Wedding Invite Etiquette

[everychildmatters]

...if bride's parents are solely funding the entire wedding?

My Dad would have loved to do that but I married 30+ years ago in the Catholic Church. No giving away and no option to “obey” in the marriage rite at that time. In fact the priest wanted DH and I to enter together but we didn’t do that. DF walked me down the aisle and DH waited for me at the sanctuary steps.

If I saw “Mr and Mrs Whatsisface request the pleasure of your company…” on a wedding invitation, I wouldn’t assume they were paying - any more than I’d assume a bride wearing white was a virgin. I’d just think they were using a traditional format.

I'd be cringing pretty hard at parents who insisted on that wording so that we’d all know they paid for it.

@EverythingElseIsTaken Ours wasn't in a church as neither of us are Christians and we did exactly what we wanted. Perfect day! 🌟

It's 30+ yrs since I married, but the reason for that wording - traditionally - was to express the pleasure of the families involved. The same on the newspaper announcements.

Well in church at least, there’s a line that says “who gives this woman to be married”. My dad walked me down the aisle but we omitted that line from the service!

Ah, that’s a good point! Like “obey” getting dropped a long time back.