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I've just spent a few days at new man's parents' house

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Curlybook · 23/05/2025 16:20

They've been lovely, nothing too much trouble and the house is beautiful, spotless, but soo uncomfortable.

Nothing is there to be nice to use. The beds are nice looking wooden frames with saggy mattresses, the sofa has wooden arms and is impossible to sit on unless you sit up straight, even garden furniture has no cushions and the shower doesn't have a handheld bit so is awkward to use.

I've come home to my slightly shabby and untidy house glad to be able to curl up on the sofa.

Do you think they find it uncomfortable too?

OP posts:
BookWorrum · 23/05/2025 18:53

I think it’s horrible that your response to the hospitality from these “kind people” is to bitch about their home on the internet.

Imagine waving a visitor goodbye and then learning that they did that?

Curlybook · 23/05/2025 18:54

BookWorrum · 23/05/2025 18:53

I think it’s horrible that your response to the hospitality from these “kind people” is to bitch about their home on the internet.

Imagine waving a visitor goodbye and then learning that they did that?

I'm really not bitching

OP posts:
BookWorrum · 23/05/2025 18:57

Curlybook · 23/05/2025 18:54

I'm really not bitching

Would you say it to their faces?

W0tnow · 23/05/2025 18:57

Calm down it’s the chat board.

Willinlaw · 23/05/2025 19:01

That's going to be me @LetYouEntertainMe but I think I'm going to act on the revalation. I will take and leave new pillows. i can do that.
My in-laws won't thank me but my head will.

nothingagainstyourrightleg · 23/05/2025 19:01

I’ve come on to defend Elmlea.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 23/05/2025 19:04

YYYDlilah · 23/05/2025 16:47

My 'in-laws' offered me Elmlea.

My Mum would do the same. I wouldn't. People are different, hold the front page!

HiddenInCubeOfCheese · 23/05/2025 19:06

hopeishere · 23/05/2025 16:30

We never use the handheld bit in our shower! Just the overhead bit.

They’re probably used to it now. I cannot sit on metal garden furniture- so uncomfortable!!

I don’t get this at all - how does one rinse the foof?! Whenever I’ve had the misfortune to be stuck with a purely fixed overhead shower, I’ve had to sort of cup my hand and then splash upwards?

#NotATroll

junebirthdaygirl · 23/05/2025 19:09

I have my kids partners come to stay regularly. If there was anything my own kids thought was uncomfortable for them they would be very quick to tell me. I never understand grown up children not being direct with their parents saying: we need a new mattress if you want us to stay. I must have reared very straight talking kids!!
The wooden arms on the couches could be an age thing as sinking down does not lend itself to getting up easily.

gamerchick · 23/05/2025 19:17

HiddenInCubeOfCheese · 23/05/2025 19:06

I don’t get this at all - how does one rinse the foof?! Whenever I’ve had the misfortune to be stuck with a purely fixed overhead shower, I’ve had to sort of cup my hand and then splash upwards?

#NotATroll

I don't get it either..I've pondered handstands.

Justwaited · 23/05/2025 19:18

How new a man?

Justwaited · 23/05/2025 19:18

Curlybook · 23/05/2025 18:54

I'm really not bitching

Maybe not
but you are being incredibly weird

Justsayno123 · 23/05/2025 19:19

gamerchick · 23/05/2025 19:17

I don't get it either..I've pondered handstands.

The water is raining all over you. You take your hand and rub it around the area. Exactly the same as washing your armpits. You realise you shouldn't be attempting to hose the inside, right?

Justwaited · 23/05/2025 19:20

How old are you op?

GingerPaste · 23/05/2025 19:22

BookWorrum · 23/05/2025 18:53

I think it’s horrible that your response to the hospitality from these “kind people” is to bitch about their home on the internet.

Imagine waving a visitor goodbye and then learning that they did that?

^This.

Bitching or not, it’s not a nice response to someone hosting you well for a few days… Get on the internet and moan about their place. What does your partner think about your complaints and this post?

