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Assisted Dying Bill passed by slim majority

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smallglassbottle · 20/06/2025 15:24

https://news.sky.com/story/politics-latest-starmer-assisted-dying-trump-israel-iran-labour-12593360

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OntheBorder1 · 20/06/2025 23:22

BetsyMacdonald · 20/06/2025 23:04

Well - you didn’t actually ask me anything as I’m not the poster to whom you were replying .
I am however aware that there have been many considerable, horrific , documented cases in every country in which assisted dying has been implemented. This is because I’ve researched the subject as you easily can yourself by using google or another search engine of your choice .

I haven't the time or the inclination to research the subject. If you are going to make such sweeping statements then you can provide the proof. Google or any search engine doesn't actually provide proof btw, the information is only as good as what is provided - it's not some magic source of truth you know.

OntheBorder1 · 20/06/2025 23:25

Beepbird · 20/06/2025 23:16

@OntheBorder1 agree with you in that sense, but having watched my mum die a very uncomfortable, undignified,drawn out and traumatic death it’s something that haunts me years later. Maybe that’s me being selfish, but the thought of having the choice to avoid that, and avoid putting my child through it, makes me fervently hope the bill passes.

I'm sorry you had to go through that, and understand that it does happen. However, you shouldn't make such sweeping statements, as it isn't always that way. 💐

Noodledog · 20/06/2025 23:26

OntheBorder1 · 20/06/2025 23:22

I haven't the time or the inclination to research the subject. If you are going to make such sweeping statements then you can provide the proof. Google or any search engine doesn't actually provide proof btw, the information is only as good as what is provided - it's not some magic source of truth you know.

As far as I'm aware, the only country that hasn't seen significant "mission creep" is Switzerland. Which, for European countries, is about as culturally different to the UK as it's possible to be

KitTea3 · 20/06/2025 23:30

My concern lies not so much with the current legislation

But with the possibility it could change over time.it started much as ours has, for those who are terminally ill however the criteria over time has been extended, and despite the fact that mental illness has up to know been excluded those provisons will end by 2027 and mentally ill people will be then eligible.

I 100% agree in the case of terminal illness or where it's degenerative and will only result in continued suffering it should be an option.

However having read the proposals on the parliament website(under debate packs) a lot of the safeguarding measures WERE dismissed. The Royal College of Psychiatrists also said they were not satisfied about safety with the current guidelines.

Pinkrosesyellowroses · 20/06/2025 23:32

wordywitch · 20/06/2025 16:40

Having watched my sister die in the same way, I’m 100% with you. I suspect the vast majority of people who are against this have not had to watch a loved one suffer and die, slowly, in great pain.

Both my parents were medicated at the end so they did not suffer pain. Palliative care can alleviate pain; I’m sorry your sister did not receive this kind of care at the end of her life.

Beepbird · 20/06/2025 23:32

@OntheBorder1 i didn’t make a sweeping statement-I agreed with a PP. And I stand by what I say, if you’ve haven’t experienced it, then you don’t know how it feels to watch it. You had a good experience and I’m glad for you that you did. Many others do not. The right to choose is all I support.

Pinkrosesyellowroses · 20/06/2025 23:37

Sandy420 · 20/06/2025 17:17

But you would rather force them to live miserably, feeling guilty and a burden for the rest of their life?

Anyway, no one is going to be making patients feel it would be better for their families if they end their life, just as no one is currently making patients feel their should have an abortion because it would be better for their boyfriend.

Honestly the hyperbole on her is just on this thread is just ridiculous.

Their families themselves might make them feel that it would be better for them to end their lives eg by letting them know they are a burden. They don’t need anyone else to do this for them.

placemats · 20/06/2025 23:42

ruffler45 · 20/06/2025 20:19

The MP who has been promoting it worries me as she seems to be rushing it through and dismissing lots of concerns by other MPs. Dont think there are enough safeguards.

Thank goodness that at the moment medical staff can opt out of the process. I understand that in Canada and elsewhere this in NOT the case.

The lethal cocktail they use elsewhere (not sure what they will use in UK) does not seem a pleasant way to go for anyone.

Edited

Why are you making things up? I understand concerns about assisted dying from many people who have cogent arguments against it. But your post does nothing to help.

