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Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were

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Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

OP posts:
Southern25 · 25/07/2025 00:41

24Dogcuddler · 24/07/2025 23:25

It’s like the bit in National Lampoon’s European Vacation. The whole family stay with someone they think is a relative. Poor old couple have no clue who they are but entertain them anyway. There’s a language barrier. They only stay one night though.
All so bizarre!

😂

NellitheNelephant · 25/07/2025 00:42

I really love Op's description of her dh's anxiety - all brought about by himself. His unwillingness to confess that he made a mistake and invited total strangers to spend 3 nights under their roof, and that all they have to show for it is some Aldi chocolate.

placemats · 25/07/2025 00:44

Aldeh, look it up Oasis, has some fantastic rose wine.

Longdarkcloud · 25/07/2025 00:46

I think the answer is quite simple: they are on the run from either the police or a criminal gang/debt collectors. What better way to drop out of sight than to stay with people with whom you have had no previous association.
If they are caught you may be getting a call from their pursuers

FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 25/07/2025 00:47

ShallIstart · 25/07/2025 00:32

Its really weird that theh would have your bumber and remember where you live ten years later.
There is absolutely not a chance in hell that if my holiday accomodation wasnt suitable that I would find a random colleague I worked with ten years ago, and turn up on their doorstep and expect to stay. In fact hell would freeze over before i did this. I just would never. It is so odd. I dont even turn up at family members houses like that.

That's what I'm thinking... I'd max out the credit card to book a hotel for the night or drive the 5 hours home. I'd rather die a thousand deaths than contact an ex colleague and hit them up for a bed for 3 nights.
What was the point in "holidaying" in your house if they never left the house?

Nchangeo · 25/07/2025 00:47

I don’t know whether to laugh or cry. This is both hilarious and terrifying.

How are you sleeping?!?!?

coxesorangepippin · 25/07/2025 00:49

Sounds very odd indeed

VintedoreBay · 25/07/2025 00:50

I wouldn't hang about until the weekend to change the locks! Get them changed Friday morning!

cyvguhb · 25/07/2025 00:55

What's the thinking behind all the change the locks posts? Is it that they've stolen the house keys and the husband hasn't noticed or they are professionals who travel with special equipment on the hope they can dupe random people into letting th stay then somehow make copies when they aren't looking?

Either way you'd have to admire their planning and pluck

PlayingDevilsAdvocateisinteresting · 25/07/2025 00:57

namechangedjustforthisthreadtoday · 24/07/2025 22:37

They weren't called Sally and Tim by any chance?

Well I think it is a great story whether it is true, or the start of a novel/la!

Please keep us informed if you find out anything else @Wineberrywine, and yes, change the locks, and check if it looks like anyone has been rifling through your draws. Oh, and do you know who they rented the damaged property off, or where it was? 🌻

VintedoreBay · 25/07/2025 01:00

VintedoreBay · 25/07/2025 00:50

I wouldn't hang about until the weekend to change the locks! Get them changed Friday morning!

Peace of mind! Knowing you've at least done something proactive to mitigate invasion of privacy and personal space.

BeaLola · 25/07/2025 01:03

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

Tbh I have the same original mobile number I was given, nearly 30 years ago ...

PlayingDevilsAdvocateisinteresting · 25/07/2025 01:03

Well, it turns out that this whole thread might be strange, as when I posted my above post just after I had read as far as the PPs comment, it did not show that there were any other posts, never mind 6 or 7 pages of them....

LancashireButterPie · 25/07/2025 01:05

Id assume they were on the run, either from the police, social services, bailiffs, border force or a gang.

GentleJadeOP · 25/07/2025 01:09

Wow! In a weird way I love this as though it’s a tv drama but obviously it’s real life and must be scary. I think you should report this to police. I think he has looked at FB and found out a few facts and totally deceived you to get free accommodation. Keep us updated please and make sure you keep all the photos and door cam footage

BeaLola · 25/07/2025 01:10

It's so weird , I just can't imagine why you accommodated them - I think homeless too but it would be lovely to find out the truth

What did your DH do for 3 days ? I would have asked so many questions they would have left

GentleJadeOP · 25/07/2025 01:10

PlayingDevilsAdvocateisinteresting · 25/07/2025 01:03

Well, it turns out that this whole thread might be strange, as when I posted my above post just after I had read as far as the PPs comment, it did not show that there were any other posts, never mind 6 or 7 pages of them....

That’s odd. Mines on here ok I think….

RosesAndHellebores · 25/07/2025 01:13

Have you checked your passports, utility bills, bank statements, etc., in case of identity theft.

I assume you have their full names and address? Has your husband checked them.out with former colleagues?

Did you not play hostess and jolly them to the dinner table and ask lots of open questions?

Crow17 · 25/07/2025 01:16

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

That’s about the only part of the story that isn’t weird.

It’s been a long time since a new phone required a new phone number. Most people I know have had the same number for 20+ years.

GrandTheftWalrus · 25/07/2025 01:17

Lotta shite.

TeaCupTornado · 25/07/2025 01:18

This reminds me of that amazon prime show sneaky Pete. Pete was a cellmate with a guy marius. Pete went on and on about leaving jail and visiting his distant family he'd not seen in years. Marius listened a lot and was released before Pete and needed somewhere to stay so assumed Pete's identity, basically blagging his way along to the family. Marius was actually a conman and I think he initially intended to rip off the family. Can't remember now but it was a good show!

BeaLola · 25/07/2025 01:21

I decided to reread the thread as I'm incredulous that your DH let them stay - I'm still thinking homeless as wouldn't you come up with a better excuse

Please tell me that it had rained in your area and that there are chalets nearby so at least that line was plausible

3 day omg

viques · 25/07/2025 01:21

I would be checking they hadn’t left a Korean granny in your attic. You never know.

MarxistMags · 25/07/2025 01:24

That's the weirdest thing I've heard of. Your husband is obviously too nice a person !

sarsaparillatree · 25/07/2025 01:24

Isn't this "The Talented Mr. Ripley"