Would you risk being 6 weeks pregnant on your wedding?

[sinistersights]

I’m desperate to start trying! More importantly if I get pregnant this cycle the due date would be absolutely ideal in terms of both of our work cycles (we didn’t know this when booking the wedding). DH would be able to take more time off more easily.

I’m absolutely not bothered about drinking, more worried about being potentially nauseated or absolutely exhausted.

No I wouldn’t

I was 5 months pregnant and it was perfect.

at 6 weeks… I was queasy

I’d try to avoid it from the nausea perspective but it depends what’s most important to you.

Also exhausted

whereas all passed at 10 week mark and then love every minute

then again who knows…. You could find early weeks a breeze or you could suffer from constant debilitating sickness until birth!

Honestly…no…anything could happen, I hate to say it @sinistersights but what if you miscarry? I’m sorry but it’s something you have to think of. Being nauseous is the last thing I would be concerned about. Going through a MC at the same time as getting married would really taint everything…and every year going forward. Have your wedding, enjoy it for what it is and start trying after.

I was exactly six weeks pregnant on my wedding day. It was fine. I wasn’t feeling nauseous yet, and wasn’t showing. The only hairy moment was being lifted on a chair during the dancing - Jewish wedding!

It's not ideal- I was pregnant at my wedding and threw up brushing my teeth that morning- but not the end of the world. Do your family members often have morning sickness? I find it seems similar amongst sisters and mums/ daughters.

I would…I was 5 weeks pregnant at mine. Anything can happen in pregnancy any time. At 6 weeks you’ll hopefully not too nauseous, I’d say weeks 7-10 are more risky in that aspect.

Is your wedding already booked? If so, I don't understand why ypu wouldn't just wait a month to TTC?!

I don’t have any sisters, my mum was sick with me but not my brother.

Plus I might not even get pregnant at all, it’s all such an unknown 😭

The due date would be much better for us that month 😭 we didn’t know that when booking!

I was so so sick for the first 13/14 weeks. Had to cancel a holiday, be signed off work for a few weeks. No way could I have got married at 6 weeks

If it happens a month later what would the impact be?

I wouldn’t. Quite a high risk of feeling like shit and the ideal due date month may not even come to fruition because you could deliver early or go 2 weeks overdue!

Wait one month, no guarantee that you will get pregnant but if you did you might be feeling horrible and worst case scenario miscarry at 5 weeks on your wedding day. Are you going away after? If so another good reason to wait

I just instantly think of a friend of mine, she had awful hypermesis and had pregnancy anxiety, she was an awful mess for literally 9 months. I myself was sick for 12 weeks

Yes just do it! The chances of falling pregnant on the exact cycle you want are fairly slim anyway! I didn’t get symptoms at 6 weeks, it was later. Even if you do, the excitement of the wedding will distract you.

In terms of getting time off…you may feel it’s easier for your dh in some months but to be honest if he’s entitled to the time then he gets the time, it’s not his problem. They will have to let him take it.

I would. I barely felt pregnant at 6 weeks.

DH is a teacher (not in England) so the ideal date would be right at the start of the holidays. He’d take pat leave at the start of the new term so we’d have nearly 8 weeks off together.

No I’d wait, you’d risk being in peak morning sickness. One month won’t make a big difference to your plans once you’re pregnant seen as babies are born anytime between 37-42 weeks so it’s foolish to try and plan that tight. Just wait a month and enjoy your wedding

I was sick my entire pregnancy. Vomiting multiple times a day most days. Hospital trips for rehydration. Vomiting blood.

if you want to have an enjoyable wedding, wait the extra two months. You never know how your body is going to react.

I’d say don’t do it if this is the reason why. You’ll get lots of weeks together across the year if your OH is a teacher, if you went one more month you’d still have 4 weeks together which is double what non teacher new dads get.
Im a teacher but my DH is not. He had 2 weeks off - it was about 8 days by the time I got home from hospital. It’s brutal and should be more but you will be okay!

So why not TTC now and then take that month off before your wedding?

This!! Entirely this!

I wouldn’t but only because I have a history of miscarriages and wouldn’t want that worry around that time