BetsyMacdonald · 20/06/2025 23:44

OntheBorder1 · 20/06/2025 23:22

I haven't the time or the inclination to research the subject. If you are going to make such sweeping statements then you can provide the proof. Google or any search engine doesn't actually provide proof btw, the information is only as good as what is provided - it's not some magic source of truth you know.

Why have you come on an Mumsnet thread to argue about something you haven’t the ‘ time or inclination to research ? ‘

It’s a really serious subject which WILL affect you and / or people you love .
I’d gently suggest your valuable time would be better spent looking into it instead of trying to pointlessly upset decent people on the internet.
Learning how to use a search engine with discernment for research is a very useful skill which I’m sure you could acquire .Try peer reviewed papers ‘ on the subject or read respected journals . Good luck !

placemats · 20/06/2025 23:45

Pinkrosesyellowroses · 20/06/2025 23:37

Their families themselves might make them feel that it would be better for them to end their lives eg by letting them know they are a burden. They don’t need anyone else to do this for them.

Are you suggesting that those who have mental capacity and are known to gps and consultants can be coerced by their family into taking their own lives?

gingerelephant · 20/06/2025 23:46

I am sad this bill has passed the third reading, I think the safeguards are poor and are poorer than they were in the previous readings. Some of the claims that were made over the course of the last 5 or so months were simply not true and had to be taken back. I did not like the way that it is being paraded as the "right thing to do" it is an "an opinion that it is the right thing to do" and to say that it is a progressive move is in my view quite wrong. We are all entitled to our view but the fact that this week we see the rights of an unborn child being swept aside and now we have this bill being passed in my view shows less regard for human life which is worrying. I worry that people will feel a burden to their families and opt for assisted dying, what next those with MH issues opting and being assisted and what after this. This is in my view a worrying an upsetting day.

RedRec · 20/06/2025 23:49

I always find the excessive weeping and wailing and triumphalism by any group of people that wants to kill things rather repulsive. How do these people get to be so very passionate about extinguishing life? See also ferocious advocacy of late abortions.

BetsyMacdonald · 20/06/2025 23:49

placemats · 20/06/2025 23:45

Are you suggesting that those who have mental capacity and are known to gps and consultants can be coerced by their family into taking their own lives?

Yes . I have watched too many families behave appalling towards vulnerable elderly relatives .
If you doubt this ask the manager of ANY care home about it

placemats · 20/06/2025 23:58

@BetsyMacdonald I worked in care homes for 2 years, and if anything two things happen: prolong an undignified life - men who do this for their wives are very handsy with the younger female workers

  • neglect because they are poor and have no visitors (basically in rags).
joanofaardvark · 21/06/2025 00:02

MiloMinderbinder925 · 20/06/2025 21:17

You need to be able to consent and take the medication yourself. Therefore you don't need to write it beforehand.

But if you demand those wishes are recorded in writing in your records, who is going to disobey them?
Use your own autonomy in the way I want to use mine.

When I’m dying I want the choice to be able to end it before I’m petering out. I want control over when I have suffered enough.

NewspaperTaxis · 21/06/2025 00:17

The debate has been at cross purposes - those who say how awful it is that such suffering goes on at the end of a person's life - and I agree with this, but I opposed the Bill because - and these objections are comprehensively ignored by the Pro lobby - because the safeguards aren't there, and the State has been killing off the elderly and vulnerable at pace anyway, no need for any more assistance.

This will be a Trojan horse for euthanasia, to firm up what has already been going on. Tbf, the State must be thinking, why, we can kill off those lacking in mental capacity and have been doing this for years on the quiet, why on earth should we deny those who do have mental capacity, and whose deaths will also save money for the NHS?

Noodledog · 21/06/2025 00:21

placemats · 20/06/2025 23:45

Are you suggesting that those who have mental capacity and are known to gps and consultants can be coerced by their family into taking their own lives?

Yes, of course they can be. Surely you understand coercion, it's hardly a new or controversial idea

placemats · 21/06/2025 00:30

Noodledog · 21/06/2025 00:21

Yes, of course they can be. Surely you understand coercion, it's hardly a new or controversial idea

Of course I understand coercive behaviour. It's easy to spot and not beyond the wit of any professional in any capacity.

