Sharing a room with son when on holiday.

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DS aged 18 and I are hoping to go away for a few days before he starts university.

Was telling a friend who said how expensive it would be having 2 hotel rooms - she was genuinely shocked and said how strange that was when I said we would be sharing a room (twin beds obviously). I asked DS and he said, he'd assumed we'd be sharing

It's got me thinking, is it strange? Just interested in other people's thoughts.

I'd be totally fine with this, honestly don't see the problem for a short break away.

Since 14 he's been asking for his own room though but we always say, when you get a job you can pay for your own, til then we're all sharing.

I wouldn’t have shared with my DS at 18. Each to their own though.

I don't fancy sharing with my DD (18), we did it 18 months ago as she was under age so I couldn't and didn't really like it very much.

I definitley wouldn't do it with a child of the opposite sex at that age.

DS & DD shared hotel rooms into their late teens/early 20s and have always been happy to do so. I’ve shared hotel rooms with various family members, including (on separate occasions) my dad and my son - never even thought about it until a friend of my dad’s commented how weird it was and seemed quite shocked by it!

I find it weirder that you’d be so uptight about personal privacy that you wouldn’t share a room and a bathroom for a couple of nights with a close family member. There are plenty of cultures where these kinds of living arrangements are totally normal in everyday life, let alone on a bloody city break, so the pearl clutching is bizarre to me.

Since my husband passed away, my kids and I do family holidays with just the three of us. We have always been super close and are even closer now. My daughter 18, my son 22 and I share a family room so my daughter and I take the double bed and my son the single. We love it and have such good memories of playing cards or just having a laugh! Nothing wrong with that all. I have offered my son his own room and he said why, when we can all share?? He’d rather use the money for other fun things like hiring a boat, day trips etc..

Nothing weird about it for a holiday, not at all, so long as both parties. are comfortable with it..

My 18 girl and 21year shared a bed they built a pillow wall. Neither wanted to share with their dad

DS is 19 and yes we share rooms on holiday. It's cheaper and just easier. None of us snore so it's OK.
When staying at my parents house I would share a bed but now hes over 18 he's in another room.
It was easier for my DM to have only 1 set of sheets to clean, but he's too old now and we all want privacy. I strip and remake the beds before we leave.
It's never been an issue.

Not worth doubling the cost of the holiday

I went when my ds was 16 twin beds seperate bathroom. No problem. We went out for food each evening a couple of drinks me off to bed, him on balcony on Internet until whatever time was great. Same went with daughter she was 19 exactly same we had a great time. Your friend is weird, or perhaps isn't as relaxed as us?

I’ve been on football weekends in London with my 23 yr old son. Most recent was last September & we shared a room. 2 single beds obviously. All fine.

Would the friend find it strange if you went with a daughter?
Nothing strange or weird from my point of view... i thought it's the done thing when on holiday.

As long as it's separate beds and your both happy it's fine, and actually perfectly normal!

It’s not weird.

My DSs are 16 and 19. We’ve always shared a hotel room, until we went away in January this year, and I thought it was time DS1 was treated to his own room. It hard started to get a bit cramped.

I wouldn’t share with my 21yo son - we went to Prague earlier on this year and had separate rooms. I wouldn’t want to encroach on his privacy.

I recently stayed with ds22 at his university accommodation - I had the bed, he had the floor. Not awkward at all, neither of us were parading around in our birthday suits! I probably wouldn't share a bed though I'd happily do so with any of my 3dds.

No its what other people attach meaning to that's strange. Just crack on.

Me and 26yr old son have just been to Brighton, we shared a twin room.
your friends are a bit odd imho 🤷‍♀️

Your friend is strange! He's not some random 18 yr old boy, he’s your family, why wouldn’t you share?

Well there’s a few answers to this thread on Facebook. Bit naughty of Mumsnet to post various threads on there…

DD (17) and I just came back from sharing a room in Edinburgh - only issue was my snoring apparently 🤣

We used to do this, no problem at all.

If your son is fine with it then just ignore anyone else's comments.

Not everyone can afford seperate rooms for each kid over 18.

If he didn't like the arrangement he could pay for his own room or just not go.

It's not polite or helpful for anyone to mock or criticise the situation if both of you are happy with it.

I always share a room with my sons (17 and 20). Couldn't afford two rooms otherwise

I wouldn't. Not even with my adult dd. But everyone's different. Always separate rooms