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Do you believe you'll see your pets who have died again in an afterlife?

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PinataHeeHaw · 07/06/2025 18:55

My gorgeous boy died today and I'm holding on to the hope I'll see him again one day. It's incredibly painful without him.

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Nevertrustacop · 07/06/2025 22:47

Yes. I will definitely be reunited with my beautiful amazing cat.
But to tide me over until then, he has picked me out a fabulous second cat, who I have had a month. Honestly he is just perfect. And I was definitely led to him

Noshadelamp · 07/06/2025 22:54

So sorry for your loss. Yes I absolutely do think so. I also believe they are still around us somehow.
When we lost our boy recently we all had different dreams with him in, of felt him jump up on the bed, or heard him sigh.

I found Andrew Huberman's YouTube video on grief very helpful. It's quite long but I watched it in a few sittings. In it he acknowledged the loss of an animal in the same way as a human and I was very grateful to him for that.

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PinataHeeHaw · 07/06/2025 22:56

Thank you all so much. It's so painful. I feel like I've lost a family member, because he was. I always called him son and had the best conversations with him.

I don't believe in God and they say you can't get into heaven if you don't believe in God. How am I going to see my boy again? This can't be the end.

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PinataHeeHaw · 07/06/2025 23:02

My other boys were devastated. It's not often they're quiet or still, but when I got home and they sniffed the fleece I bought him home in, they were so still and so silent. One let out a cry as he saw my boy wasn't in his usual place and an other is devastated. I gave him something with my boys scent on and he dragged it around. My boy is going to be missed by so many. What has become clear is how very loved he was and by so many people and fellow pets. He's made one mighty impression on this earth and I'm proud to say I raised him and cared for him and loved him more than I'll love any human (I don't have human children!). I'll take things one day at a time and pray that I feel his presence physically or emotionally or in a dream soon.

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PinataHeeHaw · 07/06/2025 23:07

Noshadelamp · 07/06/2025 22:54

So sorry for your loss. Yes I absolutely do think so. I also believe they are still around us somehow.
When we lost our boy recently we all had different dreams with him in, of felt him jump up on the bed, or heard him sigh.

I found Andrew Huberman's YouTube video on grief very helpful. It's quite long but I watched it in a few sittings. In it he acknowledged the loss of an animal in the same way as a human and I was very grateful to him for that.

That is so beautiful. Your beautiful boy is still with you. It's so horrible that they can't be here in sight, to still see what they look like and to be able to hold and tickle. I always marvelled at my boys beautiful fur and his beautiful colours, black, white and hints of a very pale ginger. I close my eyes and I imagine I can feel his silky fur. I never want to forget anything about him. I know I will in time. I might write a description of how his fur felt and his scent. Sounds so weird I know. I just don't want to ever forget him.

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Zov · 07/06/2025 23:09

I'm so sorry @PinataHeeHaw how awful for you, and yes of course you will see him again. He can see you. He's watching you mourning him, and he knows how much you love him. Flowers

RabbitsRock · 07/06/2025 23:11

So sorry for your loss OP. I absolutely believe that we will meet up with our pets. One of our bunnies who we lost when he was still young sometimes runs past the French windows in the kitchen - sounds bonkers but it happens when our other 2 white rabbits are locked in their hutches. Such a comfort.

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PinataHeeHaw · 07/06/2025 23:18

Zov · 07/06/2025 23:09

I'm so sorry @PinataHeeHaw how awful for you, and yes of course you will see him again. He can see you. He's watching you mourning him, and he knows how much you love him. Flowers

Do you think he's able to see me already even though he only died this afternoon? That brings some comfort if he can.

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PinataHeeHaw · 07/06/2025 23:19

RabbitsRock · 07/06/2025 23:11

So sorry for your loss OP. I absolutely believe that we will meet up with our pets. One of our bunnies who we lost when he was still young sometimes runs past the French windows in the kitchen - sounds bonkers but it happens when our other 2 white rabbits are locked in their hutches. Such a comfort.

Sorry for the loss of your lovely bunny. What a comfort it must be to know he's still around.

💕

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Myoldbear · 07/06/2025 23:24

PinataHeeHaw · 07/06/2025 22:56

Thank you all so much. It's so painful. I feel like I've lost a family member, because he was. I always called him son and had the best conversations with him.

I don't believe in God and they say you can't get into heaven if you don't believe in God. How am I going to see my boy again? This can't be the end.

It always seems to me that if you care about what is Good then you kind of believe in God because they are both the same.The word
God just has an o missing maybe.

Whatever; I believe that anything that is, or has been alive is spirit, and spirit always survives.

LeaveALittleNote · 07/06/2025 23:39

I’m so sorry for your loss, OP. They are family. I truly believe I’ll be reunited with my dogs when I pass over. I had such a deep soul connection with them and sometimes I feel their presence around me. I believe they were sent to me to make my path a little easier and a lot happier. They were my guardian angels.

IReallyLoveItHere · 07/06/2025 23:44

It'd be very crowded if I did but to a certain extent I feel that time and life aren't linear, no moment is ever gone, I struggle to explain it.

But who knows, it'd be lovely.

I am so sorry for your loss. His life was more than his final days. Relive those good memories, you are seeing him again.

