it's common sense isn't though? He's a father to three children.

So what happened to Peter? Poor kid.

The front row seats have a bassinet whereas the rest of the rows don’t which is why she asked. She would have had to have baby on her lap the whole way, which can be very hot and difficult as nowhere to put the baby
I’ve had to be that mother and ask to move when flying alone before but the air hostesses arranged it for me and a gentleman was happy to move as he was cold on the front rows. This was off the back of my flight being cancelled last minute hence not arranging a seat with bassinet

He was collected at about 8 in the evening, his mum parked at the end of the road and beeped the car for him to run down! She never apologised! Peter told her we werent happy and cancelled our day, he told us the comments about taking out car seats when we saw him next. He let slip to dad a few weeks later( presumably she told him to keep schtum) it blew up! Dad left.
Peter carried on the youth group, we felt sorry for him, he really was a nice kid. We eventually moved away and lost contact. I often wondered about him.

@SnapSnapSnapSnap Did you invite her/did the relatives turn up if you didn't?

A work colleague asked me if I could help him move from one rented room to another within our town - I know what it's like trying to do things like this without a car so agreed quite happily.

When I turned up he hadn't even started packing so I had to wait around while he started (leisurely) getting his stuff together.

He was a nice guy but always a bit dopy so I think it was more that than entitlement but it was still annoying!