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Forcing guests to close toilet lid before flushing

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MerryBlimminXmas · 16/06/2025 09:15

In our house, we close the toilet lid before flushing. Reason being is that the poo/wee water spray will go absolutely everywhere if the lid is left open (lots of videos available online if anyone is interested).

The issue we have is that pretty much ALL guests don’t do this. Now, I don’t mind what people choose to do in their own homes and appreciate that the majority of the population are happy for everything in the vicinity of their loo to be covered in urine and faeces don’t bother to close the lid. However, I would much prefer it if they closed the lid before flushing in our house.

How can we make it happen? In a previous home, the flush button was literally behind the toilet lid, so it should have been easy to close the lid just to get to the button and people STILL left the lid up every time.

Don’t really want to put a sign up (would be annoying the majority of the time when we don’t have guests), nor to speak to people about it (cringe). Any ingenious ideas that could work? Surely we’re not the only people who prefer the lid closed - how have others made it work with guests?

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Sunburstclocklover · 18/06/2025 09:03

Bridport · 16/06/2025 09:29

Thinking now there could be a market in signs about this.

Keep Calm and Close the Lid.
Live. Laugh. Put the loo seat down.
Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody is watching. Put the seat down because I have CCTV on you.

Didn't see that one coming! Totally lol though.

Sunburstclocklover · 18/06/2025 09:09

Bridport · 16/06/2025 09:30

Some of these guests are family who have been going to our toilets/bathrooms for ~10 years!

Have you had any ill effects from their muck spreading so far?

I know! These folks should never Google treatment options for CDif!! Maybe it's been keeping them safe for the last 10 years lol!

K90 · 18/06/2025 12:37

I agree totally with OP. I have put a sign on the toilet cistern to say please close the lid before flushing. Most it the time it happens. Nobody has objected or mentioned it to me. My loo my rules

crumpet · 18/06/2025 16:34

K90 · 18/06/2025 12:37

I agree totally with OP. I have put a sign on the toilet cistern to say please close the lid before flushing. Most it the time it happens. Nobody has objected or mentioned it to me. My loo my rules

They probably have a quiet internal snigger though.

Picklelily99 · 18/06/2025 19:05

Bridport · 16/06/2025 09:29

Thinking now there could be a market in signs about this.

Keep Calm and Close the Lid.
Live. Laugh. Put the loo seat down.
Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody is watching. Put the seat down because I have CCTV on you.

How much, and do you do delivery?

NaneePolly · 18/06/2025 20:23

Just have a quick clean up when they leave, is that not usual?

hugbilly · 21/06/2025 18:49

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 16/06/2025 09:24

I think you need to get some perspective. 90% of banknotes have poo on them and I'm sure you use money. Toilets are meant to be used so just chill out. It's not like you can give them a bucket and tell them to go outside.

(Maybe it's drugs on the money, I can't remember)

Thank god we're becoming a cashless society . . .

MyObservations · 21/06/2025 18:53

MerryBlimminXmas · 16/06/2025 09:15

In our house, we close the toilet lid before flushing. Reason being is that the poo/wee water spray will go absolutely everywhere if the lid is left open (lots of videos available online if anyone is interested).

The issue we have is that pretty much ALL guests don’t do this. Now, I don’t mind what people choose to do in their own homes and appreciate that the majority of the population are happy for everything in the vicinity of their loo to be covered in urine and faeces don’t bother to close the lid. However, I would much prefer it if they closed the lid before flushing in our house.

How can we make it happen? In a previous home, the flush button was literally behind the toilet lid, so it should have been easy to close the lid just to get to the button and people STILL left the lid up every time.

Don’t really want to put a sign up (would be annoying the majority of the time when we don’t have guests), nor to speak to people about it (cringe). Any ingenious ideas that could work? Surely we’re not the only people who prefer the lid closed - how have others made it work with guests?

Put a sign up and educate your guests

HaveCreditWillShop · 21/06/2025 20:59

This is giving Royston Vasey vibes.
I think you may need to explore OCD symptoms. I can’t imagine asking guests this! How embarrassing! I suggest using something like loo blu to reduce your anxiety about this.
I’ll be honest, with two small kids in the house km just happy someone has flushed at all, concerns about the lid position feel like a positively first world issue.

OneBrickSeal · 21/06/2025 23:18

We have our toilet flush behind the lid so you have to put the lid down to access the flush, simple and it works ❤️

OneFineDay13 · 21/06/2025 23:27

Wow just wow. How one earth would you enforce this? Don't you think you should worry about something else.

Minglingpringle · 22/06/2025 00:51

Your loo habits are the exact opposite of mine.

I like to leave the door open when it’s unoccupied because otherwise you can’t tell if someone is in there or not.