Sonolanona · 08/06/2025 00:37

I think if there is something after death , then the animals we loved so much will be there. Nothing can convince me that they are 'lesser' or don't have an essence (soul) My mum reckons there will have to be a very large celestial bed for all her cats to sleep on 😊
If there is nothing afterwards (I'm an atheist but I don't think religion as we know it makes any difference) then neither we nor our beloved pets, will exist.
If there is, then so will they.. but whole and young and healthy again, bounding towards us to lick, and leap with joy at the reunion.

I'm so sorry for your loss, the grief is so raw in the early days. I lost a 'soulmate' cat Morph 12 years ago and still have moments when it overwhelms me, and my current dog is everything to me and I dread the day she leaves me.

My DD (adult) had a visit from Morphy ... after he had died, when she was sad and distressed. I wish I had seen him too.

HangingOver · 08/06/2025 00:49

I don't believe but I find comfort in leaving directions that my ashes be mixed with hers when my time comes. I've had many pets and loved them all but she was like a part of my soul outside my body. I want our atoms side by side.

Alwayslikethis · 08/06/2025 01:03

Yes 100%

Enko · 08/06/2025 01:09

PinataHeeHaw · 07/06/2025 22:56

Thank you all so much. It's so painful. I feel like I've lost a family member, because he was. I always called him son and had the best conversations with him.

I don't believe in God and they say you can't get into heaven if you don't believe in God. How am I going to see my boy again? This can't be the end.

I dont believe you cant get to heaven if you are a non believer. I beloeve we are judged on how we conducted ourselves on earth and if that was generally good we get to heaven..

Howevee as a child growin up in Denmark I was always taught that all dogs go to the evergreen hubting fields and we get to go see them when we pass on.

So im sticking with that idea sounds better than heaven to me.

(Also gave d dog a extra snuggle reading your post so sorry for your loss)

mondaytosunday · 08/06/2025 01:51

I’m sorry for your loss, we had to put our 15 year old boy down last year.
But no, I don’t. I think once animals are dead that’s it. Their pain and struggle is over.

Watermelown · 08/06/2025 02:28

I do completely. I also feel them still here now and then. They don’t just go away. I’ve been in agony with this but it’s been such an incredible comfort to have that feeling of them, it’s a feeling of pure love and closeness combined with things that are undeniably them. I’ve found that it took some time to let my walls come down after the loss to eventually be able to feel them.

CrocsNotDocs · 08/06/2025 02:38

I’m sorry for your loss. I always read The Rainbow Bridge if I need an ugly cry.

Im not sure how heaven would manage my cats though- the cats I have had throughout my life would hate each other if they had to meet!

FreshPrinceofKildare · 08/06/2025 02:41

I am so sorry for your loss.

I do hope so, but worry as the different cats I have had over my life would not get on together.

patchysmum · 08/06/2025 03:12

PinataHeeHaw · 07/06/2025 22:56

Thank you all so much. It's so painful. I feel like I've lost a family member, because he was. I always called him son and had the best conversations with him.

I don't believe in God and they say you can't get into heaven if you don't believe in God. How am I going to see my boy again? This can't be the end.

I don't either but if there is one he is supposed to be a loving god and am sure he would not deny people heaven because they did not believe in him.

Dogaredabomb · 08/06/2025 03:16

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's very painful to lose a beloved pet. I lost my special boy just over three years ago and I still cry over him.

My other dog grieved him sorely and lost weight. He was depressed and lost for a good six months.

I think God is manifest in the natural world and if you think of the joy and comfort that greenery, weather and animals brings then you feel (and believe) in God. The rest of it is just man made overlay.

My boy had cancer and couldn't eat or even keep water down at the end. I didn't chase treatment other than palliative, for his own sake. I worried very much that I had failed him.

On the evening after he died I felt so queasy and seasick, truly awful. I realised that was him showing me how he had felt so that I could know how awful he had felt and that i had done the right thing.

What comforts me is knowing that I loved him every second of his life and looked after him with all my heart, as he did me. He couldn't possibly have been more loved and cared for.

Openmouthinsertfood · 08/06/2025 03:41

Gettingbysomehow · 07/06/2025 19:53

I've seen them all already, they all visited me when they died. The visiting dreams are very different from normal dreams - real, and you wake up feeling great.
I've also had an out of body experience when I failed to be revived post op. If you'd seen what I'd seen you would know there is no death.
Its so tough when they go but you'll see your boy again, soon, time is just an illusion.

Hi OP, I'm so sorry for your loss. Flowers
Gettingby, if you wouldn't mind sharing, I'd love to hear more about what you did see.

kkloo · 08/06/2025 05:28

PinataHeeHaw · 07/06/2025 22:56

Thank you all so much. It's so painful. I feel like I've lost a family member, because he was. I always called him son and had the best conversations with him.

I don't believe in God and they say you can't get into heaven if you don't believe in God. How am I going to see my boy again? This can't be the end.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost mine last year and the pain was unbearable. It does get a lot easier, we still talk about him all the time but it's mostly happiness and laughter. I've got lots of signs from him too, I fully believe we will be reunited in an afterlife.

I don't believe in God either. You don't need to believe in God to believe there is a heaven/afterlife.

Dearg · 08/06/2025 08:32

HangingOver · 08/06/2025 00:49

I don't believe but I find comfort in leaving directions that my ashes be mixed with hers when my time comes. I've had many pets and loved them all but she was like a part of my soul outside my body. I want our atoms side by side.

This is exactly how I feel about my lovely boy, whom I lost a few months ago.

So sorry for your loss Op, it’s a mark of the love between you that you feel this deeply. He will always be with you.💐