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Would you risk being 6 weeks pregnant on your wedding?

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sinistersights · 08/06/2025 16:13

I’m desperate to start trying! More importantly if I get pregnant this cycle the due date would be absolutely ideal in terms of both of our work cycles (we didn’t know this when booking the wedding). DH would be able to take more time off more easily.

I’m absolutely not bothered about drinking, more worried about being potentially nauseated or absolutely exhausted.

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Nevertea · 08/06/2025 16:43

How old are you op?

Smartiepants79 · 08/06/2025 16:44

Absolutely not.
I could barely crawl out of bed at 6 weeks pregnant. Both times.
Just wait a month!

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 08/06/2025 16:47

No. I was well in to chundering phase at 6 weeks.

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cryptide · 08/06/2025 16:52

No. If I had been 6 weeks' pregnant on my wedding day, there would have been every chance I'd have been running away regularly to throw up, including during the marriage vows. That's always assuming it wasn't one of the days when I had a killer headache as well which meant that it was near-impossible even to get out of bed. The honeymoon would been a write-off too.

Honestly, OP, leave it till the wedding and honeymoon are well and truly over.

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sinistersights · 08/06/2025 16:52

I’m 34. So chances are it wouldn’t even happen!

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cryptide · 08/06/2025 16:55

sinistersights · 08/06/2025 16:37

DH is a teacher (not in England) so the ideal date would be right at the start of the holidays. He’d take pat leave at the start of the new term so we’d have nearly 8 weeks off together.

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Is that the exam term where you live? If so, it wouldn't be great in terms of his work, would it?

SErunner · 08/06/2025 16:56

No, I felt god awful and it would have ruined the day. I’d have struggled to get through it.

ecossegirl91 · 08/06/2025 16:56

Why do you think that about being 34? I fell pregnant 2nd month of trying at 33. But for the sake of a month I would just wait rather than be pregnant at the wedding. as others have said what if you sadly miscarry, or you feel horrendously tired or sick.

SErunner · 08/06/2025 16:58

sinistersights · 08/06/2025 16:37

DH is a teacher (not in England) so the ideal date would be right at the start of the holidays. He’d take pat leave at the start of the new term so we’d have nearly 8 weeks off together.

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Honestly things just don’t work like this. You could get pregnant at the right time but delivery very early or deliver very late. And end up having had a crap wedding. There really isn’t any point, just wait. You only get to do your wedding once - just enjoy that, it’s so special in itself.

Cherrytree86 · 08/06/2025 16:59

Ah I wouldn’t Op @sinistersights
youre only going to get married once(hopefully!) - why not enjoy it with no restrictions? I know you said you’re not bothered about drinking but im sure on the day you would enjoy a couple of glasses of fizz! You don’t wanna feel tired or sick on your wedding day. Also how you feel in your wedding dress if you have pregnancy bloat, that kind of thing.

Owmyelbow · 08/06/2025 17:00

I was throwing up and fainting at 6 weeks

Bourbonversuscustardcream · 08/06/2025 17:02

No way. I’m not someone who conceived quickly or easily, but at six weeks I was permanently nauseated, being sick multiple times a day, so exhausted and dizzy I couldn’t go to work and was pretty much incapable of doing anything except lying very still sipping sprite and eating ready salted crisps. I would have had to cancel my wedding. I’m not saying it’s common, but it does happen. Even with my easier second pregnancy I would have felt awful and just been counting down until the wedding was over and I could go back to bed.

I also think a long period of paternity leave with a newborn is overrated - I’d have rather had DH spread out his time at home than had one big hit at the beginning, especially for a first baby where there aren’t siblings to worry about. A few weeks of DH having school holiday when my baby was going through the four month sleep regression, or the first teething or the annoying stage where they’re both bored but also immobile would have been really helpful.

Idoidoidoidoidoido · 08/06/2025 17:03

Have you had a baby before? The exhaustion is something else in the first trimester, I would be in bed most nights before 8pm and needed to nap midday. It would have spoilt my wedding day.

