Cat Deeley and Patrick Kielty announce they are splitting after 12 years of marriage. (Would have been 13 years in September.)

[Zov]

What a shame ... They seemed like such a nice and compatible couple. Never know what's going on behind closed doors eh?

Cat Deeley and Patrick Kielty split after 12 years: 'There is no other party involved' | HELLO!

It is well documented that Jamie was a prolific cheater and it took her years to find the courage to leave him. She gave up her career to be the good wife at home while he slept around and took all her confidence away from her. For some reason she got the public blame for their break up but maybe if he'd showed her some respect and kept it in his pants they would have stayed together.

I have-def not my type

Rumours about Ben or her being gay 🤷🏻‍♀️bizarre

We met CD at a concert once. She was in the seats next to us. She was very unpleasant.

I would have thought that was obvious, the child hasnt got a choice and what is the measure of 'happy'?

Just about ticking along but not that into each other, well so what? Tick long until the children have left school and then do something about it if you really need to

Really?! She seems like she’d be really nice, you don’t often hear that about her, not like with HW

What way was she unpleasant?

Feel sorry for the children. 12 years is not that long.

Me too ☹️
2 wee boys in the equation.

I thought Louise Rednapp left Jamie because of his infidelity.

IIRC she left him just after she'd done Strictly, which had obviously given her a confidence boost. Then "sources" put out ambiguous statements hinting that it wasn't what Jamie wanted, Louise had upset his parents and stuff about the notorious Strictly curse.

Louise didn't say anything and (not should she have had to anyway) so the public just swallowed everything that came from the Redknapp camp sources.

@soupyspoon

nah! Because

a) most people want more from life than “just ticking along”.

b) putting things off, waiting literally years before giving yourself is a chance to be happy is stupid. None of us know what the future holds. Health may deteriorate, might even be dead and it would be such a waste of life.

Really bad relationship modelling for the kids. I'm glad my parents didn't think like this, and that I got a chance to see them truly happy and contented apart, rather than dissatisfied and unfulfilled together.

My parents stayed together 'for the kids' (it was partly for themselves as well) and it was certainly not a laugh a minute. My siblings and I all ended up in messed up, dysfunctional relationships at some point because we had had such a terrible model of what relationships looked like. Our parents expected us to provide most of the joy and meaning in their lives and that got pretty suffocating from teen years onwards

I know that if they had separated, that would have brought its own issues, but staying together isn't always the path to peace for anyone involved

I think we tend to assume that romantic connection lasts a lifetime as standard, but I don't think that's normal. I think it's normal for that to fade.

I think the ones who find lasting love and connection are lucky and blessed. I think most lasting romantic relationships are based on habit and pushing through troubles because of a notion that we're supposed to have lasting romantic connection and we are a failure if we don't have it.

I'm beginning to understand why women were forced into marriage. I love being single and actually never want a romantic connection again.

I wonder how many older women feel this way and how many who do are married.

I was sad to read they had split too. I'm not usually invested in celebrities' private lives, but I liked them and the story of how they got together and thought they seemed good together and very down to earth. I've always particularly liked and admired Patrick and used to love his stand up routines, he was very funny. I cannot imagine why Cat did not attend his mother's funeral, even if they were living apart you would think she would have wanted to support him through the funeral, it seems a strange decision.

Agree with this @LardoBurrows ^

You’ve clearly not seen Ben on the front of Men’s Health magazine. Just sayin’
Just googled.
It"s added to my no 👎 !!!

Discussion on This Morning about whether men and women can just be friends.

Ben and Cat not on at the moment, felt like a point was being made.

Really odd! My ex from years ago came to my mums funeral and we don't even have children together!

Do you think they’re together?

I doubt it.

Another TM comment I remember. A few weeks ago they were talking about sex later in life and when Cat was asked for her view she said - you had better ask someone else not me. Which was rather telling.

I thought it was odd too that Cat didn’t go. I can understand that some children don’t go to grandparent’s funerals.
It depends on the child and the relationship.
But PK, his Mum and his family suffered dreadfully when their father and husband was murdered.
I’m sure there is a very close bond in the Kielty
family that Cat must have known about.
Perhaps CD didn’t get on with her mil or in laws in general.

Perhaps she wanted to go and was told No ?
Whatever the reason, a marriage break up is sad.

Yes, as a Brit married to an Irishman and living in Ireland, funerals are a big thing here and it is seen as hugely disrespectful not to attend in-laws' funerals. Hell, people even attend the funerals of neighbours they didn't know that well here. At the very least, she should not have been presenting TV with a big smile on her face, saying that she'd had a lovely weekend - that was pretty shocking to me. Even if they'd split by then, it was her children's grandmother.

As the child of a couple who have been married for 60 years but should have gone their separate ways 50+ years ago, I think this is bullshit.

Why should children have to deal with this environment?
Unhappy marriage = unhappy home and family.