Sharing a room with son when on holiday.

[DollyDaisyDo]

DS aged 18 and I are hoping to go away for a few days before he starts university.

Was telling a friend who said how expensive it would be having 2 hotel rooms - she was genuinely shocked and said how strange that was when I said we would be sharing a room (twin beds obviously). I asked DS and he said, he'd assumed we'd be sharing

It's got me thinking, is it strange? Just interested in other people's thoughts.

I share with 16 and 18 year old ds, I can’t afford separate rooms!

Absolutely fine - we have 10 days away soon. 1 night on ferry 1 cabin, me, DH, DS18 and 2 nights at end in family room in hotel. Middle 7 nights he has own room in a gite. TBH we didn’t think he’d want to come with us, but he’s does, so that’s the deal!

Totally normal to share

Just make sure it's a proper bathroom with a door and without see-through walls! Some hotel rooms really don't seem to be designed for people sharing at all.

Didn't feel right for me once DS turned 13 so it's been separate rooms since. Slightly more expensive but we generally stay in small apartments with a sofa bed option. Still budget and totally worth it for everyone's privacy.

My dad was not comfortable with it when we did 3wks in Italy age 23 at the end of Medical school...but tolerated it cos I booked it. V not keen now I'm 34 but I don't really see the issue

I’m doing the same as you!

I'm glad the general consensus is that it's not strange.

we wouldn't be able to afford to go if we needed 2 rooms. It's only 4 nights and I checked with DS first before booking. Changing etc will be done in the bathroom.

I have always dressed in the bathroom still do.

We went abroad with teenage children - just a bit younger than OPs son - and booked 2 twin rooms, intending a boy and girl room. Teenagers had a private conference and decided that they would rather share with each other than the deeply embarrassing parents (because they were used to sharing for holidays).

Very normal, especially when only a short trip. If it was a week or more I'd say you might want your own space but for a few nights totally fine. I'll be sharing a room for two nights with my 19 and 17 year olds this summer.

I'm not sure what you mean 'afford uni'? We are on uc, ds22 has just graduated from university and we didn't have to afford uni! He has a huge student loan!
We have to share rooms when we go away as I can't afford to pay for separate rooms. The choice is go or not go.

I unfollowed mumsnet on facebook because of this, i know it is a public forum blah blah but i think threads/, should stay on mumsnet.

It's strange to think its strange! My son's only 15 but why wouldn't we share a hotel room if he was 18 and it was just the two of us going away for a few days?

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Not strange at all.

Not strange at all! Twin beds and change in the bathroom 🤷🏼‍♀️

Haha. Friend of 30 years and I shared a pod hotel room. Both women in our 50s. We shared the bed 😂

the awkward thing was the bathroom had a frosted glass wall and the room was tiny so pooping was out. We popped out to use a loo in the hotel space to poop

Dd16 asked us if she could have her own room on holiday this year, I'm not spending £1k plus for a room for her considering me and dh are out of the upstairs area from at least 8am-11pm, not a fucking chance. So she shared an upstairs room with us again this year.

Last night at bedtime I was chatting to the youngest two as I went for my bedtime pee, it was decided that me and dh would have a sleepover in their room, is that weird too? I quite enjoyed it having a good old blether with them.

I think this is pretty common and normal. You can get changes in the shower/bathroom.

You do NOT want to stay at hotel Yotel in Glasgow then let me tell you. Glass bathroom walls that aren't even ceiling height so no privacy at all. My husband has a stoma, and by fuck I think I lost the plot by the end of the weekend from the smell.

What’s weird is your friends thinking.

It’s not like you’re sleeping in the same bed.

I think people who thinks it’s strange are weird. This is literally my child so why would it ever be weird to share a room. Fair enough boundaries for getting changed etc

in fairness my DS hates my snoring but tough luck!!

I am in a Novotel family room at Stansted with DS (16) and DD (13) right now and have vowed I’m never sharing a room with DS again 🤣 ND, he needs his space and we need ours from him. Every thought he has comes straight out of his mouth including right now, 1.30am… and don’t get me started on the bathroom usage. I can see DD and I sharing a room indefinitely though (except if I’m travelling with her and her DH in the far future I suppose!)

Maybe try and get a 1 bed apartment so you have your separate spaces within the room for moments of unwinding and own privacy? But if it’s not a problem for either or you, then it’s not a problem.