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White boss at work clearly favours white recruits – what can I do?

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YourPerkyGreySnake · 29/07/2025 21:52

Hi all,
I'm a woman of colour working in a mostly white office, and it's becoming really hard to ignore how differently I'm being treated. My (white) manager clearly favours the new white hires – he’s told them they remind him of his own family members, invites them out for drinks, includes them in casual chats, and they often get looped into more informal work opportunities or mentorship. Meanwhile, I get left out – no invites, no effort to connect, and definitely not the same level of warmth or support. It’s isolating and demoralising.
This isn't about me being antisocial – I’ve made effort to be friendly and involved. But there’s a clear pattern and it's affecting how visible I am at work.
Has anyone dealt with something like this before? What can I do without tanking my reputation or making things worse?
Thanks in advance.

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MiloMinderbinder925 · 29/07/2025 21:58

You're having a string of bad luck meeting white supremacists OP.

Gowlett · 29/07/2025 22:05

I find that some people are a bit afraid of people who they think of as “other” but they don’t work to overcome that instinct.

Your boss is favouring the people who are “like him”. It comes down to skin colour, sometimes culture, but I see it all the time.

I’m a white female, who has lived in multiracial communities, now in a relatively newly multiracial city. I have friends of different races.

I’m not sure what you can do. But I try to put my self in the shoes of friends, who this happens to. I’m not sure your boss will do that.

Icanttakethisanymore · 29/07/2025 22:08

MiloMinderbinder925 · 29/07/2025 21:58

You're having a string of bad luck meeting white supremacists OP.

Has the OP made lots of posts on this subject?

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SwedishEdith · 29/07/2025 22:10

Is this the same OP with the "sweet Nazi boyfriend"?

beelegal · 29/07/2025 22:12

Why would you immediately think it’s to do with race?

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 29/07/2025 22:12

They are new?

are you new too?

MiloMinderbinder925 · 29/07/2025 22:33

Icanttakethisanymore · 29/07/2025 22:08

Has the OP made lots of posts on this subject?

She has a lovely Nazi boyfriend.

Icanttakethisanymore · 29/07/2025 22:46

MiloMinderbinder925 · 29/07/2025 22:33

She has a lovely Nazi boyfriend.

hmmm. Ok.

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 30/07/2025 19:09

Oh I see!!

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