Do you ever wondered about your uni boyfriend?

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I was watching something on tv that made me think about my first uni boyfriend. Also dd is going to uni next year.
I know roughly where he is and he never married or had children. But I often wonder what would have happened if we hadn't split up. I dumped him after 2 1/2 years. Then went abroad. He went on to do MA and PhD.
I'd have a very different life if I'd stayed.
Anyone else?

I married mine :)

Well OP No I didn’t wonder till I spotted this thread and now I want to find out

Why oh why oh why did I see this

Ok
Ive just looked
One was gorgeous and the picture of him online makes me think, no I’m glad I didn’t continue with that one. Plus, no offence to car salesmen, but he is one and I really can’t see what we’d have in common now.

The other was a bit of a s… in the end and I see he hasn’t done much and does really crappy extensions ( we were architects on the same postgrad ). I’m really surprised as he was a good designer at Uni.

I can’t find the one I dated whilst in between bachelors and masters. He was training to be a doctor and I really hope this doesn’t become a new obsession.
No
Im definitely moving on now.

I married mine too. But there were a few flings before that at Uni. I met a post grad when I was a fresher, from a different part of the country and in a different faculty, so zero overlaps socially. After a brief fling we moved on and that was that, i rarely gave him thought. Years later i moved to my Uni city with DH who is in a small niche industry. One day at a fancy industry cheese and wine reception Dhs boss beckons us to introduce us to someone and it was him. We both got so embarrassed dh guessed who he was (I had v few exs). His wife is in the same industry as it happens and is friends with Dh boss. Then I saw him with her in a restaurant and before I caught his eye to say hello, dh stopped to chat to his wife, turns out they trained together in another city. Since then we've met in random places, it turns out he lives near dc school. We've said hello crawling around a soft play, at a kids party, at a funeral, at a school opening day. Basically we have the same life!! I had a dream about him the other night, a boring dream where we were just chatting about every day life. It's so weird, we actually haven't talked since the last time in his 1996 bedroom, we just say hi and make 1 min small talk but I feel drawn to him and would actually like in theory if we could be friends, he was a very funny and interesting man, but there is no attraction there.

Ah
that’s brightened the thread up 🥳

Only occasionally and I can't even remember his name. I soon found out that I was just a "holder" for a girl back home that he was still held a candle for. 🙄 Haven't a scooby where he is or what he's doing now. Later I went out briefly with a lad from Siberia who was very good looking. That fizzled out after two or three months. I didn't sleep with either of them, just a bit of fumbling. I met my now DH of 26 (27 this August) years after uni. We were each other's first, fumbling our way awkwardly into bed, moving in together after a year - he moved for a job and I decided to follow - then marriage three years after meeting. We've three children. I've no nostalgia for any early "romances" because I realise now that they were built on falsehoods.

Mine never got over me. He ended up with an arranged marriage, and is still married and has children. I was totally heartbroken, but there wasn't any real choice at his end.

He messages periodically to tell me he's still heartbroken. This is well over 30 years ago, and I've been married and divorced since then.

I have my social media settings secure, and he's blocked where I can, because I don't need the drama.

Mine lives in America with his wife and they have a daughter. We were together for 3 and a half years on and off, but we argued a lot so I'm much happier with DH.

I recently reached out to mine, because I saw something on the telly that reminded me so forcefully of him that it made me curious about where he was and what he was doing.

Struggling to move on from this now
I am officially a stalker I’ve just done a Google walk down no2s street 🫣

recently I randomly found out where you can find messages sent by strangers on FB messenger and there was a message from my ex sent last summer. Seems to have a kid and moved to Germany. Didn’t respond as I couldn’t care less and am married so wouldn’t entertain any ex’s attention.

He wasn't exactly a boyfriend but someone I was certainly in love with. He died last year in his early 40s. Very sad. I still can't beleive he's dead.

Only very occasionally. I definitely don’t want to go back there. It was young and green, but I made the right decision to go my own way.

On the other side of the coin, my DH is still in contact with two of his university girlfriends (he was engaged to one of them) from 30+ years ago. I've met them both and they're lovely, but he remains clear that he wouldn't have been a good husband for either of them.