I can't say what I want to say.

[Lost44]

I feel like i have been beaten down mentally. I take it and take it. I have had it for years. But I still stay here because I don't see why I should have to leave. Its also company for me. Im talking about MN. Of course the answer is to leave. But I probably won't. I can't report because its not rule breaking people stay behide that line.

This post is opening myself up. But it feels like a no win situation if I say something I open myself up . If I don't say anything I can't tell anyone. And if I tell anyone I can cause a pile on.

You’re never going to get universal support. Some people may find things you’re posting problematic and will say so. It’s the nature of internet forums.

There are opinions I have which I know I will get some comeback for on Mumsnet in some places. So I decide on a case by case basis whether I want that sort of interaction today. Whether expressing my views is worth the hassle. Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t.

Because people saying their opinion on an anonymous forum and not breaking guidelines isn't bullying.

You said something and a bunch of people disagreed. So what? Listen to their opinions? Try and convince them yours are more valid? Just ignore things you don't agree with?

I'm pretty sure I know which poster you are
Yes there is bullying on mn
But I've not seen it on your threads. Just people responding to what you say

This is an online anonymous forum..I think if you're posting stuff like this you probably need to leave and seek help elsewhere. Life's too short.

You need to look at forums logically. If you argue, you just argue with “forum names” - you wouldn’t know these people if you passed them in the street.

So, if someone’s unpleasant, in your view, it really doesn’t matter in the great scheme of things.

What does it matter?

Forums are best treated lightly, with a sense of humour, and with the knowledge that some posters are fantasists anyway. 🤷‍♀️

I totally agree. I guess i was just having a moment. Time to shake it of and get on with my day.

It feels annoying when people tell you that you’re talking rubbish, when it’s a subject in which you have many years of experience in a variety of situations and they, although they have very specific knowledge, known have the breadth and are rude.

Don’t have the breadth!

Just do what l do OP, don't bother looking at responses.
I'm not here to say my way is the right way, or looking for validation.
I say my bit, and l never post anything negative or judgemental, because that's no help to no one and then simply move on.
If my response helps someone, good, if others don't necessarily agree, that's ok.

Do you also post on Facebook attentions seeking posts such as -

‘Worst day of my life!’

’Can’t take anymore!’

’Why me?’

and other cryptic posts just to get people asking if you’re ok?

I hate drama llamas that behave like this.

I say it how i see it not just online either.

This is an example of Mumsnet. I am sorry OP but Reddit is much more supportive. I agree that replies are often blunt and show no care. If you put this post on Reddit you will get a much more supportive response and probably accompanied by ideas as to how to deal with these issues - sad but true.

But any poster who posts the same thing over and over will eventually get the same responses. Doesn't matter which forum or platform.

if you are taking what anonymous strangers say on MN too much to heart then I would imagine that there is a lot going on in your life that is making you unhappy that has nothing to do with MN.
MN has its uses, I come here largely to laugh at the absurdities, but I can see that it is a good advice forum for inexperienced mothers. You need friends to talk to that know you and whom you trust. Sometimes building a friendship circle takes effort on the part of the individual, which is hard if you are shy and oversensitive, but remember everyone has their doubts and things that they feel self conscious about, no matter how together and confident they appear to others.

I honestly think some people on MN disagree for the sake of it sometimes! Not always, because I've had some great responses and MN has helped me sooo much. But when you put your own post up, you have to prepare for disagreements and not very nice comments, it's the way it is unfortunately, because it's anonymous people say what they like
Try not to take it personally, and no one knows who you are so equally you can say whatever you like!