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Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were

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Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

OP posts:
Elsvieta · 25/07/2025 06:28

Rabbitrabbitrun · 24/07/2025 22:50

Bizarre doesn’t cover it, both that they turned up, you let them stay and you fed them. Total strangers, wow.

Reminds me of that episode of Only Fools And Horses where they spend all day in some old lady's house before realising she's not actually their aunt, who moved years ago.

BySassyGreenPanda · 25/07/2025 06:29

FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 22:39

Who will play the OP?

Claire Skinner

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 06:29

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

Not the point, but I've had the same mobile number for 26 years !

Mamabear0202 · 25/07/2025 06:37
Bill Hader Popcorn GIF by Saturday Night Live

Wow

thepariscrimefiles · 25/07/2025 06:38

Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:49

I'm afraid, for all those expecting this to run and run, that's it. There's nothing more. We had a quick look round the house to see if anything's missing, but we've never been wealthy and there's nothing much to steal and nothing missing. I have an ancient Babylis hair drier and it's still plugged in in my bedroom.

I don't think we're particularly gullible. DH likes having friends and guests to stay — much more so than I do — and has form for holding an open house. But in the past when we've had friends of friends or whatever to stay they've been good company and it's been enjoyable. These people were just unfriendly. I don't really want to waste any more time on them by disappearing down rabbit holes trying to work out what was going on.

Edited

I don't understand why your DH got so angry with you. Surely he could see that they were rude and ungrateful guests, even if they were who they said they were. I'd still be furious with him for letting them stay on after the first night, when it was obvious that they were absolutely taking the piss. I can't believe he left you to strip the beds and do the washing.

Nevermeever · 25/07/2025 06:40

Did you find out where exactly their holiday accommodation was? Get in touch with the owner to try to back this up…

weird!

HunnyPot · 25/07/2025 06:45

Sounds like classic Raynor Winn

BySassyGreenPanda · 25/07/2025 06:48

We met some random on holiday on the other side of the world. Months later he turned up unannounced one night asking to stay. My parents let him because they were more than a bit stunned and didn't know what to say.

He stayed one night, left the next day and we never saw him again. I wouldn't have believed the story it if it hadn't happened to us.

Waspwine · 25/07/2025 06:52

This is odd

but not more so than your husband allowing someone he didn’t know or recognise to stay in his home against your wishes ….

id be suspicious of my husband if I was you. You weren’t there when the first call came in, so can’t verify what he says there story was at that point.

you say he looked anxious when you walked in and then cherry on top he now thinks they wernt who they say they were as you are trying to find out more about them (but according to you fought with you for them to stay).

Odd ….on your husbands behalf

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 06:53

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 25/07/2025 05:35

Fuck me, now we are going to get 400 riveting posts of people Elevenerife-ing how long they've held their phone numbers, derailing the thread.

Clue- nobody cares.

😂😂

Kevinbaconsrealwife · 25/07/2025 06:56

FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 22:42

I hope the woman didn't borrow your Dyson hairdryer.

😂😂

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 06:59

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 25/07/2025 05:35

Fuck me, now we are going to get 400 riveting posts of people Elevenerife-ing how long they've held their phone numbers, derailing the thread.

Clue- nobody cares.

🚨🚨🚨🚨 🚨 WOOP-WOOP THAT'S THE SOUND DA POLICE 🚨 🚨 🚨 🚨 🚨

Sandyoldelbows · 25/07/2025 07:03

Weird! If true I would take the photos to the holiday park and see if they stayed there. Show the photo to colleagues. Then if they are fakers phone the police!!! Let banks etc know immediately.

SparklyGlitterballs · 25/07/2025 07:03

Your fantasy story should have ended at the sentence "I suggested I find them an AirBnB". When they claimed to have not budgeted for that, the only sensible response was "that's not our problem, we haven't budgeted for four guests so must insist you head on home then". Putting them up and feeding them for one night was, at most charitable, but in honesty was madness. Allowing them to stay for three nights makes you sound as crazy as they were if only they really existed.

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 07:04

Sandyoldelbows · 25/07/2025 07:03

Weird! If true I would take the photos to the holiday park and see if they stayed there. Show the photo to colleagues. Then if they are fakers phone the police!!! Let banks etc know immediately.

Let the banks know what? Alien shapeshifters arrived with Aldi chocolate?

Mimina12 · 25/07/2025 07:10

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BusWankers · 25/07/2025 07:11

Sandyoldelbows · 25/07/2025 07:03

Weird! If true I would take the photos to the holiday park and see if they stayed there. Show the photo to colleagues. Then if they are fakers phone the police!!! Let banks etc know immediately.

What would the police do?

FlamingoFloss · 25/07/2025 07:11

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

Nope this really isn’t that unusual. My OH has the same no that he had when he first got a mobile in his teens - we are 50 now

TroysMammy · 25/07/2025 07:11

Do you live in No 9? Did the guy look like Steve Pemberton?

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 07:14

FlamingoFloss · 25/07/2025 07:11

Nope this really isn’t that unusual. My OH has the same no that he had when he first got a mobile in his teens - we are 50 now

I think he wins the "longest holder of a number" on here. Can anyone beat 35+ years?

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 07:15

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 07:11

What would the police do?

Yes, that's what I was wondering. Some people came to stay in a house with the owner's permission?

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 07:16

I see the bots have arrived...

Dwappy · 25/07/2025 07:21

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 06:29

Not the point, but I've had the same mobile number for 26 years !

I’ve had the same number since before it started 07! My number started 0956. Now it’s 07956! 1997 (give or take a year) I think I got it!

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 07:23

Dwappy · 25/07/2025 07:21

I’ve had the same number since before it started 07! My number started 0956. Now it’s 07956! 1997 (give or take a year) I think I got it!

Nice. My number is really memorable so I keep it.

Imagine 07890 123456 😁

Mines old enough that you knew which network it was on.

Eg 071 was BT mobile, 072 was T-Mobile 073 was Orange (or whatever numbers they were!)

Superhansrantowindsor · 25/07/2025 07:24

How did random ex colleague know you lived in the popular holiday spot?

This is absolute madness. They live in Rugby. This is probably a days drive from anywhere in the UK. They should have just gone home.
if it’s true you change the locks and pray they didn’t see any private financial stuff whilst there.