Background:
Unfortunately we had an incident, DD (11) was accosted by a paedofile on Roblox. It’s with the police now, and even my police officer said that they weren’t aware of the endless and sick ways paedofiles can groom children on Roblox.
DD is no longer on Roblox.
I only found out about the events through instinct and checking her messages confirmed my fears. They took the chat off Roblox and that’s how I was able to find it, in her deleted messages.
She is vulnerable - suspected ADHD like me. We have been talking about private parts, what’s under the underpants is ours, nobody should touch/ask to be touched/talk about things like that, we talk openly about dangers at home (more me than DH…) and it became apparent from timelines that I was even talking to her about the online dangers and paedofiles as and when she was talking to him!
Clearly just talking to her was not enough (she really doesn’t want to discuss the happenings anymore and thankfully they never met, it was some horrific messages that no 11 year old - or her mother - should have to see and some phone calls where only she talked - he told her what he wanted her to talk about!) 😰😖😩😭
I feel heartbroken, and feel like it’s my fault, I never wanted her to have a phone and DD often cried all the way home (30 minute drive) after school for months last year that all her class mates have a phone but her! I said she could have a dumb phone but she was totally against that and DH said we will set up the phone together to make sure it safe but he never helped me. I set up the iPhone safety thing with my iPhone (screen time settings) but it’s not enough!
I wanted to ask what App do you ladies use, to monitor your child’s iPhone? Something that monitors text messages as well as all content.
There seem to be a few Apps on the market but they all seem short of what they should provide, to protect our children?
We paid for Kidlocks and it’s absolutely useless as you can see. We had that on her iPad for 2 years, since she had it, and she only got her phone at Christmas.
Thank you so much! Sorry about the long background, I’m still traumatised and worried for my DD.