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Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were

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Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

OP posts:
Sundaybananas · 25/07/2025 01:25

I think they are synthetic humans released for live trialing by a startup.

Their “British politeness” firmware v1.0 got stuck on “respond with silence if challenged.”

Being only a beta test version, they were only capable of performing basic functions: sitting, scrolling, eating, and emitting vague statements like “We live near Rugby… for now.”

Failed the Turing Test when they forgot to bring wine.

Squigglydums · 25/07/2025 01:25

FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 22:42

I hope the woman didn't borrow your Dyson hairdryer.

Hahahaha

SecondVerseSameAsThe1st · 25/07/2025 01:45

AnotherDayInParadise43 · 24/07/2025 22:44

WTF am I reading

First draft of a creative writing assignment?

ThatSchoolOfficeLady · 25/07/2025 01:52

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Richiewoo · 25/07/2025 03:40

This isn't true.

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 25/07/2025 03:53

HyggeTygge · 24/07/2025 23:08

Did they leave the milk out and put specks of blood on the toilet cistern?
Did you find a random painting under your bed?
Has your ironing board disappeared?!

Double check the Grand Father Clock weights!

whackamole666 · 25/07/2025 04:05

TheFinePrintess · 24/07/2025 23:49

Are you sure they all left? There could be one still living in your loft, coming down at night to wee and make a brew… there’s a name for it but can’t remember off the top of my head, squirrelling? Potholing? I dunno something like that

Bird nesting?

GarlicMetre · 25/07/2025 04:15

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 00:12

Aliens. Aldi chocolate is prized beyond this solar system.

😂

pestowithwalnuts · 25/07/2025 04:20

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 24/07/2025 23:04

Did they help themselves to breakfast, snacks etc?
use your washing machine?
go out anywhere at all?

what did they do all day? No offer of money for food? Did they ask for any specific foods?

so many questions….

I'm another one who's wondering what they did all day.
If they stayed in all day at your house then they might as well have gone home.
Also..could your DH not contact any previous colleagues to ask if they remembered him..aided by your stealthy taken pics of course.

user1492757084 · 25/07/2025 04:47

It was the Griswalds.
Was their daughter callled Audrey?

Flipflapfloppy · 25/07/2025 04:53

On a practical note, if you do want to take it further, the next logical step would be to go to the holiday park and speak to the manager. Explain your scam concerns and that you need to decide what to do and see if they can join any dots for you.

They are much more likely to tell you anything in person than on the phone.

celticnations · 25/07/2025 05:17

Bodysnatcher Aliens.

My guess.

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 25/07/2025 05:30

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 25/07/2025 00:37

This is comment of the year!!! Never in a million years would I think of this…. Miles better than my current usage of “sausage” or “plantpot!” Yep, when anyone is doing something daft from now on they shall hereby be known as “a bungalow!” 😂😂😂😂

Do you actually even get it???

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 25/07/2025 05:35

BeaLola · 25/07/2025 01:03

Tbh I have the same original mobile number I was given, nearly 30 years ago ...

Fuck me, now we are going to get 400 riveting posts of people Elevenerife-ing how long they've held their phone numbers, derailing the thread.

Clue- nobody cares.

TenaciousDeeds · 25/07/2025 05:38

namechangedjustforthisthreadtoday · 24/07/2025 22:37

They weren't called Sally and Tim by any chance?

Or inspired by them.

I’ve a modicum of sympathy for them - they sound like they’re in dire straights, and to have their adult son and girlfriend involved too sounds quite desperate.

I didn’t think this sort of thing happened here with our welfare system - it sounds much more like a US scenario.

BlankBlankBlank14 · 25/07/2025 05:40

pestowithwalnuts · 25/07/2025 04:20

I'm another one who's wondering what they did all day.
If they stayed in all day at your house then they might as well have gone home.
Also..could your DH not contact any previous colleagues to ask if they remembered him..aided by your stealthy taken pics of course.

Checked out LinkedIn?

party4you · 25/07/2025 05:40

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

I’ve had the same one for 13 years now and plan to keep it - it’s a good phone number 🤣

TenaciousDeeds · 25/07/2025 05:48

What doesn’t add up to me is why your DH hasn’t contacted his former colleagues yet to find out more, especially as he’s still in touch with them.

That would have been the first thing most people would do surely, and is making me think either:

a) this is indeed all made up, or
b) you are rather strange and sheltered people.

newhouseplans · 25/07/2025 05:50

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

I've had the same phone number since EE was 1-2-1, way before it was T-Mobile. I think it must be over 20 years now.

NetZeroZealot · 25/07/2025 05:57

SadAboutSD · 24/07/2025 23:51

What's with the Sally and Tim reference? Is it a Coronation Street thing?

Also, maybe the reason they ignored OP and her family is because ... they couldn't actually see them <cue spooky music> because they're not really there 👻

Salt Path.

NetZeroZealot · 25/07/2025 06:00

What a strange tale!

I also want to know if the DH has checked him out on Linked In.

Richiewoo · 25/07/2025 06:02

Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:49

I'm afraid, for all those expecting this to run and run, that's it. There's nothing more. We had a quick look round the house to see if anything's missing, but we've never been wealthy and there's nothing much to steal and nothing missing. I have an ancient Babylis hair drier and it's still plugged in in my bedroom.

I don't think we're particularly gullible. DH likes having friends and guests to stay — much more so than I do — and has form for holding an open house. But in the past when we've had friends of friends or whatever to stay they've been good company and it's been enjoyable. These people were just unfriendly. I don't really want to waste any more time on them by disappearing down rabbit holes trying to work out what was going on.

Edited

This is a load of nonsense.

AussieManque · 25/07/2025 06:14

Can your husband contact his actual ex colleague and ask if he was recently on holiday in your area? To confirm if it was actually the colleague or not? Or ask in a more indirect way. Or ask other colleagues if colleague X was on holiday last week.

AussieManque · 25/07/2025 06:19

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

I've had mine for 23 years, even while living abroad. My best friends from uni all have the same number since then too. Nothing unusual about that!

Empress13 · 25/07/2025 06:22

More fool you ! Who on earth lets someone they dont remember stay free for 4 nts ? Bonkers

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