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Solicitor falsely accused me of blackmail and identity fraud – what can I do?

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PoisedPearlHelper · 30/07/2025 09:22

Hi everyone,
I’m feeling extremely distressed and could really use some advice.
A solicitor I approached just to witness a deed poll (literally a 10-minute job) has now written me a formal letter accusing me of identity fraud and blackmail, all because I left a Google review and asked for £150 compensation for the poor service I received.
To be clear:

  • I turned up to the appointment on time, waited over an hour past the scheduled slot without apology, and was treated incredibly rudely throughout.
  • The “identity fraud” claim appears to be based on my use of a perfectly valid house name (e.g., “The Croft”) in the deed poll, which is how my address appears on HMRC letters and utility bills.
  • I corrected a typo on the deed by hand with their permission before it was witnessed.
  • I later went to an independent solicitor who confirmed everything was fine and properly re-witnessed the deed poll.
Despite this, I received an aggressive letter warning me I would "hear from enforcement agencies," and treating my Google review + complaint as a criminal blackmail attempt. It’s left me shaken. I’ve now written a response asking them to:
  • Retract the accusations
  • Destroy my ID documents unless legally required
  • Justify their data handling under UK GDPR
  • Comply with the law around AML and GDPR disclosures
I’ve said if they don’t comply by 19 August, I’ll report them to the SRA, ICO and Legal Ombudsman. What else can I do to protect myself? Has anyone else experienced this kind of intimidation from a solicitor? Is it worth actually taking this to the police under harassment laws, or am I overreacting? I have a paper trail and am confident I’ve done nothing wrong, but I’m worried this could escalate or damage my name. Any legal or practical advice much appreciated – even just solidarity would help. This has genuinely shaken me. Thanks so much,
OP posts:
nomas · 30/07/2025 11:53

Blank1234 · 30/07/2025 11:52

No it’s not. It’s really not.

It is when OP has been clear that she did not do this.

HotCrossBunplease · 30/07/2025 11:56

If the letter really does use the word. blackmail it is hugely unprofessional.

Wintersgirl · 30/07/2025 11:57

PoisedPearlHelper · 30/07/2025 11:07

And emotional damages

Oh give over....

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

Blank1234 · 30/07/2025 12:04

nomas · 30/07/2025 11:53

It is when OP has been clear that she did not do this.

Op has changed her wording of events many times so we will never know what actually went on or what was said. I believe the Solicitor was the first one to mention blackmail, not posters? Anyway, I’m done replying to you here. I’ll agree to disagree. We have differing opinions 🤷‍♀️

ConsultMe · 30/07/2025 12:12

Can we collectively see this thread as a reason to get better at using AI? I just think the email OP sent (and even their responses on here) just read like slop, even ChatGPT is capable of drafting better messages. If this is what OP is sharing on here, I dread to think what OP has been prompting ChatGPT. It’s probably thrice as long and 10x less coherent.

godmum56 · 30/07/2025 12:15

NeverTrustaCherryTomato · 30/07/2025 10:48

Respect to you. I find folding chairs extremely untrustworthy.

See also: cherry tomatoes.

Oh mine is a classy one!

vickylou78 · 30/07/2025 12:16

PoisedPearlHelper · 30/07/2025 11:03

But they are linking the 150 pounds with the bad review, not the legal ombudsman bit.

I thought that initially but when I read the ops letter then I wondered if it's not to do with the review at all? And more to do with threat she made to take to ombudsmen unless they paid £150

Internaut · 30/07/2025 12:17

ConsultMe · 30/07/2025 12:12

Can we collectively see this thread as a reason to get better at using AI? I just think the email OP sent (and even their responses on here) just read like slop, even ChatGPT is capable of drafting better messages. If this is what OP is sharing on here, I dread to think what OP has been prompting ChatGPT. It’s probably thrice as long and 10x less coherent.

Absolutely. ChatGPT is rapidly becoming God's gift to solicitors who can charge through the nose for disentangling the messes people get into by using supposed legal letters that it generates.

FrogsLoveRain · 30/07/2025 12:18

Blank1234 · 30/07/2025 11:33

😂😂 That really doesn’t matter .. SRA was mentioned 12 times in the first 3 pages.. @mrssmurfspointyhat rocks up on page 4, after over a dozen mentions of it and suggests the very same thing 😵‍💫😵‍💫😂😂 Come on.