Davros · 23/05/2025 19:23

hopeishere · 23/05/2025 16:30

We never use the handheld bit in our shower! Just the overhead bit.

They’re probably used to it now. I cannot sit on metal garden furniture- so uncomfortable!!

If nothing else, the handheld bit is for cleaning

Charlize43 · 23/05/2025 19:24

Saggy and shabby aren't things that would interest me, but I do love the idea of. wearing gold heels indoors.

rumred · 23/05/2025 19:32

Curlybook · 23/05/2025 18:54

I'm really not bitching

I don't think you are. We all have opinions and we all differ. I hate staying anywhere but my home. I know exactly what is what, it's easy and comfortable. I've stayed in others houses over the years and unspoken rules have really been my biggest bugbear. People who are tight lipped and disapproving. But you don't know the rules.

godmum56 · 23/05/2025 19:38

YYYDlilah · 23/05/2025 16:47

My 'in-laws' offered me Elmlea.

I like elmlea

HiddenInCubeOfCheese · 23/05/2025 19:40

Justsayno123 · 23/05/2025 19:19

The water is raining all over you. You take your hand and rub it around the area. Exactly the same as washing your armpits. You realise you shouldn't be attempting to hose the inside, right?

Yes, we know that…that could cause an embolism.

I just think that a bit of splashing isn’t guaranteed to get all the soap suds out the flaps and I’m not risking thrush.

Seconding that you need a hose attachment to clean a shower/bath/the dog (not a euphemism).

Also…the rear end. I’d rather not shove my hand around in there after it’s been soaped to try and rinse. I suppose you could bend over and let the water run down…but then it’ll go back to front.

See, already way too much headspace. Hose attachments for everyone!

HideousKinky · 23/05/2025 19:43

Sorry I have to ask (but without derailing thread....)
What is elmlea?

Tourmalines · 23/05/2025 19:45

Weirdo

ShiftingSand · 23/05/2025 19:45

ExceedinglyCharacteristic · 23/05/2025 16:45

Other households’ ‘normal’ is often odd — going to a new boyfriend’s parents’ house is a bit like how weird it felt when you went on a sleepover and encountered families that said an elaborate grace before meals, or where ketchup was served from a jar on a special side plate using a small spoon, or the younger children dressed themselves from a large trunk that contained all the junior clothes!

I know my SIL can’t bear staying in my parents’ house — it’s tiny and overheated, all the rooms lead out of one another, so you can’t go to the bathroom without passing through either the kitchen or the living room, and there’s no privacy at all.

DH’s parents’ living room is set up for two people in armchairs watching tv, and they shut the blinds and never turn on the lights (the better to watch tv), so if you’re there, you’re peering fuzzily at their faces lit by tv light. And their only loo/bathroom is downstairs, just inside the front door, across from the living room, and it has frosted glass panels which allow anyone passing to look straight at a flight ly frosted, but entirely visible picture of you sitting in full view on the loo.

The frosted glass panel in the bathroom has taken me back to a boyfriend’s parents’ house many years back where the kitchen was in front of the bathroom on the ground floor (small Victorian house), so you walked past the kitchen and entered the bathroom with full frosted panels. I only braved the shower once as parents and sister would walk past regularly. There was another room further on so they had to walk by the bathroom. His sister’s bedroom was on a mezzanine level but everyone said it was on the landing as we had to walk through to get to my boyfriend’s room. There was also no door to her room which opened out from the stairs. Bit of a nightmare 😂

JudgeyJudie · 23/05/2025 19:46

Curlybook · 23/05/2025 16:30

His mum, I her 70s is beautifully turned out herself and definitely not dressed for comfort. It's a shoes off house, but every evening she was in gold heels that she saves for indoors.

My spirit animal

Toddlerteaplease · 23/05/2025 19:47

I don’t like my parents sofa, but my dad hates mine. So we call it quits 🤣

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