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LittleMiss013 · 03/06/2025 00:44

Hey I’m looking for some advice.

So I’m 26 weeks pregnant and have had major pains today in my lower back, feet and pelvic area to the point I was crying and had to use a hot water bottle and take paracetamol, I was exhausted and had to stop cleaning due to the pain being that bad. My boyfriend was working today he started at 9am and finished at 4pm.

About 6pm I asked my boyfriend if he would massage my back due to severe pain and his reply was i would but I’m really tired. He then decided to go upstairs to bed and leave me in pain and to look after his 12 week old destructive puppy, I was up and down like a yo-yo. About an hour later i could barely walk due to severe pressure and pain that I had to phone the hospital (triage department) on advice as I was still really sore despite taking paracetamol and using a hot water bottle. They told me to take more paracetamol and have a warm bath to try help with the pain and if that didn’t work to call them back up.

about two hours later from my boyfriend going to bed I went upstair and woke him up asking if he would look after the puppy whilst I had a bath ( doing what was advised by the midwife) but my boyfriend decided to continue sleeping so I never managed to get a bath and had to go back down to look after the puppy. I then about an hour later after the puppy settled and was ready for bed decided to go to bed myself only for my boyfriend to get up and sit on his phone then watch tv.

baring in mind when I was only 5 weeks pregnant I was in hospital due to severe cramps and had a fear I was having an ectopic pregnancy to which I got tested and all was ok but there wasn’t a heart beat and I had to wait a further 11 days to see if my baby was ok. When I come home after being in hospital I wanted a cuddle but again my boyfriend choose sleep.
he also choose to sleep when I was doubled over in agony crying on the bathroom floor due to severe cramping the night before I went to hospital.

Im severely angry about how I’ve been treated am I wrong for feeling this way and am I taking this too far? Thanks for taking the time to read this and help me out.

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LogicalBlodge · 03/06/2025 04:41

I can't possibly understand that - that's really cold. Do you have anyone IRL you can talk to for support?

LaLaLaLavaChChChChicken · 03/06/2025 04:45

LTB. This is not a healthy relationship at all.

My ex chose sleep over me doubled up in agony having a gallstone attack, I asked if he would go and feed the baby who had woken up and was crying and he refused as he had work in the morning. Reader, I LTB and never looked back.

PoopingAllTheWay · 03/06/2025 04:46

Put yourself & your baby first. Not your boyfriend and not a dog

I hope you went to the hospital

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Mummblebee · 03/06/2025 05:42

Oh no. I'd leave. Sorry OP

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