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On a scale of 1-10, how embarrassed would you be if someone walked into your house right now?

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Corneliusthecamel · 19/05/2025 16:38

1 being not at all embarrassed, 10 being totally embarrassed?

I’d say my house is currently about a 5. It’s not terrible but equally the bathroom is overdue a clean, there’s baby toys all over the place and some cat fluff on the carpet that needs hoovering up. Even though I’m constantly hoovering 😂🤦‍♀️

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VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 20/05/2025 14:54

Its a 1 from me. My house isn't tidy, but its not dirty, and quite frankly I couldn't give a shit what anyone who doesn't live in it thinks of it.

whirlyhead · 20/05/2025 14:56

People are constantly wandering in and out of my house and I am never at all bothered by the state of it - it's quite minimalist!

DancingLions · 20/05/2025 15:17

1 Not because it's perfect by any means but there's nothing I'd feel embarrassed over. A little bit of mess is not embarrassing to me. So there's some dishes need to go in the dishwasher. The sofas need straightening. I had a grocery delivery today and still some bits to go away. Stuff like that.

I'd only really be embarrassed if it was lots of mess everywhere, or something was very dirty. Likewise I'd only really notice in someone elses house if it was really bad. I expect to see signs of day to day life. I don't particularly feel at ease if a house is too "perfect".

BigBoysDontCry · 20/05/2025 15:32

As long as they weren't poking in cupboards or looking under/behind the fridge then 1.

Its not always been the case but post split with ex I've done a lot of work to get to a point where I'm pretty happy that I could have unexpected visitors and not be embarrassed.

Adult DSs room may be an exception but nothing is crawling out it and I have all my dishes so I presume it's not too bad.

Love51 · 21/05/2025 14:54

MoominMai · 20/05/2025 14:31

10 - live alone and have no friends or family. I have quite a large home with 3 toilets, many rooms and large gardens. I’m recovering from a broken shoulder and metartasal and in between that and a break up, my mental health went down and I’ve also put 2 stone on. I work FT and think I’m a highly functioning depressive. People at work would have no clue of the squalor I live in. The longer it goes on though the harder it is to get on top of it. I feel I only have enough to show up for work and then just disappear into myself. It’s got to the point I wouldn’t know what to say to a cleaner to explain the mess. I literally just tiptoe and walk my way through it all. Last weekend I filled 6 bin bags just with the kitchen mess from 7 months accumulation. This is where I could do with family or a friend to confide in and just help me kickstart this. I’m utterly defeated by it and feel unable to do more than the bare minimum each day which is no good when I have 7 months of build up to address 😑

That brilliant, 7 binbags.
I have had a few bouts of depression over the years and an under-acknowledged symptom is how hard it is to make a decision. Once I got a bit better i had a lot of decisions to make about stuff and clutter in the house - delayed decisions) I used FlyLady but anything will do so long as you are making progress. 15 minutes a day decluttering will get you quite far (it gets you from messy to OK, you need something else for the last 10% to tidy!)

DilemmaDelilah · 21/05/2025 18:12

3, it's not actually that bad at all but I like it to be perfect if I have people round.

uncomfortablydumb60 · 21/05/2025 18:18

1 In fact my postman walked straight in earlier and handed me my post while I was reclining in my chair
They’d have to move the dog if they wanted to sit down though

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