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Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were

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Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

OP posts:
Superhansrantowindsor · 25/07/2025 07:25

I’ve had the same number since the mid 90’s

ConcernedOfClapham · 25/07/2025 07:26

namechangedjustforthisthreadtoday · 24/07/2025 22:37

They weren't called Sally and Tim by any chance?

😆😆😆😆😆😆

GrumpyExpat · 25/07/2025 07:26

namechangedjustforthisthreadtoday · 24/07/2025 22:37

They weren't called Sally and Tim by any chance?

😂😂😂😂

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 25/07/2025 07:28

namechangedjustforthisthreadtoday · 24/07/2025 22:37

They weren't called Sally and Tim by any chance?

Brilliant!

LakieLady · 25/07/2025 07:28

Nevermeever · 24/07/2025 22:37

This has ITV drama written all over it!!

Lol, I was being more generous and thinking the plot of a movie!

Stopthatplease · 25/07/2025 07:29

When we were kids, this guy used to turn up to stay, out of the blue. He was a 'friend' of my father's, i remember one time he stayed for over a week, didn't offer anything in the way of money or gifts to thank my parents for putting him up. My mum went nuts at my dad and my dad finally got the guy to leave.
The friend didn't have a home and was permanently sofa surfing. Many years later, he turned up again to my folks house with no warning about 6 months after my father had died, i was in the front garden at the time. I told him my dad was dead, he said a brief sorry, then walked off. Really odd chap.

LittleCosette · 25/07/2025 07:29

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 25/07/2025 05:30

Do you actually even get it???

This person’s reaction to someone being called a “bungalow” is by far the weirdest post on this thread- so hyperbolic!

BellissimoGecko · 25/07/2025 07:31

Your h is a real wet wipe. He needs to be more assertive. And not get sulky with you when you question him!

MrsMacGyver · 25/07/2025 07:32

This is hilarious 🍿

ChristmasFluff · 25/07/2025 07:33

Nah, not a movie, more the sort of 'Couple Next Door' type series. OP's husband is having steamy sex with the interloping stand-offish wife while everyone else is asleep.

She's a sex worker and takes her family on holiday by blackmailing her clients, hence OP's husband is so angry about the OP evicting them early, and hence the real reason they had his phone number. Being thrown out means OP will be finding out about his sex worker usage very soon.

MascaraGirl · 25/07/2025 07:33

Can someone tell me the story of the vanishing ironing board, I clearly missed that one?

jumpintheline · 25/07/2025 07:34

drspouse · 24/07/2025 22:44

One of the advantages of having a really in-your-face DS with ADHD is they they'd come in the door, be jumped on by him, and leave.
Having said that, I'm bad at remembering faces and might also not recognise a former colleague.

This made me smile. You describe my 5 year old perfectly; this is exactly what he’d do too. Hadn’t thought of the benefit of scaring away unwanted strangers in your house.

Isitreallysohard · 25/07/2025 07:34

This sounds like the plot in many good horror/thrillers I've seen. Sorry bit you arr both extremely stupid to allow strangers in yoir home, in those movies the home owners usually end up dead! (But maybe I watch too much TV). I'm glad you both survived.

BufferingAgain · 25/07/2025 07:35

This reminds me of that movie Speak No Evil, except they came to stay with you. Just how far will we let people go to avoid awkwardness?

That said I’m seeing the familiar Chat GTP em dashes on these posts.

GrumpyExpat · 25/07/2025 07:36

This isn’t exacrly the same but when I was a teen, this sort of happened to my parents too. We lived near Atlanta, Georgia and had a pretty big house with a pool. One day my dad gets a phone call from his mom, her brother’s son (her nephew) and his family were travelling (driving) from North Dakota down to Florida, could they stop and stay the night at our house? Dad says sure even though he’s never met these people. My grandma was youngest of 13 and moved away from her family to California in her 20s. My dad grew never know a lot of her siblings. Anyway, this huge family shows up. It is very awkward. Similar to what you describe. Not particularly friendly people, didn’t offer to help with anything. Expected to be waited on and fed.
Well I guess they liked our house, as after 3 days they hadn’t left and told my parents they were ‘staying’. TOLD them.
My parents then made up this story that they couldn’t as we were actually going on vacation the next day and proceeded to have us pack up suitcases and the car. Etc. Reluctantly they left too. We actually had to get in the car and drive down the interstate with them following us before my dad did some manoeuvres and lost them.
Luckily they found the whole incident funny.
Some people!

ConcernedOfClapham · 25/07/2025 07:37

Globules · 24/07/2025 23:28

Did they share their half punnet of strawberries?

😂

SparklyBrickViper · 25/07/2025 07:37

🦇💩

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 07:39

BySassyGreenPanda · 25/07/2025 06:48

We met some random on holiday on the other side of the world. Months later he turned up unannounced one night asking to stay. My parents let him because they were more than a bit stunned and didn't know what to say.

He stayed one night, left the next day and we never saw him again. I wouldn't have believed the story it if it hadn't happened to us.

How did he know where you lived?

Most I ever say is the nearest town/city. Like oh near Birmingham/Liverpool/Norwich.

Neweverything25 · 25/07/2025 07:40

Mayflower282 · 24/07/2025 23:15

Do you think they were homeless and are sofa surfing everyone and anyone they can?

That’s what I thought. You were very kind and hospitable. I hope there’s nothing sinister, what a story!

Madformaltesers · 25/07/2025 07:41

This is like a Only Fools and Horses plot 😀
personally I would change the locks, check for hidden cameras and give all details to the police as the next person they descend on may be more vulnerable
Be prepared to be the laughing stock of 101 though, what was your husband thinking?

ConcernedOfClapham · 25/07/2025 07:45

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

I’ve had mine since 1997!

It was my first mobile, and I’ve just always changed the number over via SIM whenever I’ve got a new phone 🤷‍♀️

Tinycatnoise · 25/07/2025 07:47

I don't know if this is true or not, but if it is then I would very much be concerned that you and your husband will be the target of scammers when you get older, from your sheer inability to say no.

You say you are not gullible. OP, I mean this kindly, you need a reality check.

WingingIt101 · 25/07/2025 07:51

This is absolutely bonkers. Agree with changing the locks and a chat with DH about not letting just anyone stay 😂

SardinesOnGingerbread · 25/07/2025 07:51

Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:49

I'm afraid, for all those expecting this to run and run, that's it. There's nothing more. We had a quick look round the house to see if anything's missing, but we've never been wealthy and there's nothing much to steal and nothing missing. I have an ancient Babylis hair drier and it's still plugged in in my bedroom.

I don't think we're particularly gullible. DH likes having friends and guests to stay — much more so than I do — and has form for holding an open house. But in the past when we've had friends of friends or whatever to stay they've been good company and it's been enjoyable. These people were just unfriendly. I don't really want to waste any more time on them by disappearing down rabbit holes trying to work out what was going on.

Edited

Sadly, I do think you are particularly gullible. I don't mean that cruelly, more just a head's up that your avoidance of sufficient conflict for this not to happen suggests you could be pretty easy to scam. Look out for yourselves.

Debrathom · 25/07/2025 07:55

namechangedjustforthisthreadtoday · 24/07/2025 22:37

They weren't called Sally and Tim by any chance?

😂😂😂