So my DD made a friend in nursery few months back and I was very happy for her. She and her friend got along really well and the Girl was lovely as well. fast forward few months later, I have always seen her mum dropping her off at nursery but we never has a chat or only exchanged a smiles here and there.
then I was shopping with my DD one afternoon and saw that little girl with her mum and both girls were saying Hi and were happy to see each other. Her mum asked me that if she can have my number so we can have a play date etc. I said okay and we exchanged a number. The next day she asked me that if I want to go to soft play with girls, but I already had plans for the day so I said no and then invited her to our place for a play date for next week and she said okay.
On the date of Play date :
even before she came to our house she texted me asking if she can drop her DD off at my place at 7.30 in yhe morning to take her to nursery and then I will have to collect her daughter at 3 pm and then she will collect her from my house at 4.30 pm. ( she said its because she has to go to college and she can't be late, it was for two days a week) Of course I said no and made up something as my DD only went to nursery for morning session and lunch only and I can't have anybody in ny house that early in the morning.
when she arrived at our place, I explained to her about why I can't help her with her DD for nursery. then she told me that she is a single mum, her ex was not good and has no relationship with him and she doesn't have a relationship with her parents as well when I asked if her parents can help with her DD. Play date was fine, the girls played and we had a nice chat.
2 days later, I was out running errands and got a text from her asking for £20 as she was broke and needed money to buy milk and bread and basics. I asked her if she lives near perticular supermarket so I can drop some food to her place as I was laready out. she said she lives far away and will get uber delivery as she didnt have car or doesnt drive. I felt bad and gave her £20 via bank transfer and she said she will give it back next week.
She did gave back money after 10 days. and she asked me for more money the next day as she said that she had sudden electric bill and needs £20. I smelled something fishy and told her that I am not in a position to lend money at the moment and she said okay. She had found out at the point that we are really good financially when she came to visit our house.
This happened 3 more times and I said no all the time. I just wondered everytime that how does she have a money for Vape, getting her nails done every 2 weeks, tattoos and piercings and for Taxis here and there because I saw her many times getting off and to in taxi even to school drop off?
after few months when she asked money again saying that she hasn't got paid yet from her part time job I just flatly told her no and told her not to text me again and blocked her. She has changed her DD school at this point to somewhere closer to their house. and guess what I found out she just lived 5 min walk away from the supermarket I was that day when she asked money for first time.
Any experiences with similar people? I just wonder where does she put all the money she gets from government for being a single mother and the salary that she gets from oart time job? If I was broke, My first priority would be to put food on the table for my kids and family, then household bills and then everything else. Not stupid Vapes and gel nails !
Just had to rant...