Have you ever had to dress a catatonic resident whose loving family has only provided non stretch clothing?

shreddednips · 21/06/2025 00:38

I’m in favour of assisted dying in principle, but I’m NOT in favour of this bill or assisted dying being implemented in the state that the country is in currently. It just doesn’t make sense that people are saying that our current system can’t provide decent palliative care with adequate symptom relief, and in the same breath say that they believe the current system is capable of delivering a dignified, comfortable and safe (as in not coerced) assisted death. Currently, it’s almost impossible in some areas to get timely healthcare for common, highly treatable illnesses. In what universe is the same system capable of providing a safe, well-managed assisted dying service?

DrPrunesqualer · 21/06/2025 01:13

OnlyDespairRemains · 20/06/2025 21:30

No, that's not what I said is it? In a perfect world we would have all of the money we need for everyone to have fantastic medical and palliative care from cradle to grave, no-one would die horrible painful deaths, there would be no war or fighting, etc etc.

Unfortunately for us, we all have to live in the real world though, where money is a finite resource and we have to make hard decisions about where it is best spent.

So
you’re saying nhs money spent on the care of those who are dying is not a good use of resources !!

Really!

DrPrunesqualer · 21/06/2025 01:14

placemats · 21/06/2025 00:30

Of course I understand coercive behaviour. It's easy to spot and not beyond the wit of any professional in any capacity.

Have you ever had to dress a catatonic resident whose loving family has only provided non stretch clothing?

This isn’t about the use of the wrong dressings though
This is about a vulnerable person be8ng coerced that health professionals will not always be able to pick up on.
They wont
They are not mind readers

DrPrunesqualer · 21/06/2025 01:19

joanofaardvark · 21/06/2025 00:02

But if you demand those wishes are recorded in writing in your records, who is going to disobey them?
Use your own autonomy in the way I want to use mine.

When I’m dying I want the choice to be able to end it before I’m petering out. I want control over when I have suffered enough.

This isn’t about the wants of one individual though
This isn’t about watching our loved ones die and wishing it was easier

This is about considering the bill in the wider since of whether there are enough safeguards in place for everyone
Health professionals are against it because those safeguards are simply either not there or not robust enough

DrPrunesqualer · 21/06/2025 01:25

OntheBorder1 · 20/06/2025 23:02

I have watched a loved one die during end of life care and it wasn't a horrible experience. It was peaceful and it was a privilege for me to be there. Surely everyone in the UK doesn't die in a stage of unbearable suffering?

I'm not debating the bill btw, just pointing out that your statement isn't necessarily true.

I’ve sat by the bedside of four relatives whilst they died and none of them suffered.
They were all well cared for.

DrPrunesqualer · 21/06/2025 01:39

Mayflyoff · 20/06/2025 19:38

So you'd rather that some care homes and hospices are allowed to keep patients hostage and deny them the assisted dying available to others?

Yeah, probably best they close and the NHS funding they get be transferred to other facilities. Maybe new facilities could be set up that don't discriminate based on their own arbitrary beliefs. I think they might be able to find suitable premises from some recently closed ones.

The nhs can’t afford to fund care homes and hospices.
Thats why the majority are privately funded.
The resources aren’t there to look after the elderly and the terminally Ill. Both seem to be always at the bottom of the pile.

Meanwhile various religious institutions have picked up the flack and provided that care.
If euthanasia is against the beliefs of those religions they can’t be forced to provide them. Let’s not forget the facilities are not exclusive so there could be people who want assisted dying and let’s also not forget that doctors attending will have to suggest assisted dying as an option to everyone. That is not within the belief system of certain religions.
So those places of support will be lost.

If you are aware of funding available for all these new care homes and hospices I’d love to see it.
It’s also worth noting the buildings are owned by the institutions, not by the nhs. So they’ll have to find land and buildings as well.

Ultimately it’s obvious what will happen.
Much needed care will be lost to the system and will not be replaced. Families will be put under pressure to care for their terminally Ill loved ones through lack of anything else and people will feel pressured to end their lives than be a burden on their family.

We, the country and the nhs are not in a position to implement this bill appropriately and for those who think it’s a cheaper solution shame on you!

DrPrunesqualer · 21/06/2025 02:01

Noodledog · 20/06/2025 22:42

I don't know about about having more supporters, but depressingly, the House of Lords seems to be more likely to scrutinize the actual details of the bill and question any problems.

They’ve done this with many bills
I agree there should always be a second ‘house’ of some sort to check these things.