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Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were

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Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

OP posts:
Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 25/07/2025 07:57

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 25/07/2025 05:30

Do you actually even get it???

Nope!! Was to be my next question but I fell asleep!! Please tell!! I just think it’s a funny word?

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 07:59

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 25/07/2025 07:57

Nope!! Was to be my next question but I fell asleep!! Please tell!! I just think it’s a funny word?

Calling someone a "bungalow" implies lack of intelligence, because "there's nothing upstairs".

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 25/07/2025 08:01

LittleCosette · 25/07/2025 07:29

This person’s reaction to someone being called a “bungalow” is by far the weirdest post on this thread- so hyperbolic!

Possibly, but then again I laugh at farts..

Horses7 · 25/07/2025 08:03

Sounds like the beginning of a horror movie - definitely very weird!

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 25/07/2025 08:03

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 07:59

Calling someone a "bungalow" implies lack of intelligence, because "there's nothing upstairs".

Thankyou, makes sense now. Never ever heard it before!!! I just thought it was a random thing to call someone!!

MounjaroMounjaro · 25/07/2025 08:09

I can sort of understand your husband agreeing to letting them stay for one night in an emergency, but I can't understand why they wouldn't just go home the following morning - or even that night, tbh. What was the point in them staying for longer? They weren't enjoying the local area. When you asked what their plans were for the day, what did they say?

MounjaroMounjaro · 25/07/2025 08:10

Has your husband checked whether the guy still works at his old company?

MyDeftDuck · 25/07/2025 08:11

Sorry, but after I arrived home from work they’d have been served a sandwich and a cuppa and then given the numbers of local B & B’s and shown the door.

RedRec · 25/07/2025 08:13

BySassyGreenPanda · 25/07/2025 06:29

Claire Skinner

This is perfect! She plays put-upon yet a pushover really well.

Conniebygaslight · 25/07/2025 08:13

TheFinePrintess · 24/07/2025 23:43

ITV drama, cast consists of:
Jill Halfpenny as OP
Mark Addy as the DH
David Threlfall as the imposter dad!

Edited

No, if it’s Jill Halfpenny it will be one of those Channel 5 dramas that you think are going to be good but ALWAYS turn out utterly shit.

Conniebygaslight · 25/07/2025 08:15

If any of this is real….and I doubt it is. I’d be looking at your own DH. He knows a lot more than he’s letting on.

MolluscMonday · 25/07/2025 08:17

I also think they’ve been homeless and were sofa surfing.

The bigger issue for me is the communication between you and your husband, and his lack of consideration for your boundaries.

ButtCheeks · 25/07/2025 08:18

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

I’ve had the same number since the first laying of telecommunications cables under the Atlantic seabed several lifetimes ago.

LadyRoughDiamond · 25/07/2025 08:24

FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 22:39

Who will play the OP?

Joanne Froggatt. It’s always Joanne bloody Froggatt.

YourJoyousDenimExpert · 25/07/2025 08:25

It all sounds very weird. I was wondering if there had been enough rain recently to cause a holiday chalet to leak…..not where I live certainly…..very odd and I would be in overdrive online trying to check out who they are!!

BySassyGreenPanda · 25/07/2025 08:25

MascaraGirl · 25/07/2025 07:33

Can someone tell me the story of the vanishing ironing board, I clearly missed that one?

There was an ironing board...........then it was gone. Vanished apparently. We don't know the bit in the middle 😂

TheFinePrintess · 25/07/2025 08:26

Conniebygaslight · 25/07/2025 08:13

No, if it’s Jill Halfpenny it will be one of those Channel 5 dramas that you think are going to be good but ALWAYS turn out utterly shit.

True but you don’t realise until halfway through the second episode then you have to know how it ends so you end up sort of watching it all in the background while you’re scrolling MN for juicy dilemmas doing other stuff, I call it the shit TV sunk cost fallacy.
Im insisting on David Thelfall though!

CaptainMyCaptain · 25/07/2025 08:27

Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 23:28

It's odd you should say that. On day two I went into work and told a colleague what was going on and she said she wondered if they'd been made homeless — but they were travelling with the son's girlfriend. (19 and 20 yo) and that didn't make sense to me. I tried to speak to the wife alone because she seemed particularly unwilling to engage and I wondered whether she was in trouble, being coerced. Couldn't connect with her. Possibly they were just travelling around, looking for anywhere to stay. It would explain the mood.

Going to bed now. I'll get DH to change the locks at the weekend just to be on the safe side, though.

Was it Raynor Winn? Or someone else hoping to write a book about scamming people into looking after them?

Not for one moment doubting it's true but, out of interest, did you use AI to write the first post? It seemed like it to me so I'm just wondering if I'm right. I know some people use it for writing letters etc. No judgement just intellectual curiosity.

Edit: I haven't read the whole thread but have read all the OP's posts.

ghostyslovesheets · 25/07/2025 08:30

Was he called Tony? Did he blink a lot?

also please never watch The Visit

Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were
Cavello · 25/07/2025 08:30

LardoBurrows · 25/07/2025 00:28

Honestly, your husband sounds like a right bungalow.

😂😂

InSpainTheRain · 25/07/2025 08:33

This is one of most bizarre things I've ever read on MN! Creepy too!

MascaraGirl · 25/07/2025 08:33

BySassyGreenPanda · 25/07/2025 08:25

There was an ironing board...........then it was gone. Vanished apparently. We don't know the bit in the middle 😂

Let's hope someone comes along soon who can fill in the blanks, otherwise this will dominate my Friday!

Sandyoldelbows · 25/07/2025 08:34

If it’s true and on investigation they turn out to be imposters it’s obviously worth letting police banks know because they are clearly dodgy - fraudulently impersonating someone at least and very possibly scammers of some kind. If it’s something they are doing repeatedly and people tell the police they will / may be able to spot a pattern. Let bank know in case of fraud, theft, unusual spending etc.

BySassyGreenPanda · 25/07/2025 08:35

TheFinePrintess · 25/07/2025 08:26

True but you don’t realise until halfway through the second episode then you have to know how it ends so you end up sort of watching it all in the background while you’re scrolling MN for juicy dilemmas doing other stuff, I call it the shit TV sunk cost fallacy.
Im insisting on David Thelfall though!

I think you're on to something. There's a lot of shit on TV that I bet when they were filming they thought 'this is shit'. In these cases they just bank on the sunk cost fallacy for viewing figures. That explains a lot really.