@Blank1234i know that. I suggest you read back over my posts before you respond with laughing emoji.

nomas · 30/07/2025 12:22

Blank1234 · 30/07/2025 12:04

Op has changed her wording of events many times so we will never know what actually went on or what was said. I believe the Solicitor was the first one to mention blackmail, not posters? Anyway, I’m done replying to you here. I’ll agree to disagree. We have differing opinions 🤷‍♀️

You've misunderstood again. Posters have accused OP of blackmailing the solicitor that she will leave a bad review if she doesn't get money but there is no suggestion of this in her opening post or in the letter OP posted. She left a review then asked for compensation for inconvenience caused.

This is why OP is better off with a fresh thread in Legal.

nomas · 30/07/2025 12:28

OP, some solicitors can be a waste of time. I needed a document notarised by a local solicitor in person and I had to call so many to find one who understood the request.

Then the one I did finally find, could find no record of me on their appointment book and insisted I must have made a mistake because they had a clashing appointment. I explained that my DH and I had taken the afternoon off work for this so please could he check again. They asked for a description of the voice of the woman who I had made the appt with and they denied that such a woman worked there. It was surreal.

They finally did make time for it and admitted that the woman I spoke to was now on annual leave.

Heylittlesongbird · 30/07/2025 12:29

PoisedPearlHelper · 30/07/2025 11:03

But they are linking the 150 pounds with the bad review, not the legal ombudsman bit.

So have you actually paid the first solicitor any money for them to reimburse you?
Or are you just saying they wasted your time?

Phelicity · 30/07/2025 12:32

Surely the most concerning aspect of this is the accusation of fraud. The suggestion of blackmail seems frivolous (as does the request for compensation).

NeverTrustaCherryTomato · 30/07/2025 12:33

godmum56 · 30/07/2025 12:15

Oh mine is a classy one!

Even more respect 😎

PhilippaGeorgiou · 30/07/2025 12:33

PoisedPearlHelper · 30/07/2025 11:22

but seriously in the letter, I just put down hours wasted

I lost the will to live somewhere a while back - will you compensate me for the time I wasted reading this thread?

Honestly, you have probably spent more time writing letters, posting threads and arguing with windmills...

Assuming you haven't done anything wrong, walk away and read a book or something else productive. If you have, backpedal fast and remove the review. Simple.

honeylulu · 30/07/2025 12:38

nomas · 30/07/2025 12:28

OP, some solicitors can be a waste of time. I needed a document notarised by a local solicitor in person and I had to call so many to find one who understood the request.

Then the one I did finally find, could find no record of me on their appointment book and insisted I must have made a mistake because they had a clashing appointment. I explained that my DH and I had taken the afternoon off work for this so please could he check again. They asked for a description of the voice of the woman who I had made the appt with and they denied that such a woman worked there. It was surreal.

They finally did make time for it and admitted that the woman I spoke to was now on annual leave.

At the risk of derailing, I have found notaries to be the rudest breed of lawyers going. Not many lawyers are also notaries (I'm a solicitor but not a notary and sometimes need to visit one to get documents notarised for proceedings abroad.)

Last time I made an appointment. Turned up on time, rang the bell and someone told me abruptly over the speaker before i had said anything "you can't come in if you haven't got an appointment". I explained that I did indeed have an appointment and the door opened. As I went in I was greeted by someone snapping "we can't see you if you haven't brought your passport" (I had). The rest of the appointment continued similarly with them rushing me and talking over me when I tried to explain what I needed and the notary ended up making a mistake because she ignored what I said. She did correct it for free a few days later when the Apostille office pointed it out but no apology. I hadn't really expected one after all that!

nomas · 30/07/2025 12:43

honeylulu · 30/07/2025 12:38

At the risk of derailing, I have found notaries to be the rudest breed of lawyers going. Not many lawyers are also notaries (I'm a solicitor but not a notary and sometimes need to visit one to get documents notarised for proceedings abroad.)

Last time I made an appointment. Turned up on time, rang the bell and someone told me abruptly over the speaker before i had said anything "you can't come in if you haven't got an appointment". I explained that I did indeed have an appointment and the door opened. As I went in I was greeted by someone snapping "we can't see you if you haven't brought your passport" (I had). The rest of the appointment continued similarly with them rushing me and talking over me when I tried to explain what I needed and the notary ended up making a mistake because she ignored what I said. She did correct it for free a few days later when the Apostille office pointed it out but no apology. I hadn't really expected one after all that!

