Forcing guests to close toilet lid before flushing

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In our house, we close the toilet lid before flushing. Reason being is that the poo/wee water spray will go absolutely everywhere if the lid is left open (lots of videos available online if anyone is interested).

The issue we have is that pretty much ALL guests don’t do this. Now, I don’t mind what people choose to do in their own homes and appreciate that the majority of the population are happy for everything in the vicinity of their loo to be covered in urine and faeces don’t bother to close the lid. However, I would much prefer it if they closed the lid before flushing in our house.

How can we make it happen? In a previous home, the flush button was literally behind the toilet lid, so it should have been easy to close the lid just to get to the button and people STILL left the lid up every time.

Don’t really want to put a sign up (would be annoying the majority of the time when we don’t have guests), nor to speak to people about it (cringe). Any ingenious ideas that could work? Surely we’re not the only people who prefer the lid closed - how have others made it work with guests?

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Do you also leave your cupboard and wardrobe doors open all the time?

Respectfully - you sound unhinged.

I always close the lid to flush. Then I open to check the loo and seat is clean and clear for the next user.

At my work we have toilets that can’t be flushed unless the lid is down so they do exist.

Same. People worry about the most extreme things. I can’t imagine giving any thought to how people flush my toilet when they use it, let alone fretting to the point of starting a thread. I don’t spend any time pondering the toilet habits of those around me. I just clean the loos twice a week and have done with it.

So you want guest to put the lid down because it’s unhygienic bit also expect them to put their bare hands in the loo to clean skids marks?

Talk about double standards.

I mean I thought it was over the top re lid but heyho, your house, your rules.
But if also expect visitors to leave a spotless loo but no no toilet brush etc… 🤢🤢🤢. That’s a100x worse

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How many times have you been made dangerously ill from this? I suspect never. You can’t force visitors to behave like this unless you want them to think you’re a little bit, how shall I put it, over zealous? Simply clean the toilet/bathroom after your visitors have left.

Have you been spying on me?!

I’ve never considered someone might consider a wardrobe and a toilet to be one and the same.

Indeed. I'm wondering what's so offensive about the sight of a toilet with the lid up?

When I have these odd obsessions (which I do) I run them through the sanity filter of 'would I know about this if it wasn't for the internet?'

The internet is a wonderful resource for cat videos, information about the sunday opening hours of the co-op, how to get candlewax off a carpet, but it can also make you aware of stuff that previously only specialist scientists would know. The fact is we all happily went about our bathroom business without a second thought from the time that indoor plumbing became the norm to the invention of youtube. The age of cholera was over and the age of hyper-hygiene obsession hadn't begun. Simpler times.

Switch off your overthinking brain, step away from the internet, trust your brilliant body's resilience to tolerate less than sterile conditions and enjoy spending time with friends and family in your home.

Oooo another level of trauma for some people..... So you need a wee but the toilet seat is down in your friends house. Presumably the previous user has closed the lid with their pooey/ wee covered hands and then washed them and left the toilet. So do you lift the lid, where there might be poo/ wee particles, and then put that hand on your trouser buttons or do you lower you trousers whilst standing, then lift the lid, wee, leave the lid up whilst you adjust your clothes ( your own hands might have wee or poo from yourself on) then lower the lid and flush and then wash your hands .

To be honest, if your FIL is getting on a bit he’s probably already sprayed his wee about before he flushes the toilet, so what are you going to do about that? You could always escort every visitor to the toilet, with you up to the elbows in rubber gloves, bleach in hand, wait patiently for them to finish, then rush in straight after them and hose the place down. That should make everyone feel at home and ensure that no one feels uncomfortable at all.

This is basically what we need!

Also, if you have a violent flush that sprays a fine mist all over everything - thats a loo issue and not a guest issue. Get a plumber?

If you're saying it's a fine mist, are you not also considering it escaping out of the rim as the toilet seat does not provide a sealed unit...

Why am I engaging here? I have lost my mind. <runs away>

The first indoor lavatories (in medieval castles. Limited plumbing) were actually also wardrobes. They would store robes and cloaks in there as it was believed that the ammonia smell would be protective against moths and fleas

Just remove the toilet with its dastardly flush and instruct them to shit in a potty?

TBH I think you probably need to stop having guests.

Get your bathroom redone and have a push button flush behind the opened seat, then people have to put the seat down in order to flush

Yes, a garderobe.

Adjust the hinges so that it won't stay up? This will cause other problems though.

Get a new cistern where the lid covers the flush button.

Get a new toilet that has less flushback.

Most people don’t put the lid down so you will have to put a sign up. It will be a cringey sign as it is a cringey request. Alternatively, you could refuse entry to all visitors.

We have a new Mumsnet classic thread - Yah! Well done OP!

This is so funny 😆