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Do you want to be buried/cremated with a Bra on

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deadtitties · 27/05/2025 19:49

I for one rarely wear one as they are so darn uncomfortable and I never gave the undertaker one for my mum but I never realised this was such a bone of contention, excuse the pun.

Are you a with or without or simply don’t care?

My daughter says she will haunt anyone who puts her eternally in a Bra.

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Calliopespa · 27/05/2025 22:29

nahthatsnotforme · 27/05/2025 20:02

I bought my late MIL a beaded and diamanté top to wear in the funeral home, cos that was her style

I think I’d like to go a bit glam! So yes, bra.

Though by the time I’m a skeleton I might start to look a bit funny in my bra … 😕

missymousey · 27/05/2025 22:30

I'm going to be buried. No need for the carbon emissions of a cremation, and I don't like the idea of my bones being put through a grinder after burning. I've never thought about what to wear though! PJs (and no bra) I think.

ArtemisiaTheArtist · 27/05/2025 22:34

I'm being cremated (family tradition). No bra, because I wear crop tops and bralettes mostly, such are the size of things.

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CiaoMeow · 27/05/2025 22:36

Neither! I am seriously terrified of both.

BitOutOfPractice · 27/05/2025 22:36

I couldn’t give a shit either way.

if you find bras that uncomfortable you’re wearing the wrong bra @deadtitties

Kibble19 · 27/05/2025 22:37

WilfredsPies · 27/05/2025 20:04

I wonder if your ghost outfit is the outfit you die in, or the outfit you’re cremated/buried in?

Love this question!

CiaoMeow · 27/05/2025 22:37

Sorry, misread question?

Would rather have bra off!

AdoraBell · 27/05/2025 22:38

I’ve never thought about it.

denpark · 27/05/2025 22:39

I think that once we’re dead, we’re dead so it doesn’t matter!

DustyMaiden · 27/05/2025 22:40

I really don’t care. I’ve told my DD I want to be cremated in my Chanel handbag. She said there will be more tears for the handbag.

Kibble19 · 27/05/2025 22:41

I wonder if it’s hard to dress someone who’s dead. I imagine but the time they’re at the funeral directors, it would be laborious for the dresser. Is it a two or 3 person job? Lots of lifting and laying I’d imagine.

mindingmyown37 · 27/05/2025 22:41

I mean absolutely not, I’ve been trapped by the things for long enough…😅

Dullmary · 27/05/2025 22:47

I don’t know. On the one hand I’d like to waft into eternity in a comfy silk kaftan and no underwear. On the other, knowing my luck the afterlife will begin with a surprise party with all my deceased friends and family there, and I would be mortified to show up with my wompers flopping about.

ScrambledSmegs · 27/05/2025 22:48

All my bras are perfectly comfortable, I wouldn't mind spending eternity in any of them. However I'd like to be buried in a natural burial ground near where I live, and quite frankly I'm not sure if they allow underwire.

catin8oot5 · 27/05/2025 22:50

A very close friend of mine died recently (young) and it was a big thing for his partner to pick out a nice outfit, including pants and socks 😬

When I arrived at the funeral parlour to see him he looked great. But had this funny pair of spectacles on. He’d never worn glasses in his life. I gently removed them and took them out to the lady in charge and explained they weren’t my friends.

She was a bit of a dragon and got her clipboard out and insisted they were his. After a bit of tooing and froing I was like Elaine - unless friend has had an eye test in the last 5 weeks that he has been dead I can assure you they are not his.

I was just thinking there was probably some other poor family day out there thinking where the hell are grandpa’s specs?

Turns out they were partner’s reading glasses he’d left in the pocket of the clothes he’d sent him to be dressed in.

Was a very funny moment during an incredibly sad time

Calliopespa · 27/05/2025 22:50

Kibble19 · 27/05/2025 22:41

I wonder if it’s hard to dress someone who’s dead. I imagine but the time they’re at the funeral directors, it would be laborious for the dresser. Is it a two or 3 person job? Lots of lifting and laying I’d imagine.

Having manoeuvred sleeping toddlers into their pjs I can confirm it’s not a job I’d enjoy.

Kibble19 · 27/05/2025 22:52

Calliopespa · 27/05/2025 22:50

Having manoeuvred sleeping toddlers into their pjs I can confirm it’s not a job I’d enjoy.

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Ha! Can relate to this!

PawsAndTails · 27/05/2025 23:05

I never thought about it until I had the job of choosing an outfit for someone to be buried in. Going through their clothes I hesitated on the bra then decided to just pack it with the rest of the clothes I was sending over. It's part of an outfit after all. If it wasn't appropriate, they could decide not to use it. They did put it on the deceased person.

Someone up thread mentioned a lot of people forget underpants. I can't even remember that detail now. I suspect I sent some but can't actually remember. Don't they have special plastic underwear they put on deceased people anyway?

MidnightMusing5 · 27/05/2025 23:06

In my faith, be it man, woman king or pauper- you’re washed and then wrapped in a simple plain white cloth. So no bra it is :)

FagsMagsandBags · 27/05/2025 23:12

If I was being buried or cremated straight away I'd be wearing a long red sequinned dress I bought and wore recently. But I'm donating my body to science and although I'll be cremated and given back when they're done with me I think by then no one's coming to have a look at me, so who cares.

Calliopespa · 27/05/2025 23:45

Dullmary · 27/05/2025 22:47

I don’t know. On the one hand I’d like to waft into eternity in a comfy silk kaftan and no underwear. On the other, knowing my luck the afterlife will begin with a surprise party with all my deceased friends and family there, and I would be mortified to show up with my wompers flopping about.

I think arriving in the afterlife “with my wompers flopping about” is the funniest thing I have read yet on MN. A brilliant image!

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deadtitties · 28/05/2025 03:37

DustyMaiden · 27/05/2025 22:40

I really don’t care. I’ve told my DD I want to be cremated in my Chanel handbag. She said there will be more tears for the handbag.

😵😵

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NewAgeNewMe · 28/05/2025 04:18

I’m a rare breed that I’m uncomfortable without a bra. And mine are tiny. Can’t remember sending underwear with my dad’s suit but I remember socks and shoes so must have done. Think we sent a bra with my Nan. She was always immaculately dressed. I remember seeing dad & Nan in the funeral parlour and FIL. All looked so smart.

PortillosRedTrousers · 28/05/2025 04:20

I don’t want to go naked. What if I arrive in the afterlife to meet loved ones but hear cries of, “your minge!”.

Typically, in stories and accounts, ghosts are dressed. Weird, because they would be more scary if a male ghost had his cock and balls out. Or the Grey Lady coming towards you with her wompers flopping about.

BooneyBeautiful · 28/05/2025 04:27

MerryPortas · 27/05/2025 19:52

I h ave never given it a thought!

Me neither! I have had a mastectomy and wear a prosthetic in my bra. Not sure I am that bothered about what I would be wearing for my own cremation. Presumably it would be what I was wearing when I died. I have paid for an unattended cremation, so I assume there would only be a couple of funeral directors present.