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Wedding Invite Etiquette

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everychildmatters · 05/06/2025 17:35

...if bride's parents are solely funding the entire wedding?

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EverythingElseIsTaken · 05/06/2025 21:09

everychildmatters · 05/06/2025 18:20

@PorgyandBess I've been to lots of weddings recently and every time the father has given the bride away. Even for second marriages!!! I was definitely seen as unusual on this one. Not that it bothered me - there were so many "traditions" I didn't want - throwing of bouquet, top table, just the men making speeches, changing my name and title etc. The main thing I guess is it how the couple want to do things.

My Dad would have loved to do that but I married 30+ years ago in the Catholic Church. No giving away and no option to “obey” in the marriage rite at that time. In fact the priest wanted DH and I to enter together but we didn’t do that. DF walked me down the aisle and DH waited for me at the sanctuary steps.

DontReplyIWillLie · 05/06/2025 21:09

If I saw “Mr and Mrs Whatsisface request the pleasure of your company…” on a wedding invitation, I wouldn’t assume they were paying - any more than I’d assume a bride wearing white was a virgin. I’d just think they were using a traditional format.

I'd be cringing pretty hard at parents who insisted on that wording so that we’d all know they paid for it.

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everychildmatters · 05/06/2025 22:05

@EverythingElseIsTaken Ours wasn't in a church as neither of us are Christians and we did exactly what we wanted. Perfect day! 🌟

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WearyAuldWumman · 05/06/2025 22:17

DontReplyIWillLie · 05/06/2025 21:09

If I saw “Mr and Mrs Whatsisface request the pleasure of your company…” on a wedding invitation, I wouldn’t assume they were paying - any more than I’d assume a bride wearing white was a virgin. I’d just think they were using a traditional format.

I'd be cringing pretty hard at parents who insisted on that wording so that we’d all know they paid for it.

It's 30+ yrs since I married, but the reason for that wording - traditionally - was to express the pleasure of the families involved. The same on the newspaper announcements.

FlatWhiteExtraHot · 05/06/2025 22:45

SheilaFentiman · 05/06/2025 18:56

@everychildmatters at the weddings you attended, how could you tell the difference between fathers who walked their DDs down the aisle and fathers who “gave their DDs away”? Is there a special hat?

Well in church at least, there’s a line that says “who gives this woman to be married”. My dad walked me down the aisle but we omitted that line from the service!

SheilaFentiman · 05/06/2025 22:49

FlatWhiteExtraHot · 05/06/2025 22:45

Well in church at least, there’s a line that says “who gives this woman to be married”. My dad walked me down the aisle but we omitted that line from the service!

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Ah, that’s a good point! Like “obey” getting dropped a long time back.

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