I can't say what I want to say.

[Lost44]

I feel like i have been beaten down mentally. I take it and take it. I have had it for years. But I still stay here because I don't see why I should have to leave. Its also company for me. Im talking about MN. Of course the answer is to leave. But I probably won't. I can't report because its not rule breaking people stay behide that line.

This post is opening myself up. But it feels like a no win situation if I say something I open myself up . If I don't say anything I can't tell anyone. And if I tell anyone I can cause a pile on.

Why not stay on MN but avoid the contentious issue?

It seems you are allowed to say what you want to, but people disagree with you?

Or go onto reddit and find a group where opposite opinion isn't allowed to say what you want to?

Or maybe consider if everything you raise your topic people disagree, that maybe they are right?

What on earth are you on about?
Before reading your entire post I was inclined to say that that's the beauty of MNet because in rl I nod and smile and keep the peace but here I can say what I like and be disagreeable if I feel like it.

If it's not against guidelines you could just say it? Or, yknow, just hang out on the Christmas and housekeeping boards if you need a break from contentious subjects

It's not to do with disagreements or how mums works. I can't just say it because I open myself up, to more of what's causing upset. Sorry I know I'm talking in riddles. I think I was trying to say it without actually saying it so I don't open myself up to more. and get it of my chest at the same time.

Perhaps post in the MH section where you may feel more comfortable about saying what's troubling you and get posts from people who've the same shared experience as yourself.

It sounds like you need more help than what this board can offer. I don't know what it is that you want without the criticism; sympathy, advice or companionship. Usually it's a package deal. If you find the board that most closely matches your concern then it can be less inflammatory, although usually less populated. But in any event, anything you can do to fix a problem happens beyond Mumsnet, so you'd be better off seeking real life support.

that's the beauty of MNet because in rl I nod and smile and keep the peace but here I can say what I like and be disagreeable if I feel like it
This is the problem with the internet in a nutshell!

It's to do with other users of mumsnet. But I can't say anything because then I get told "it's different of opinion" "not everyone will agree with you" " you won't always get the replies you want" im just drained from all the nastiness I have had for years. But now i have said that I'm now thinking im going to get piled on.

Oh, this is just a pity party because people don't agree with you? I thought you were upset or distressed not just wallowing in a persecution complex. Try, toughening up?

There's no need for a pile on but surely you must see that people will have different experiences and opinions on any given subject matter.

But that's how the world works, not everyone will agree with you. It's not nastiness for someone to not agree. Some threads can't all have lovely supportive responses.

Nope you have read it completely wrong . I said in my above post, this is what people would say. And disagreeing has absolutely nothing to do with it.

It's the internet. This place can be brutal and that's not going to change with thousands of people available to proffer their opinions.
Some people for whatever reason or personal experience are going to have strong opinions that can upset

Don't bother worrying. Keep your sanity op.

Yes, well maybe stop being so bloody mysterious? This is a discussion forum, either discuss or don't.

So what is it you don't like?

I think this thread might be proving op’s point. You can disagree with someone without being condescending, implying they have mh issues, or just general insults.

I’ve had some amazing support on here but I’ve also been attacked in some subjects where opinions and emotions run high. Dog house used to be one I loved but I’ve moved away from it because some posters disagreed with my vet’s advice then got angry I wasn’t taking advice from randoms on the internet over my vet and other owners I know with the same breed. Sometimes treads spiral in bizarre ways. People put their own experiences into the mix and fail to understand their experience isn’t the same so not relevant. I just walk away and drop in on the safe topics. There’s some amazing support I’ve found on the weightloss threads.

So what’s the issue? You get that this is an internet forum? You can say what you like, provided you don’t contravene the basic moderation rules, but you can’t guarantee other people will like what you’re saying. Just like in your workplace, friendship groups and other RL social environments

People are going to be irritated now because you’re being cryptic. Say clearly what you mean and people will engage with you-they nay not agree, but that’s allowed. Try, and see what happens.

I would suggest counselling op. You can find a breadth of advice on here which can be excellent and so helpful, but you won’t be able to cherry pick your responses, and some you won’t agree with and that’s fine. If you are feeling fragile this is not the best place for you.

A counsellor is a safer option, and you can say whatever you like, and you can be very vulnerable.

Then I get piled on, nastiness, my words changed.

People think in talking about different opinion. Different ways of saying things or not sugar coating . But that's not what im talking about at all.

Now I have made it a bit more clear. i feel like I have opened myself up to more.

Well best of luck with with whatever it is that you are looking for. Mumsnet isn't the tool you need but there will be one out there.

Maybe step away from here and have a break from it.

You've not made it any clearer whatsoever.

But, hey ho. Stay, don't stay. Explain, don't explain. Whatever floats your boat.

Come off social media including musmnet and find a good counsellor? You know MN is optional? Do you have friends and support in real life? Work? A family? Get some help with your feelings of discontent and focus on making real life connections.

Try posting on the Feminism board for the last decade. We were not even allowed to call men 'men'. It is really wearing.