MalcolmMoo · 08/06/2025 17:06

6 weeks was when the morning sickness started for me!

SparkyBlue · 08/06/2025 17:06

OP honestly I wouldn’t. Especially not for the sake of such a small amount of time. I was miserable on all three pregnancies at 6 weeks. I was a wedding guest at 7 weeks pregnant at my cousins wedding and I was miserable. I was sick, exhausted and bloated. I remember my lovely new dress not looking right on me even though I hadn’t gained any actual weight. My boobs had gotten bigger as well.

Nevertea · 08/06/2025 17:07

sinistersights · 08/06/2025 16:52

I’m 34. So chances are it wouldn’t even happen!

Why do you say that?

Anyway, the wedding was a nice to have for me rather than an overwhelming dream of mine. I’d have been happy with a registry office and just my besties and family.

however to have children were my absolute number 1 priority.

what kind of wedding is yours? If only family and close friends, then that would not stop me trying now rather than waiting until 35/36 to start

and if it’s a big all singing all dancing wedding… well, tbh no advice because never appealed to me anyway so I’d have just scraped And make much smaller and intimate so I could get cracking

CheeseFiend40 · 08/06/2025 17:07

I was fine at 6 weeks pregnant, mild nausea with third one (a girl), so for me it wouldn’t be a huge problem. But the problem is you just won’t know until you’re pregnant and it could completely ruin your day, which would be such a shame.

If you wait a month (and are lucky enough to get pregnant first time) that would mean your DH is off for the whole summer and you could start your maternity leave at the same time, so could have the entire summer just the two of you, enjoying some time together before the baby arrives

Theresabookinme · 08/06/2025 17:08

sinistersights · 08/06/2025 16:37

DH is a teacher (not in England) so the ideal date would be right at the start of the holidays. He’d take pat leave at the start of the new term so we’d have nearly 8 weeks off together.

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This is not worth being sick on your wedding day.

You’ll have 4 weeks together just the two of you which will actually be really lovely. You won’t have much time together once the baby arrives.

i also think it’s good for you to have some time on your own with baby. I’d have gone up the wall if my DC’s dad had been hovering around.

you’ll have weekends and being a teacher he can come home relatively early

postmanshere · 08/06/2025 17:08

I was 12 weeks and it was great. At 6 weeks I didn’t even believe I was pregnant yet due to no symptoms!

Lavender14 · 08/06/2025 17:08

At that stage I was super sick, couldn't keep a thing down and was having spontaneous haemorrhage. I wouldn't risk it and would just aim to enjoy the wedding.

Bramblecrumb · 08/06/2025 17:08

Sadly I had hyperemesis my entire pregnancy and it kicked in at week 5 with an intensity that left me bed bound for two weeks so that would have not been ideal for a wedding 🫠

Cynic17 · 08/06/2025 17:09

For the sake of a couple of months, just wait until after the wedding. So much less stressful.

LividVermiciousKnid · 08/06/2025 17:10

Multiple miscarriages here.

Don't want to be a doommonger, but it's a statistically risky time.

Bramblecrumb · 08/06/2025 17:10

sinistersights · 08/06/2025 16:52

I’m 34. So chances are it wouldn’t even happen!

As a single factor, that's not a reason you shouldn't fall pregnant quickly. Most people I know don't even start having kids until this age.

CharityShopMensGlasses · 08/06/2025 17:11

I understand the frustration but feeling grey, tired and queasy at your wedding wouldn't be fun. You're unlikely to be looking and feeling your best.
You can't really bank on due date though lovely,
Babies are born usually from 36-42 weeks.

To reassure you, wherever that 6 weeks falls in the babies first year the time off together will be special:).

It might actually be nicer for him to be off the six weeks when the baby is 6 months and wants lots more play and Interaction. And then you could travel together too :).

It'll all work out :)