Would you risk being 6 weeks pregnant on your wedding?

[sinistersights]

I’m desperate to start trying! More importantly if I get pregnant this cycle the due date would be absolutely ideal in terms of both of our work cycles (we didn’t know this when booking the wedding). DH would be able to take more time off more easily.

I’m absolutely not bothered about drinking, more worried about being potentially nauseated or absolutely exhausted.

Small wedding where o wasn't spending too much yes I'd risk it. Huge expensive wedding, probably not. I felt pretty rough starting 5.5 weeks both times, it would have been like getting married with a raging hangover 😣.

I'm the outlier saying go for it. Why not try?

I was 7 weeks and it was fine. Honeymoon I was queasy but we hadn't gone abroad. The day itself no one noticed, I had a glass of wine/prosecco in hand all day and sipped from it alongside soft drinks.

Wait until after the wedding. At six weeks I was constantly fainting every bloody time. Four pregnancies only two live births

I was about 7 weeks. Wed been ttc years by that point, all but given up (thought we’d have one more go after the wedding) and it was a fluke.

The bad -
-Anxiety levels through the roof, I’d had a few bleeds and was terrified what if the worse happened in the immediate run up or even on the day. I started bleeding again actually the day after but luckily we managed to get a scan that day which put our minds at rest somewhat - we did get advised not to have sex for a while though which was interesting on honeymoon
-Exhaustion, I’ve never been so tired as I was in the first trimester (well maybe in newborn days but even somehow there it was different). I also really struggled to sleep - what with the anxiety as above, plus planning a wedding and I guess insomnia can be a symptom of early pregnancy too
-Bruising - probably very specific this one but I am someone who bruises if you so much as look at me harshly, and I’m also impossible to get blood out of. Took multiple attempts including 2 hospital visits to get the blood they needed for the checks they do when you first book in with the midwife, so I had bruises all over my arms and hands which weren’t quite the look I was going for with my dress.
-Drinking - I didn’t really care about not drinking but it was another consideration when trying to disguise the fact I wasn’t drinking if you see what I mean? Although I don’t think people noticed or cared half as much as I had worried about.
-Whilst the dress still fit and I hadn’t got anything like a bump or anything yet so early - I was quite bloated and my boobs had swollen (to be fair they do this around period anyway), the dress definitely didn’t look as good around my boobs on the day as it had on my final fitting.
-Nausea - I’m lucky this wasn’t too bad for me but I was definitely a bit queasy.
-Honeymoon - wasn’t so much of an issue for us as due to the time of year we got married we were only having a short UK trip straight after the wedding and then planned a longer summer trip later on - which obviously never happened due to DC’s arrival, but it wouldn’t have anyway as it happened because Covid hit.

The good -
-Despite all of the above I was able to completely compartmentalise on the day and have a wonderful time. I won’t say I didn’t still feel that momentary panic that there would be blood every time I needed the loo on the day (which was very very often - luckily my dress wasn’t overly complicated or one I needed help using the loo with) but for the most part I did forget about the stress and have a gorgeous day.
-It felt like a lovely, special secret between us (+ a very select few really close people) and also not just the start of our marriage but of our family.
-DD loves looking at the pictures and knowing she was there, likewise we have taken her back to the place we had our mini honeymoon and it just feels like a really special place for our family now.
-Absolutely no post-wedding blues - I’m not sure if I would have had them or not otherwise, but I definitely didn’t because I was so focused on the pregnancy and eventually once past the rocky first 12 weeks or so getting excited about the baby

Just my experience - not sure how helpful. Obviously I wouldn’t change anything now, but I’m not sure I’d have picked it given the choice.

Nope, first trimester was a nightmare for me. Never felt worse in my life.

Honestly I wouldn’t. I felt like shit from getting the first positive pregnancy test at 5 weeks. At 6 weeks I was so sick I couldn’t get out of bed.

I was 5 weeks at our wedding and felt pretty queasy. Fortunately I’m not a drinker, so no one questioned me turning down champagne etc

Pregnancy was planned, just didn’t expect to fall pregnant the first month !

Personally, I was a couple of kilos down by 6 weeks because I'd been vomiting since before I even missed my period!

Take into account that nothing is a given. You could conceive first time and have a breeze of a pregnancy. You could conceive and be sick, or unfortunately have an ectopic or miscarry around the time of the wedding.

Babies are also almost never on time. Me and a close friend had due dates exactly one week apart and our babies were born 7 weeks apart, and actually my baby was born less than 2 weeks apart from another friend whose baby was due 5 weeks apart from mine. Baby could be 5 weeks (or more) early or you could go 2 weeks overdue. Add that to the fact you may not ovulate when you think you do, so it's common to be a week out of your own expected dates ... you're looking at a solid 2 month window when baby could arrive irregardless when you get pregnant.

If you want a child, don’t postpone for a wedding.

I fell pregnant after one shag while on the pill age 34 OP. I started feeling sick as a dog at 6 weeks. Also everything tasted weird, I was horrendously anxious and emotional, and I just wanted to sleep. Having to get through a wedding would have been a nightmare.

You'll be too tired, just wait a month

I was on my wedding and felt fine morning sickness didn't kick in for quite a while after that

That's a bit over dramatic!

There is no point trying to control the exact perfect month. Babies come when they come and you could deliver prematurely for example anyway. Or it takes a few months ttc.

That said I wouldn't risk being pregnant at your wedding as you might very well feel crap and/ or anxious. It is only a month and 34 really isn't that old.

@DifficultEggs

why? It’s one month!

one month to wait and not risk feeling ill, being bloated in wedding dress, etc.

it’s a no brainer!