Strange things people have done or said to you that you still think about sometimes?!?

[biney]

Mine is I once called my uncle to ask him if he would like to meet at a cafe in town to get a coffee, he went absolutely mad at me over the phone and hung up, Later found out he had told the rest of my family that I was obvioulsy a controlling person because I was trying to control him and his life for trying to 'make' him go out for a coffee when he didn't want to!

This was four years ago and he hasn't spoken to me since, Apart from one text to tell me he was better without people like me in his life for the sake of his own mental health!.

There is no backstory apart from what I wrote here, I still think of this all the time!

I was 17 years old and having driving lessons. The Instructor chain smoked a pipe during the lessons. During a lesson he said to me " You always drive like you have nowhere to go" ??! Later during that lesson he told me to pull over and stop the car . I had parked the car at a Gent's public toilet. I thought he was going to use the toilet but he got out of the car and took a leather belt from the boot of the car and tied my left foot to the clutch pedal. He told me it was to stop me taking my foot off the clutch pedal whilst changing up the gears. I didn't have any more lessons with him after this.
It have never forgotten this. I've mentioned it to a few people over the years and have never met anybody who experienced anything like this.

A woman knocked on our front door and asked me who mowed our lawn. I didn't know this woman, never seen her before. I said my husband and she then said, extremely seriously, she would be very grateful if I sent him round to now her lawn. Then she walked off down the drive. Never seen her again.

I was sat, on a train in a completely empty carriage, literally every seat but mine empty and some random bloke approached and said would I mind if he sat next to me. I said I would actually and could he go and sit in one of the many empty seats. Unfazed he sat next to me, put his head on my shoulder and fell asleep. I got up and headed for the next carriage.

That's totally unprofessional and should have been reported.

When Facebook first started I became friends, as you do, with someone I hadn’t seen for a while.
We were both into our fashion at the time, and were always chatting about what was in style.
I got lots of magazines at the time and one month received two 25 per cent off gift cards from Kurt Geiger.
I just casually asked if she’d like one, she said yes.
I said well I can pop it in the post or drop it through your front door, whichever you’d prefer.
And then joked… for God’s sake don’t let me in, I will only start rifling through your shoe collection.
She blocked me. And then went around various mutual friends to tell them I was stalking her and that I’d threatened to burgle her house.
It is laughable now but at the time I was so, so upset,
I read back through our chats, I had never invited myself to her home, or pried into her life at all.
Facebook. I came off it years ago as far as I’m convened it’s not a pleasant place.

No darling, that is not how witches roll.
I work with 3 witches and they are the loveliest of people.

A large group of us were recently visiting Sheffield to see a show. We went out to eat and straight away we were aware that people in the restaurant (from several different tables) were glaring at DS (he is 24). He has never been to Sheffield in his life.
We could only assume that he looks like a local criminal.

Because she was worried about her mum and felt invalidated. Reassurance can feel very invalidating sometimes.

It really isn’t, you know. I’ve been an academic for the past 25 years, at several institutions actossvthree countries, and before that, did four degrees, so I have been solidly around academics and university staff since the early 90s, and I can assure that a previously reserved and polite person suddenly bursting out, unprovoked, into hysterical screaming, and appearing to have no memory of it afterwards, is not in any way ‘standard’! Fortunately.

I have chronic leukaemia, it’s incurable. However it can grumble on quietly for years without causing too many problems.
The most annoying people are those that trot out the line ‘ you’re more likely to die with it than from it.’
I have had more antibiotics in the last year than I’ve had in my life.

You meant to be helpful but you weren’t, just listen and be empathetic.

When I was a youg girl (probably no older than 8) my parents and I were staying in a bed and breakfast type establishment by the coast. One evening they left me alone in our room to attend a function at a nearby yacht club and I got scared by myself so I wandered into the lounge where there was a family sat together playing cards. They invited me to join them and taught me how to play 21, gambling with matchsticks. I soon got the hang of it and accumulated quite a pile of matchsticks after a while when the mother of the group said to me: “lucky in cards, unlucky in love”. I often think back to her words as a sort of curse because although I haven’t become a successful gambler in adulthood, I have had a pretty unsuccessful love life!

