Sharing a room with son when on holiday.

[DollyDaisyDo]

DS aged 18 and I are hoping to go away for a few days before he starts university.

Was telling a friend who said how expensive it would be having 2 hotel rooms - she was genuinely shocked and said how strange that was when I said we would be sharing a room (twin beds obviously). I asked DS and he said, he'd assumed we'd be sharing

It's got me thinking, is it strange? Just interested in other people's thoughts.

It’s not strange. I wouldn’t be paying for 2 rooms. Just get changed in the bathroom.

As long as you are both happy- then I see no issue at all.
I have a young adult son, and he’d be fine with this as long as there was a separate bathroom.

Not strange at all . Have a lovely time @DollyDaisyDo

I’d be sharing. Yes to probably getting changed in the bathroom, but no problem sharing with family.

I'm taking my 15 daughter and 17 son away for the night. We are all sharing. I can't afford separate rooms.

Not strange at all. Quite normal to share with family if both parties happy with it.

Me and DS do have separate rooms but that's only because I snore (he says!) and he is up till later on his phone. I'm a pretty(very) intolerant sleeper and need total silence, darkness .

Dh used to take our teen Dds to a theme park every year i didnt go.they all shared a room, .your friend is bonkers i mean if she is talking about privacy for changing that is what bathrooms are for.

I wouldn’t do it myself, always pay for enough rooms for everyone to have their own because I really appreciate my own space.
If I couldn’t afford it we’d have to share a room but I’d hate it and would probably not want to go!
I don’t think it’s strange though, plenty of people do share.

I often take my 17 year old DS away for sporting events. We share a room, but not a bed. As long as there’s a private bathroom it’s fine.

I went to Wembley for a football match with my DS16 and his mate and we all stayed in one room! We were very respectful and used the bathroom to change etc

I do this all the time with my DS19, have done for years.

I shared a room with my dad last time we were away for a night. In my 30s. I wouldn't want to do it for a longer trip because I do like to have my own space, but we were there for an event, we got back to the hotel and went straight to sleep, and then got up, checked out and left. Would have been a massive waste of money to book an extra room.

I happily share a twin room with my ds (21). It's not weird and he would definitely tell me if he thought it was.

Sometimes the beds are really close together and it feels a bit strange, but there's usually enough room to move them apart and shift the bedside tables in between.

I shared a room with my 15yo ds on holiday in 2024. It was borderline whether it was suitable. We both needed more privacy, yes we could get changed in the bathroom but it certainly wasn't comfortable.

This summer I blew the budget and booked a 2 bed apartment. It was a bit more expensive but our holiday was infinitely more relaxing and enjoyable for both of us.

Next year he may have a girlfriend and not want to come with me, so I chose to absorb the extra expense.

I would be led by what my child thought rather than your friend. We had 2 longer holiday last year one where we got separate rooms in a hotel, one for dh and 15yo ds and another for me and younger dd. Another where we had an apartment and they shared a room. And we also did a weekend minibreak and we all shared a Premiere Inn family for 2 nights and they were both fine with this too. Often the decision is down to cost and suitability of the accommodation.

It’s only “fine” if the son or daughter is comfortable with it. my son wouldn’t be. I don’t force him.

we often had no choice growing up but to share with both parents and sibling on rubbish trips and weren’t comfortable. If you can afford uni then you can afford separate rooms. bathrooms are for the toilet and washing by the way 🤔

I took my 18yo ds on safari last summer after A'levels, we were both happy to share the room - changed in the bathroom etc.

I regularly go away on short breaks with DS (now 23). We always share a twin room! If he comes on a family break then of course he has his own room but if it's a few days and it's just us he will happily still share.

Ds 18 would share for 2 or 3 nights but for longer we do need our own rooms. I quite like sharing with him.

It’s your son, it’s fine.

I wouldn't want to share a hotel room on a holiday where the focus is relaxing. I would rather cut my cloth to suit our budget and have a caravan holiday or an Airbnb where we can all have space.

However, if the purpose of the trip is to explore a city or attend an event, then sharing the hotel room overnight is fine.

Just back from a 4 day trip with my 21 year old son and we shared a tiny room with twin beds.

As an aside, last year I went away with a colleague/friend and we shared a twin room at her request to keep costs down and I felt a lot more uncomfortable - to the point I wouldn't do it again unless its family.

Son and I got changed in the bathroom. Needs must and all that. We had a wonderful trip and would not have been able to afford it if we had to get separate rooms.

As long as both of you are comfortable doing so then I don't see any issue.

As others have said it's totally fine. Extra rooms are ridiculous prices and you can use that money on extra spends. To be fair when away you rarely use the room it's more a base and somewhere to shower and change.

As a teenager I used to share a room with my mum a lot while on holiday. I never thought anything of it or assumed any different.

I’m going to London for two nights with Ds18, Ds 15 and DD 10, we are all sharing a family room in a Premier Inn. We will only be sleeping in the room. I checked with them all and they don’t mind at all.
For longer holidays when we spend time in the accommodation we would have at least 2 bedrooms.