One or two hotel rooms for dd when DH's snoring will keep her awake all night

[Noshadelamp]

My DH has surprised my dd (20) with tickets to a musician she's wanted to see for years. DH is driving them to the city and has booked a twin bed hotel room for the night, the same arrangement he has when he takes ds to an event.

However DH snores terribly, like a steam train, ear plugs don't help at all and I sleep in a separate room.

I know dd is grateful for the tickets and trip, but I feel bad for her as I'm sure she won't sleep, even with ear plugs.
She can't afford to pay for a separate room herself.

I'm thinking of paying a separate room for dd but not sure if I'm overreacting.
We don't have loads of money and it will be a push to pay for two rooms but I honestly think it's not fair to dd otherwise.

DH seems to think it's fine for one night but he's not the one who won't sleep!

I can almost guarantee DD won't sleep, I know I wouldn't and me and dh always stay in Airbnbs with two bedrooms.

So what would you do as me or what would you think if you were the dd?

Against the grain but I’d happily share with my dad for the night and my DH’s snoring is also pretty loud but doesn’t bother me, I find it oddly comforting. If it was causing problems to the point I had to sleep in another room though, I’d definitely be asking him to get something sorted medically. The poor poster who has to sleep in the hotel bath! The only reason these husbands aren’t going to the doctors is because it’s not affecting them, just their wives!

Definitely book the second room.

Regarding your husband getting medical help, it’s obviously not good that he won’t even try. But unfortunately he’s probably right that they won’t help him. My husband snores like crazy and when he went to the doctor they basically refused to do anything because he didn’t have the symptoms of sleep apnea.

He ordered this mouth shield thing off Amazon and it’s actually a miracle and stops him snoring completely. Too uncomfortable to wear every night so we still sleep apart, but I was ready to refuse to ever go away with him again so it is still a lifesaver.

What is the mouthshield called @CloverPyramid? That's a great idea!

Oh, I've always made a thing of the snoring @Noshadelamp! Most of our marriage we've slept apart one way or another. Now the kids are teenagers, we have separate rooms and I got the master bedroom and the better bed!

Book the second room. He is selfish for not trying to make sure no one else is affected by his snoring. If i was daughter, I'd be dreading the lack of sleep.

Book the room.

you have separate rooms for this reason so absolutely not fair for DD to share.

second room. Torture otherwise.

It was a random one off Amazon, unfortunately they don’t seem to sell it anymore (annoying, as I was going to suggest my husband get a spare!). But I imagine any of the high rated ones would be just as good. I was so sceptical before and assumed the positive reviews were scams, but we tried it out of desperation and were amazed.

I think I read that dentists (private, obviously) make the mouth shields as well. They might be even more effective and probably more comfortable, as they would be a perfect fit. The Amazon one was about £15 though, I imagine the dentist one would be a hundred times that!

I can’t believe how many women dance around men children who won’t take any responsibility for their problems. Has he tried mouth guards? Been to the dr at all? He should do all that as the snoring is his issue rather than you having to make lots of adjustments whilst he does nothing.
Why do you fear hurting the poor baby’s feelings? Men’s feelings do not count more than everyone else’s quality of life.

Sleeping in a bath because getting two rooms would be awkward???

I agree with PP, that's one of the weirdest things I've read on here, maybe on the whole internet.

I'm assuming that must be a weird typo although for what I don't know. Pp must mean, maybe, an air mattress on the bathroom floor.