When I was about 8 years old and my sister was 6 we were walking on a beach in Dorset with one of our little friends. Our parents were there too but we were walking quite far ahead.
my sister and I are mixed race. A man walking his dog approached us and proceeded to tell us that one day we would both grow up and marry white men and we would have white children and our race would be no more. He then walked off and we told all the parents when they caught up. They were mad that he’d said it but he was long gone. It upset me and my sister at the time because it seemed threatening but it’s only now I look back and think that we did both marry white men and our kids are all pretty fair. I always wonder whether he was just telling the future rather than being the threat we perceived at the time?

same happened to me in India but at least they asked before snapping away. (I said no) I’m pretty pale I guess that must have amused them!

In Singapore etc it‘s apparently lucky to touch a ginger/blonde toddler so my colleagues son got carried around by airport staff and everyone was cooing over him

That does seem odd but as you were on the beach in Dorset (dinosaurs etc) maybe he was trying to explain how evolution works to you?

Maybe to her it sounded like you were minimising it rather than just consoling her and giving sympathy, which she wanted in that moment.

Phone call from my ex absolutely deranged screaming how dare you HOW DARE YOU! I hung up and he kept on ringing and screaming before I blocked him I said (amongst other things like wtf are you talking about" "apparently I dare very easily" "YOU ADMITTED IT HOW DARE YOU" I had literally done nothing and the next time I saw him he was normal like nothing had happened still don't know what it was I dared to do

He also rang me up on a similar line saying how could you do that she is innocent! I pointed out I had done nothing he insisted I had I asked if he was on drugs he said no YOUR ON DRUGS OMG YOUR ON DRUGS AND YOU HAVE MY CHILDREN IM CALLING THE POLICE THEY WILL DRUUUUG TEST YOU cool beans mate I will tell the you need a test too I will wait for them I contacted my childcare waited for the police to show up 6 years later no police no drug test again saw him a few days later acting like nothing happened

Fucking unhinged but apparently doesn't do drugs

Team friend, I’m afraid. When you are desperately worried about something, you need to be listened to, not ‘fixed’. What you said was minimising, and didn’t acknowledge her grief and fear.

As a teenager in the 70s, my friend and I were walking in our bikinis in a seaside town, about 20 metres from the beach. An old lady had a go at us, saying we were disgusting and obscene and needed to put some clothes on. We were gobsmacked and didn't reply. I think about her when I walk along that same stretch even now.

Ooff. You can't just invalidate people's fears around cancer. That kind of response is about making you feel better, not them. It doesn't help with the uncertainty. You meant well but that was ignorant.

Years ago, at work, the photocopier repair man came in. He started chatting to me about what a coincidence it was seeing me twice in one day, how did I cope with having two jobs, etc. I was absolutely baffled! I only had the one job.

I recounted the experience with my sister the following weekend. Turns out he'd fixed the copier in her office that morning. The bizarre thing is we're not twins and look nothing alike!

And talking of twins, my DC are 18m apart in age. I had newborn DC and 18m in the double pram and I was congratulated on having twins. I mean, wtf? My eldest was huge and sitting up compared to my teensy newborn lying down.

Not an old wives tale. It does work in wasp stings. Vinegar is acidic, which helps neutralise the alkaline venom injected by wasps.

In Australia the use vinegar on some jelly fish stings.

me too! I often get people saying ,well it’s a better cancer to have ,,,

This happened to my exDH and I in Egypt ten years ago - we both had white blonde hair, his was waist length and he was 6'2" so I guess we stood out! Lots of people following and taking photos 🤣

In Italy with my white blonde toddler, people were stopping us in the street to.gush over us!

I guess we are too British and wouldn't make a fuss in the same way!

I'm sorry you experienced that. With it being your 16th and true and out of character, do you think it could have been a very bad joke though? Obviously it wouldn't take away the hurt.

This particular incident haunts me. I was walking on the footpath between the Yeovil Penn Mill Station and the Cineworld complex in Yeovil town centre, just as I approached the carpark a young man ran towards me, stopped right in front of me, yelled something in a language I neither recognised nor understood then past me and carried on running in the way i had come, seconds later a small group of men also running past me. To this day i have no idea what was going on, I kept an eye on the local news for a few days after in case there has been a young foriegn man attacked in Yeovil. On the same footpath i witnessed a middle-aged bald man yelling at a young woman, once again I kept an eye on the news but never heard a thing about either incident.