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Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were

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Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

OP posts:
Nevermeever · 25/07/2025 08:40

google ‘long lost acquaintance scam’ and take a look at the AI response, also a Facebook post. Something about responding to their phone number.
It doesn’t explain why they sat it out for three days but something rings alarm bells.

butterpuffed · 25/07/2025 08:44

BufferingAgain · 25/07/2025 07:35

This reminds me of that movie Speak No Evil, except they came to stay with you. Just how far will we let people go to avoid awkwardness?

That said I’m seeing the familiar Chat GTP em dashes on these posts.

The long dashes ? I noticed them too , didn't know they're connected to Chat GTP !

Whatareyoutalkingaboutnow · 25/07/2025 08:46

I just cannot believe you shopped and cooked for a bunch of strangers who couldn't look at you or talk to you.. stayed in your home several nights. Nope.

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 08:46

ButtCheeks · 25/07/2025 08:18

I’ve had the same number since the first laying of telecommunications cables under the Atlantic seabed several lifetimes ago.

I've had my number since Alexander Graham Bell gave me one of his early telephones. My number was 6, so I've had a few more digits added since then.

PuppyMonkey · 25/07/2025 08:48

The Hollywood version will be Nicole Kidman and George Clooney - and Brad Pitt as the old friend.

honeylulu · 25/07/2025 08:50

This is so weird. The weirdest thing about it is that that they stayed for 3 days and sat in the house sullen and miserable. When they were supposed to be "on holiday". If it's a scam it doesn't sound very enjoyable. Temporary homelessness sounds more likely but where was all their stuff?

It reminded me of the beginning of the film "Mother!" except the terrifying stuff didn't come to pass.

Have you tried looking up the bloke on social media?

Im laughing at the suggestions of a promising-sounding-but-shit Channel 5 drama. I think the OP woukd be played by Sally Whatserface (was Shelley in Corrie) who seems to have a long running contract with C5 and always plays bolshy but gullible/baffled. Jason Watkins as the perplexed wet husband (also often on C5 but a better actor than the material deserves).

RedRec · 25/07/2025 08:50

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 25/07/2025 08:03

Thankyou, makes sense now. Never ever heard it before!!! I just thought it was a random thing to call someone!!

Joan Collins famously had a boyfriend called Bungalow Bill in the 1980s. Might be where a lot of us oldies know it from.

rainbowstardrops · 25/07/2025 08:55

Bonkers

researchers3 · 25/07/2025 08:57

LardoBurrows · 25/07/2025 00:28

Honestly, your husband sounds like a right bungalow.

😆

MascaraGirl · 25/07/2025 08:59

researchers3 · 25/07/2025 08:57

😆

But I think 'plant pot' describes him even better?!

the80sweregreat · 25/07/2025 09:01

It is so bizarre and no wonder you were annoyed at your Dh for being welcoming ( at first) and not saying no. They sound awful and I would have definitely checked out where the chalet was to see if that was true. Maybe trying looking them up on SM , the younger ones may be on there at least.

researchers3 · 25/07/2025 09:02

Your DH could have put you both in danger!

Surely, even if he couldn't recognise the bloke's face, he'd have recognised his voice or walk? I cant imagine being in any doubt about anyone I've worked with previously.

I cant believe he had doubts but continued to let them stay tbh. One night I could see due to being so surprised but not 3!

I'd call 111 and give them the car reg.

Mulledjuice · 25/07/2025 09:02

FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 22:37

I think it'll run to 3 threads.

Will OP return though?

hopspot · 25/07/2025 09:03

LardoBurrows · 25/07/2025 00:28

Honestly, your husband sounds like a right bungalow.

Casey?

Bunshaped · 25/07/2025 09:05

So....

"they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years"

but also...

"Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area"

No contact for years but knows what your area is in the whole of the UK. Even though you've moved away from the area where your DH knew him.

Really???

AussieManque · 25/07/2025 09:06

butterpuffed · 25/07/2025 08:44

The long dashes ? I noticed them too , didn't know they're connected to Chat GTP !

I've heard before they are connected to chatGPT but I always get long dashes in Word. If you type a word, then leave a space, then a dash, then another space, and keep typing a word then space, the dash lengthens. So OP might have typed this in word first.

Sandyoldelbows · 25/07/2025 09:07

Can’t believe I didn’t notice the em dashes. Bloody AI 🙄.

whitewineandsun · 25/07/2025 09:08

I did think of Speak No Evil. The premise is interesting. How far will people go in the name of politeness?

"Why did you do it?"
"Because you let me."

Lighteningstrikes · 25/07/2025 09:08

You’re both far too trusting. Anything could have happened.

cyvguhb · 25/07/2025 09:09

Sandyoldelbows · 25/07/2025 09:07

Can’t believe I didn’t notice the em dashes. Bloody AI 🙄.

Obviously I don't know if this is true but using AI to write posts doesn't automatically mean it isn't. This is becoming a more and more common way for people to "write" their posts

the80sweregreat · 25/07/2025 09:10

Might be worth reporting but ..
the police probably won’t be helpful because they were invited in your house and didn’t break in and they didn’t take anything ( apart from food and that was offered to them) so they may just log it , but I doubt they will do much. Definitely check out the chalet though or try and find out who lets them ( is it a holiday company ?)
Although they won’t tell you anything either I bet unless it’s an actual owner who may be a bit more helpful.
They may even have false names or past history of this kind of thing too and struck lucky with your Dh having the same telephone number he had before and agreeing to letting them stay. They obviously had his telephone number written down somewhere or stored.

Bunshaped · 25/07/2025 09:14

I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go.

Seriously? Some random people just spent 3 nights in your house uninvited, you're both not even 100% sure who they were and you're considering letting it go?

(assuming this is true, of course...)

Lighteningstrikes · 25/07/2025 09:17

I’ve just realised it was for 3 nights, and not 1 night!!!

So in effect the CFs have had a free little break away. How lovely for them 😵

octopustheslapper · 25/07/2025 09:20

This has so much potential to be a classic 😂

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