I’m currently on maternity leave with a 9 month old my husband is self employed in a very demanding job. We have agreed that I will be a stay at home mum indefinitely to make life easier. my husband won’t be able to do school drop and pick ups maybe occasionally but not on a routine his job has him working too much late nights and early mornings. It does mean he can some flexibility with coming to sports days etc but he is a workaholic and loves to earn money. he’s very hands on when home but isn’t home a lot but does make sure we spend family time with us on the weekends. My job pre baby was stressful and flaring up my chronic illness and we can afford for me not to work with I’m very thankful for. I want to make sure I’m protected if things go wrong. Currently i have my own savings and own my own property which is due to be sold but the money will be left to me to keep in my own account and do with as I wish. Everything I spend is on the joint account and then I earn some small passive income which I use to save or spend on some frivolous things for myself. The house we own together I put half the deposit down on and that is in in our prenup to go back to me the prenup we have is mainly for my savings and property as most of this was gifted to me from grandparents. We’ve also arranged for him to go to nursery one day a week as off July and we already have a cleaner Who comes every other week. I love being a stay at home mum but want to be cautious I don’t get bogged down and resent my husband we have family near by but they don’t help out. I’m not here trying to gloat I know I’m in a fortunate position and very lucky I’m just trying to make sure I’m protected and can manage while chronicling I’ll to be a stay at home mum and wife. When he starts school I would obviously reconsider what’s best for me and our family but I can’t see it changing much.