I am put out if someone doesn’t have a bog brush. Do they actively want to keep streaks of poo in their loo? Or do they want me to put my hand in the water and rub it away? Your idea of multiple flushes is ineffective and wasteful. You are condemning your guests to leaving embarrassing streaks behind them.

I like the lid to be left up because it is much more convenient and welcoming. I believe that people who are grossed-out by the idea of an invisible germ-ridden spray are over-anxious and obsessive and should stop fixating on it. My family and I are supremely healthy and have never got ill from bog spray and the idea doesn’t bother me any more than the idea of all the other invisible bugs which are out there which don’t affect me in any way.

If you came to my house and messed with my system I would feel brief annoyance but try to get over it because you were guests.

I recommend you put less effort into maintaining your rigid system and more into rising above such things.

The invisible spray will not hurt you. But your finickyness is unwelcoming to your guests.

AlexStocks · 22/06/2025 18:55

Oh God, I had a business partner who liked dictating things like this. She would tell grown people not to use wipes, or how to sneeze or cough...it was bananas. You can't control what adults do.

notprincehamlet · 22/06/2025 19:18

When I think I'm going crazy, I open a thread like this on MN and remind myself just how high that bar is. I might be shouting at pigeons but at least I'm not obsessing about other people's toilet habits.

Skibbgirl · 23/06/2025 11:34

Simple answer ... create a (removeable) notice that is clear and concise and place it on the cistern, or above it on the wall, when people come round. Something along the lines of "In our home, please close the toilet lid BEFORE flushing. Thank you for your understanding." You could also make some comment to whomever goes to the toilet, asking them to read the notice. That way you'll know there is no misunderstanding of your request.

Conversely, it could be that, having verbally asked them to do so, they have but then, once the flush has ended, they have lifted the cover again for the next user.

eastegg · 23/06/2025 14:27

Skibbgirl · 23/06/2025 11:34

Simple answer ... create a (removeable) notice that is clear and concise and place it on the cistern, or above it on the wall, when people come round. Something along the lines of "In our home, please close the toilet lid BEFORE flushing. Thank you for your understanding." You could also make some comment to whomever goes to the toilet, asking them to read the notice. That way you'll know there is no misunderstanding of your request.

Conversely, it could be that, having verbally asked them to do so, they have but then, once the flush has ended, they have lifted the cover again for the next user.

All that notice is missing is ‘signed Uncle Harvey and Auntie Val’ at the bottom!!

Or ‘now micturate, Benjamin, micturate!!’

(Apologies if you’re not a League of Gentlemen fan).

Arraminta · 23/06/2025 17:36

Yeah, sorry but I would totally reassure you that I had closed thd lid before flushing. Whereas in reality I would have gleefully flushed it twice, with the lid most definitely up. Because people like you need to have their heads messed with.

SlatternIsMyMiddleName · 23/06/2025 18:23

I’m in my 50’s and luckily have never knowingly had a ‘bug’ from toilet flushing with lid up. It has literally never occurred to me until I read the opening post.

i am not adding it to the list of things i worry about it.

Endorewitch · 24/06/2025 00:52

I must be filthy!Never knew anyone put the lid down when flushing. Never been anywhere where the lid is down. Unless the rest of the world is putting it down to flush and putting it up again!!Seriously,if this is all you have to worry about,you are so lucky.

ThePure · 24/06/2025 01:10

eastegg · 23/06/2025 14:27

All that notice is missing is ‘signed Uncle Harvey and Auntie Val’ at the bottom!!

Or ‘now micturate, Benjamin, micturate!!’

(Apologies if you’re not a League of Gentlemen fan).

or perhaps the sign should just say ‘this is a local toilet for local people’

Mummyisfunny · 25/06/2025 06:39

Just invest in a hammer , nails and some planks of wood and a Magic marker.
Step 1.Use the hammer to nail the boards across the Shut bathroom door.
Step 2 Use the magic marker to write on the boards.
GO BACK TO YOUR OWN HOUSE IF YOU WANT TO SHYT !!
I'd suggest Bold Capital letters for the best effect , see it really stands out 👆
Job's a good'un.

ZippyStork · 27/06/2025 17:57

I must say, one of the loos in our house seems to have quite a forceful flush. I know this, because a bit of toilet water has sprayed up against my leg! It made me think about closing the lid.
Anyhow, here's an experiment: close the lid and flush. Inspect the inside of the lid. Is it wet or dry?

FeetLikeFlippers · 01/07/2025 16:54

Bridport · 16/06/2025 09:27

Is it drugs on the money and poo in peanuts on bars? Or perhaps that's pubic hair.

It’s cocaine on banknotes and urine on peanuts - and poo all over the OP’s bathroom apparently!

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