Not all pilots are men. But the general assumption is that being a pilot is a male profession. So for those of us who do this job, it does matter that people assume a pilot must be a man, especially when we want it to be seen as a role that women are equally as capable of doing.
Aaaaaanyway. Lots and lots of speculation going on here. The professional thing to do is not to speculate. Much of the relevant information has not yet been released. Until then, it’s all guesswork, which is gruesome.
Just to add to the bits of information already here about the fuel control switches - it would not be possible to accidentally knock them off. They are spring loaded and guarded. They are not on a part of the flight controls that are regularly used during the take off, so it would be unlikely that they were mistaken for another control switch. Pilots well, the ones I work with, do rehearse what they would do in the event of an engine failure before each departure, in order to cement the muscle memory in for emergency procedures. During engine start and shut down at the start and end of a flight, along with this mental rehearsal, would be the only times the fuel control switches would be touched. The controls in each 787 these pilots flew would be identical. The touching of each control would be almost second nature - when you are in your car you don’t think where the indicator switch is, you just know. That muscle memory is so embedded that when you get in a car where the indicator and windscreen wipers are on the opposite sides you will find yourself switching the windscreen wipers on by mistake! The same is true in a commercial aircraft - that muscle memory is strong. These switches would not be touched by mistake, unless there were many other factors at play. And as yet, we do not know what those factors could be. So, although I have plenty of experience of commercial flying (nearly but not quite as much as Notimagain 😉) I have no further guesses to make here until more information is known.
It is worth remembering that the average pilot just wants to go to work, do their job, and come home again in one piece. For the most of us, that is how our career will go. For the unfortunate few, it doesn’t end that way. Each one of us is a human being though, with family who read all the articles and speculation. It’s worth being respectful of those who are still trying to work out what the heck happened to their family members. The fingers are pointing squarely at the pilots atm, which let the aircraft and engine manufacturers off the hook for now. But these things rarely come down to the unadulterated actions of one single person just doing their job.