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Do you want to be buried/cremated with a Bra on

113 replies

deadtitties · 27/05/2025 19:49

I for one rarely wear one as they are so darn uncomfortable and I never gave the undertaker one for my mum but I never realised this was such a bone of contention, excuse the pun.

Are you a with or without or simply don’t care?

My daughter says she will haunt anyone who puts her eternally in a Bra.

OP posts:
SunflowersandSangria · 27/05/2025 21:32

Rowgtfc72 · 27/05/2025 19:53

When my mum died I carefully ironed all her clothes, including tights, knickers and her bra. She was a stickler for not being creased and was obsessed I would be run over with unironed underwear.
It didn't cross my mind not to send her off in a bra. Maybe a generational thing.
Eternity in a bra? No thanks.

I remember carefully washing and ironing my DB clothes for the funeral parlour to dress him in - it was such an honour to do this for him even though in life I don’t think he even knew what an iron was! I didn’t even think think to send in underpants! I feel a bit guilty about that now thinking about it but I don’t think he would have minded - probably preferred to be pant-less in fact

SparklyGlitterballs · 27/05/2025 21:43

minnienono · 27/05/2025 20:20

they remove all metal before cremation so not an underwired one!

No they don't. I used to be a funeral arranger. Do you think we were cutting open people with hip and knee replacements to remove the metal? Or people with bones pinned together after accidents? It all goes in the cremator and any melted metals are removed when the ashes are collected up.

We weren't allowed to put glass in the coffin, so anyone who had provided spectacles - we had to remove the glass and leave just the frames. Batteries obviously couldn't go in. Although we could allow a belt or small leather item, we couldn't dress the deceased in all leather outfits. This is due to the chemicals used in the tanning process. Had one guy whose father had been a biker and he was upset that his dad couldn't be dressed in all his biking leathers.

You'd be surprised how many people forgot to provide underwear for their loved ones. Even pants or socks. My mum hates wearing bras (in her 80s) so I'll just provide one of her vests when it's her turn.

NattyTurtle59 · 27/05/2025 21:47

Couldn't care less. Anyway, I am one of those rare creatures - on MN anyway - who doesn't find a bra the least bit uncomfortable.

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ErrolTheDragon · 27/05/2025 21:52

Why on earth would I need any clothing on my body before being buried or burned?Confused Just a waste/pollution.

Luckydin · 27/05/2025 21:59

I work in the funeral trade and have dressed many people. Bras are really not necessary!

We do really appreciate it when people send in socks for their loved ones as it makes dressing people much easier, especially if we have to put shoes on

desperatedaysareover · 27/05/2025 22:04

My mum was buried in a shroud, at her own request, and it just occurred to me right now that I should have maybe thought of giving them undies. New guilt unlocked😳

RedOtter101 · 27/05/2025 22:07

Never thought about it but I'd say no, let the girls dangle over the sides as long as I'd have a bit of comfort heading into eternity.

Mum2jenny · 27/05/2025 22:09

Never thought about it, do I need to?

Jewishbookworm · 27/05/2025 22:12

2chocolateoranges · 27/05/2025 19:51

Nope, I’ve told my family, I want to be cremated with my jammies and woolly socks on.

thats pretty much what Jewish people get buried in.

White cotton pjs. No bra.

So this.

Theunamedcat · 27/05/2025 22:13

There is a guy on tiktok who answers questions about this sort of thing I think he said they weren't needed

cheesycheesy · 27/05/2025 22:14

Rowgtfc72 · 27/05/2025 19:53

When my mum died I carefully ironed all her clothes, including tights, knickers and her bra. She was a stickler for not being creased and was obsessed I would be run over with unironed underwear.
It didn't cross my mind not to send her off in a bra. Maybe a generational thing.
Eternity in a bra? No thanks.

That really sweet!

RedOtter101 · 27/05/2025 22:15

You could wear one, die, wait for rigor mortis to set in and then have it removed. Shouldn't they remain in their bra shape in that case?

Boxingshibes · 27/05/2025 22:16

Just had the discussion with dh. What he'd want to be buried in but he wants to donate his body to medicine. Apparently if you do that you don't need to pay for a funeral.
I've had a dmx so no bra. I'd prefer cremation or donation but maybe a top and trousers.
My dps i think my df would want his kilt and dm a dress + bra and pants.

Theunamedcat · 27/05/2025 22:17

I've told dd I will haunt her if she makes me wear shoes or a bra 😂

Noshadelamp · 27/05/2025 22:17

Dearg · 27/05/2025 19:56

😂 I had not thought of it until you asked. Not sure they’d cremate you in one, or at least not a wired one.

I will have to go and pick out an outfit to stipulate in my wishes. Probably dog walking clothes with a pocket of treats as I fully expect my lovely, late , labrador will want a walk and a lot of treats, by the time I get there.

Can relate too much x

LogicalBlodge · 27/05/2025 22:18

According to the will I wrote when I was 8 years old I want to be buried in my favourite blanket. That is all.

EBearhug · 27/05/2025 22:18

I want a silk shroud.

I was at a funeral today. I didn't ask what she was wearing, and I couldn't see in the wicker coffin.

Cynic17 · 27/05/2025 22:18

Not something I've ever thought about! But it won't matter anyway, because I'll be dead. They can cremate me in a bin bag, tbh - nobody will be looking, and everything will be burnt.

evtheria · 27/05/2025 22:19

I would prefer to be wrapped up (nude) in pages of my favourite stories and poetry, a bit like a pass the parcel, then set alight.

RedOtter101 · 27/05/2025 22:21

I'm a lay member of a Catholic religious order so I'll be buried in the order's shroud by the bra thing is bothering me 😂

Cynic17 · 27/05/2025 22:21

Allaboutmememe · 27/05/2025 20:31

Dead today burn me tomorrow move on.
As planed no one will have my ashes no service no nothing,
From the bed to the burner end off.

This is perfect and I couldn't agree more.

PermanentTemporary · 27/05/2025 22:21

Definitely no bra. Ideally a comfy jumper, jeans and socks [starts version 18 of my 'letter of wishes'].

I sent dh off to eternity in an open shirt because when he'd started his own business it was such a joy to him that he didn't have to wear a tie any more. Whereas dp rather likes being suited and booted so for him probably full black tie including his grandads dinner jacket.

SunnieShine · 27/05/2025 22:21

21ZIGGY · 27/05/2025 19:56

Absolutely not. I want my bras cremating. I want fluffy pjs and socks and a good pillow

I want that...and a comfy crop top. I hate wearing no bra at all but a stretchy crop top is most comfortable.

CarpetKnees · 27/05/2025 22:25

Not something I'd ever given any thought to.

Now you ask - I'll be dead, and in a closed coffin, so it doesn't matter. I presume I'll be cremated in whatever I was wearing when I died.

I can see it would be different if your culture has an open coffin.

All that said, I have never understood the number of people on MN who wear bras that are so uncomfortable they can't wait to take them off. I've always worn bras that fit me.

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