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Please can we clear up the your/you're confusion?

103 replies

marshmallowfinder · 12/08/2025 06:47

It does matter. They are two separate words with two completely different meanings, and it is straightforward to decide which to use.

You're is short for YOU ARE.
(So, for example, "you're looking very well.")

Your refers to belonging to, or associated with a person.
(So, for example, "your coat is in the other room.")

If you're not sure, just ask yourself if you are trying to say YOU ARE, or not!

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NellieJean · 12/08/2025 16:38

marshmallowfinder · 12/08/2025 06:47

It does matter. They are two separate words with two completely different meanings, and it is straightforward to decide which to use.

You're is short for YOU ARE.
(So, for example, "you're looking very well.")

Your refers to belonging to, or associated with a person.
(So, for example, "your coat is in the other room.")

If you're not sure, just ask yourself if you are trying to say YOU ARE, or not!

I don’t think I’ve been confused about this since I was ten.

arcticpandas · 12/08/2025 16:48

pamelanoon · 12/08/2025 15:27

Does anyone remember the "gotten" debate.

I remember some posters got so angry and insisted that it wasn't correct.

Then, other posters came on and said that it was correct.

Edited

Missed that one. Get, got, gotten was what I was taught in secondary (not an English speaking country). Has it changed since early 90's?

Zempy · 12/08/2025 16:55

You was always going to get this kind of response OP.

upinaballoon · 12/08/2025 17:08

If you welcomed me warmly to an exhibition yesterday and I was going to open that event I might have said "Thank you for your warm welcome". The welcome was of you, the same as an opinion, hair, a book etc. would be the opinion of you, the hair of you, the book of you, and so they'd be your opinion, your hair, your book et cetera.
If you had been very happy to offer me that warm welcome you might have wanted to say, "You are welcome", which could be shortened to, "You're welcome."

There might be a conversation like this:

Thank you for your warm welcome.
You're welcome.

...........................................................................................................................

Children in Britain should be taken away from their parents and put into workhouses and put to work at age 5 without any education, such is the jeering disrespect for learning.

Luluissleeping · 12/08/2025 17:45

Sorry im late to the fred, i was selling my chester draws.

Sodastreamin · 12/08/2025 17:51

Also bought and brought are two completely different words with different meanings

Port1aCastis · 12/08/2025 18:13

Some people are dyslexic so perhaps cannot grasp SPAG

softlyfallsthesnow · 12/08/2025 18:51

Port1aCastis · 12/08/2025 18:13

Some people are dyslexic so perhaps cannot grasp SPAG

What about the others?

marshmallowfinder · 12/08/2025 19:02

NellieJean · 12/08/2025 16:38

I don’t think I’ve been confused about this since I was ten.

Excellent! I wish everyone could say the same but so many adults do not have a clue, sadly.

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OliviaBonas · 12/08/2025 20:18

Thank you, hope your well 😜

whackamole666 · 12/08/2025 20:28

Thank's four the update Grin

marshmallowfinder · 13/08/2025 01:17

Are/our confusion too.

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sashh · 13/08/2025 05:20

Port1aCastis · 12/08/2025 18:13

Some people are dyslexic so perhaps cannot grasp SPAG

Spelling is a problem but not grammar.

TaborlinTheGreat · 13/08/2025 14:58

arcticpandas · 12/08/2025 16:48

Missed that one. Get, got, gotten was what I was taught in secondary (not an English speaking country). Has it changed since early 90's?

'Gotten' isn't incorrect, but it's not (and never has been, in my 53 years at least) standard in England - we use 'got'. It's the norm in the US though (and maybe Scotland, I think).

pamelanoon · 13/08/2025 15:25

TaborlinTheGreat · 13/08/2025 14:58

'Gotten' isn't incorrect, but it's not (and never has been, in my 53 years at least) standard in England - we use 'got'. It's the norm in the US though (and maybe Scotland, I think).

And it's used in Ireland

PistachioTiramisuLimoncello · 15/08/2025 09:20

“excited for…” no! You’re right excited ABOUT!!

marshmallowfinder · 15/08/2025 10:13

PistachioTiramisuLimoncello · 15/08/2025 09:20

“excited for…” no! You’re right excited ABOUT!!

Oh YES. I notice it everywhere. So tedious. Unless they mean excited on someone's behalf, of course, such as 'I'm excited for my daughter who is graduating tomorrow.' But otherwise, you are excited ABOUT.

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softlyfallsthesnow · 15/08/2025 12:44

Why is everyone now 'excited' about everything anyway? We used to look forward to something, maybe with pleasure.
Excitement used to be a notch up from that.
Now, for eg, professional orchestras announce on Facebook that they're 'excited' to be playing in next week's concert etc etc. It's their job to perform very regularly, not an occasional treat to get hyped up about.
If excited no longer means excited then I wonder what now is the new excited?

marshmallowfinder · 15/08/2025 13:57

softlyfallsthesnow · 15/08/2025 12:44

Why is everyone now 'excited' about everything anyway? We used to look forward to something, maybe with pleasure.
Excitement used to be a notch up from that.
Now, for eg, professional orchestras announce on Facebook that they're 'excited' to be playing in next week's concert etc etc. It's their job to perform very regularly, not an occasional treat to get hyped up about.
If excited no longer means excited then I wonder what now is the new excited?

I quite agree. It reminds me of a group of 5 year olds! It is another example of the hyperbole that seems to have infiltrated everyday life. Everyone has to be "obsessed' with things. No one can simply be fond of them any more. Sigh...

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Rosesandteashops · 15/08/2025 14:09

I care, OP. I appreciate the jokey responses here, but I care. Someone on another thread put 'through' instead of 'threw' andit took me reading two replies before I could work out what she meant. Some people are just hopeless at spelling, though.
I've been measured here. I could of went off on one, couldn't I?

JurgenKloppsTeeth · 15/08/2025 14:12

There’s no ‘r’ in buy so why people write “we brought a house” is baffling to me.

The other one that makes me twitch is “put up and shut up”. No. Put up OR shut up. Put up means to put your fists up, ie challenge the other person, not to resign yourself to the situation.

I had SPAG drilled into me by my primary school teacher, for which I’ll always be grateful (not greatful).

Rosesandteashops · 15/08/2025 14:13

NellieJean · 12/08/2025 16:38

I don’t think I’ve been confused about this since I was ten.

It's obvious that an awful lot of adults ARE confused about it though. On FB etc.

Bananalanacake · 15/08/2025 14:24

Did anyone watch 'This Morning ' yesterday, they had the following subtitle,,, "The new inheritance tax rules and how they effect you".

Eightdayz · 15/08/2025 14:31

marshmallowfinder · 12/08/2025 06:47

It does matter. They are two separate words with two completely different meanings, and it is straightforward to decide which to use.

You're is short for YOU ARE.
(So, for example, "you're looking very well.")

Your refers to belonging to, or associated with a person.
(So, for example, "your coat is in the other room.")

If you're not sure, just ask yourself if you are trying to say YOU ARE, or not!

Nobody likes the grammar police.

Bet your (sic) a barrel of laughs at parties.

marshmallowfinder · 15/08/2025 14:50

Eightdayz · 15/08/2025 14:31

Nobody likes the grammar police.

Bet your (sic) a barrel of laughs at parties.

I really like the 'grammar police'. I really like people who care about language. I can take or leave a party though.

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