OMG it's good to know they are like that as a breed 😂

And yes, I had the same experience with ringing the bell (and waiting ages for someone to answer on the intercom).

And they also seemed to assume we wouldn't have the right documents when they eventually deigned to see us!

godmum56 · 30/07/2025 12:45

nomas · 30/07/2025 12:43

OMG it's good to know they are like that as a breed 😂

And yes, I had the same experience with ringing the bell (and waiting ages for someone to answer on the intercom).

And they also seemed to assume we wouldn't have the right documents when they eventually deigned to see us!

I know a lovely Notary. He's also a solicitor.

honeylulu · 30/07/2025 13:12

godmum56 · 30/07/2025 12:45

I know a lovely Notary. He's also a solicitor.

I'm really glad to hear you know a nice one!

SP2024 · 30/07/2025 13:14

Jeez. Someone got far too trigger happy with AI. Most people would have shrugged it off as a bad experience and move on.

forgotmyusername1 · 30/07/2025 13:17

NimbleDreamer · 30/07/2025 10:45

You could have resolved this in a satisfactory way but because you jumped in both feet first you have fucked up royally.

What you should have done -

  1. not gone to another firm straightaway but contacted the original firm to allow them the opportunity to rectify their mistakes. If they were unable to do so then it would be reasonable for you to go to another firm to complete the job.

  2. wrote a letter of complaint just stating the basic facts to the original firm, possibly stating in the letter that you are now £150 out of pocket due to having to go to another firm because of poor service. However that was YOUR choice to go to another firm and be out of pocket so you are not entitled to compensation from the original firm for this. As someone else has stated you technically don't need a solicitor to witness a deed poll so you still made the choice to pay another £150 when you didn't need to and so are not entitled to this from the original firm. They may decide to pay you compensation as a goodwill gesture but you have no right to demand it of them. You then wait for their reply.

  3. Depending on the nature of their reply you could possibly also have sent a complaint to the SRA if they were unreasonable and refusing to acknowledge their poor service.

What you should not have done was the nuclear option of publicly complaining about your experience by writing a negative Google review before allowing the firm the chance to put things right, and then demanding £150 compensation after writing a negative Google review. You also certainly should not send that embarrassing ChatGPT word salad of a letter to them either.

What you should now do -

  1. delete the Google review

  2. apologise to the original firm and say you have retracted your review and demand for compensation. That doesn't mean that they are in the right but the way you have gone about things means that you have screwed it up for yourself and this is now your most sensible option to avoid any further repercussions for yourself.

I think the £150 is what the op values an hour of her time at rather than it being a refund of monies paid

Prayingforananswer · 30/07/2025 13:53

needtostopnamechanging · 30/07/2025 10:46

The unanswered question is why did the first solicitor refuse to sign?

did they have legal concerns ?

It's regarding the fraud accusation. The most likely reason was that the OP was asking the solicitor to sign as a witness to something that they had not actually witnessed, namely the change made to the document, even if it was initialed by the OP.

I recently needed a solicitor to witness a legal document that I had foolishly signed in advance. He refused to do so and I had to go home, reprint the document and then sign it in the presence of the solicitor before he was willing to stamp it as a witness.

Ademasstudio · 30/07/2025 14:06

All very sketchy

on the part of the OP that is

basically she undertook sketchy behaviour around a solicitor, and she’s been caught out.

ThatCleverCoralCrow · 30/07/2025 14:28

PoisedPearlHelper · 30/07/2025 11:07

And emotional damages

This must be a wind up 😂

Laughlikeadrain · 30/07/2025 14:41

Ademasstudio · 30/07/2025 09:24

Oh dear op

A solicitor won’t make this accusation lightly. In fact, I would go so far as to say they will be very very VERY sure in the validity of their accusation and would have discussed with colleagues who will have concurred

Edited

I think you have a very rose tinted view of solicitors. @Ademasstudio

they often write what appear to be very intimidating letters but actually have little substance- that is how they earn money in many cases.

they can’t be very busy if they’re hounding people who write bad google reviews.

The first thing Op - was your google review an honest review of your experience? If you had to pay another solicitor to do exactly the same work days later, that kind of proves it wasn’t to standard?

remember- they have to prove you did what they are accusing you of. It sounds like fair comment on your part.

just ignore them

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