Strange things people have done or said to you that you still think about sometimes?!?

[biney]

Mine is I once called my uncle to ask him if he would like to meet at a cafe in town to get a coffee, he went absolutely mad at me over the phone and hung up, Later found out he had told the rest of my family that I was obvioulsy a controlling person because I was trying to control him and his life for trying to 'make' him go out for a coffee when he didn't want to!

This was four years ago and he hasn't spoken to me since, Apart from one text to tell me he was better without people like me in his life for the sake of his own mental health!.

There is no backstory apart from what I wrote here, I still think of this all the time!

I moved away from a city recently and left behind a really good friend. We were close, but since I moved, she’s basically ignored me. I’ve tried to keep things going, I message her, try to have a laugh, invited her down to visit but I get very little. Radio silence.
I’m always the one to instigate contact, and when she does reply, it just feels like she’s going through the motions. It’s left me feeling really sad and a bit rejected, if I’m honest.
I don’t know if I’ve done something wrong or if she’s just quietly checked out of the friendship. Has anyone else had a friendship fall apart like this after moving away?

On the morning of my 16th birthday my dad stuck his head close to mine and nastily said. “Do you know I could legally chuck you out now?” Then walked through the door and went to work.

it was really out of character. My brother said it must have been a joke and he’s been very helpful over the years so perhaps it was but I remember it so clearly and it upsets me as much today as it did that day forty years later.

I was making my bf a cup of tea and he popped to the shop to get biscuits. He came back after 2 hours as they didn’t have the ones he wanted and ended up on a long walk.

Tea obviously stone cold and I was wondering what the hell happened: Years ago (no mobile phones!) but still boggles my mind.

I feel so sad for you and the other poster.😔This stuff sticks doen't it.

I was on a date, we were finishing our wine after some live music. A couple of people pulled up some chairs, listened to our conversation and started commenting on what we were saying. It was really weird.

I was supporting my client in a wheelchair with profound physical disabilities but not learning difficulties in a cafe once and an elderly lady came over and said ‘I did a race for your kind!’ I know she meant well but it was quite odd wording, me and my client still giggle about it

Pardon??

So strange. I was pregnant last year, was having an annual check up at my GP when I was in the third trimester. When I went to leave the nurse said, I’ll see you next year and hopefully your baby will be alive then too. What? 😆 I really hope she meant that the baby would be born and got her words mixed up.

What?? I’ve just played that out in my head and I’m so confused. Surely someone was pranking you😆

I had a similar thing, a relatives birthday at their new partners house. We were invited (I didn’t ask to go). Someone else answered the door and said come in, relatives partner was in the kitchen so we went in and she completely ignored us! Someone else asked if we wanted a drink we said yes, she wouldn’t even turn around and look at us. Why ask us if you didn’t want to speak to us! Relative said about one sentence an hour later and we knew no one else there, so weird, what was the point? Thankfully they didn’t stay together

No, they were serious. It was like they were watching TV.

When I was pregnant with my first child I worked in a shop, customers would always say to me when they noticed I was pregnant “were you trying for a baby?” Or “don’t you think you’re too young to be a mum?” And annoyingly “are you sure there’s only one in there aren’t you massive” I shrugged it all off to be polite but I wish I had some good come backs now 😂 some of the questions they asked I wouldn’t dream of asking someone I didn’t know.
I’ve had loads of other weird encounters. People are so strange.

I had a large gap between two children and the way people would comment when I was out and about with my first child..."that's your only child? You can't just have one child. Why haven't you had another? I mean you can obviously have them, you have one" etc.

I met a mature student classmate a few years after college who said "I didn't recognise you, you put on so much weight" (reader I hadn't).

On holidays in Turkey, my husband and child were at the chemist. This elderly lady burst in and started pulling at my husband's sleeve and talking quickly. The chemist was obviously telling her to stop, short argument, she left. I asked what she said, the chemist said just ignore her, and another person working there said that she was telling my husband to leave me, look at the state of me, there were lots of lovely women around who would be better for him.

But one I think of most frequently is a friend who completely ghosted me out of the blue probably 15 years ago now. We were very close and I have no idea what happened. I've reached out to her a few times but no reply.

A friend who was another Mum at school suddenly stopped talking to me and was acting weird around me. For a couple of years or so I had absolutely no idea why.

Eventually another friend got us together to talk. It turned out when her disabled daughter hurt my son at school, my husband had complained to the school about the daughter. School however had told her that the ‘parents’ complained and she was upset and felt let down.

Luckily thanks to our other friend I got the opportunity to explain it was just DH that complained and it was nothing to do with me. In fact I grew up with a girl just like her daughter so I completely understood that her daughter lashed out at my son in frustration. So annoyed at school for causing me to lose a couple of years of friendship.

A Romany woman once came up to me in the street and said I would be travelling very far away. I had absolutely no plans to go anywhere, but less than four weeks later because of twist in fate I was in India, somewhere I'd never been and had no connection with or plans to visit ever.

I chair a non exec director board. This involves me being in touch with all sorts of people who work for the organisation, by text and email. One day I had a vile email from the wife of the Chief Finance Officer demanding to know how long I had been having an affair with her husband, who started it, what has he told me about their relationship and how I should be ashamed of myself.
Er, there was no affair. Every single interaction was professional. She bombarded me with texts for a whole evening and would not believe we were not having an affair as she had “seen the texts”.
What? Talking about recruitment budget? Or sign off on building works? That is not sexy talk Sharon and certainly not proof of an affair. He was mortified. She later emailed a long winded apology blaming HRT for paranoia. Bizarre.

This unfortunately sounds like standard university staff behaviour. I came across many unhinged, highly strung individuals when I was at university.

Just left home - very rural - aged 18 and working/ living in central London. A man came up to me at a bus stop and told me he bet I must have had a terribly strict headmistress, did I want to talk about it?

I was totally baffled. I eventually learnt what might have been going on in his little head!

Omg !! I’ve had weirdness in my life but if this happened as you said then it’s truly weird !!

Yes. We’ve moved a few times due to DH’s work and I’ve lost some good friendships. People respond to my messages, but don’t keep the conversation going IYKWIM. I realise we’re no longer in each other’s day to day, but I had hoped our shared history would count for more. DH argues it’s just our life phase (early 40’s, so jobs, children, parents etc) and everyone is just head down trying to hold it together, but it makes me very sad.

Omg !! ❤️

He was letting you know he wouldn't have done the same for you had his daughter not been there. He's letting you know that the gesture was not for your benefit at. Why he had to do that is really unkind but anyway.

Oddly I bumped into someone in a pub I knew from years and years ago and she was convinced we had never met. Her sister who remembered me was with her and even she couldn’t understand why her sister didn’t know who I was but she got quite annoyed in the end because she ‘definitely’ had never met me before. We used to go out every week to listen to live music. 😳

In 1993 my friend's mum had had breast cancer. I said during the course of the conversation to try and reassure her - that if caught early enough - breast cancer is one of the easiest cancers to treat as the breast is more ‘outside’ the body - it’s not an internal organ like the liver, iyswim which would be infinitely more difficult to treat - someone would likely have a worse prognosis if it was liver cancer.

She the became very indignant and instead of being reassured said-

“my mother has cancer!” Before storming off !!!

Ha now I feel old! That’s reminded me I used to ring the speaking clock when I was a kid! 😂now I feel even older!