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Stay alive if no man on earth was sexually or physically attracted to you in any way?

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AlTD · 16/05/2025 14:04

Doesn’t apply to me but curious as friends were discussing this the other night. Answers from women only - would you stay alive/be able to enjoy life if literally NO man on earth was sexually or physically attracted to you/turned on by you in any way, shape or form? And why?

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AlTD · 16/05/2025 15:03

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dudsville · 16/05/2025 15:05

What a bizarre notion that someone would consider her life without worth if a man didn't find her attractive.

Prettygreeneyes43 · 16/05/2025 15:06

no, wouldn’t care at all. I don’t see my worth by how much any (stupid) man finds me attractive!!

UrsulaBelle · 16/05/2025 15:08

I definitely wanted a male partner when I was younger but since being divorced in my early 40s I've really, really not wanted the hassle of it all ever again! Perfectly happy in my 60s on my own. If I'd not had children I may think/have thought differently.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 16/05/2025 15:08

I don't care about sex so I wouldn't give a shit if no man wanted to have sex with me. It's a whole lot of faff for a few genital spasms. I'd rather have a cup of tea.

I think that if you cared that men were attracted to you it would be very difficult if none were. Obviously.

Not suicide worthy! Just upsetting.

WearyAuldWumman · 16/05/2025 15:08

AlTD · 16/05/2025 14:04

Doesn’t apply to me but curious as friends were discussing this the other night. Answers from women only - would you stay alive/be able to enjoy life if literally NO man on earth was sexually or physically attracted to you/turned on by you in any way, shape or form? And why?

I'm a 65 yr old widow...I should just top myself then?

I mean - life is absolute shit without my husband, but I still find moments of joy.

jay55 · 16/05/2025 15:08

It’s a huge relief to become an invisible middle aged woman and not have to deal with the male gaze.

WearyAuldWumman · 16/05/2025 15:10

The old goat down the hill has shown interest in me, but I'd rather plant my face in a cowpat.

As I've said elsewhere on here, he claimed to be in his 50s, but the only part of him that's 50 would be his false teeth. Yeuch!

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 16/05/2025 15:10

What a weird question. Of course I would. It would have been the same answer back in the mists of time before I met my husband too.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 16/05/2025 15:12

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What?

(It's per se, by the way. Latin.)

CrystalSingerFan · 16/05/2025 15:15

IjustbelieveinMe · 16/05/2025 14:11

As long as there are dogs all is well in the world.

As long as there are dogs cats all is well in the world. 😁

Vinvertebrate · 16/05/2025 15:15

Good grief, surely we’ve evolved more than this? Men have never found me “fuckable” and I couldn’t give the teensiest of shites. Most men annoy the ever-living fuck out of me and that includes DH.

Communitywebbing · 16/05/2025 15:16

You are describing the ageing process, though some women continue to attract men longer than others. I don’t want to die young to avoid it!

TheodoraCrumpet · 16/05/2025 15:18

Wouldn't give a shit. But it wouldn't happen anyway. To any woman, not just grumpy frumpy middle aged me. Not all straight men will fuck any female who's willing, but a fair few are up for any offers. They don't have to fancy you.

mumda · 16/05/2025 15:19

That jar of pickles might stay in the cupboard a lot longer.

WomenInSTEM · 16/05/2025 15:21

Yes. Because there are other things in life that matter and bring meaning. Although I fully acknowledge that my DH is wonderful!

mandarindreams · 16/05/2025 15:22

I would care to the extent that it would damage my current marriage - I'm very fond of DH and I'd rather not lose him, but ultimately if he wasn't attracted to me and left me as a result I'd cope, I'm not going to end it all over that.

In terms of any other men, I'm bisexual so would be quite happy to limit my replacement partner search to women only (tbh if I were ever to find myself in need of a new partner this would likely be my plan anyway).

LadyRoughDiamond · 16/05/2025 15:22

I think it sounds wonderful. Imagine, having a conversation with a man and knowing that he is only interested in your intellect or talent or sense of humour. Heaven!

StMarie4me · 16/05/2025 15:24

Erm… yes.

Anything important to ask?

Horticula · 16/05/2025 15:24

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I doubt that would ever happen actually. Even if a woman had to look for a while and didn't care if the man liked her at all, there would be enough men who'd be able to keep it up literally for a quick shag.

But I certainly wouldn't contemplate suicide if I thought no man wanted to fuck me. You and your friends must have the most incredibly empty lives if you think you're only staying alive because you feel sexually attractive to men.

TwentyKittens · 16/05/2025 15:24

AlTD · 16/05/2025 14:04

Doesn’t apply to me but curious as friends were discussing this the other night. Answers from women only - would you stay alive/be able to enjoy life if literally NO man on earth was sexually or physically attracted to you/turned on by you in any way, shape or form? And why?

This already happens to me (50s, obese) and I rejoice!

The only downside is that it's a hurdle in the motivation required to lose weight. "What if men start pestering me again?"

MozartJoy · 16/05/2025 15:24

I’d rather have a cup of tea and a good book.

Hysterectomynext · 16/05/2025 15:24

I think i became obese as a way of isolating myself from attention so yes. I’m alive. No men interested at all and not for decades. I’m managing fine

TaranFollt · 16/05/2025 15:26

Middle aged woman here.
I had a very unsettling experience last month where I received attention from a man, whom I would label as predatory. I can't go into detail as it could be outing, but the behaviour was inciduous and manipulative. I realised quickly, but not immediately; and so I feel a mild violation where mental boundaries are concerned.
What a perve he is and I should imagine he's moved onto another target now. (I am protecting my friendship group and asking them to be vigilant.)
And so I guess I'm having a very different conversation with friends to the one you are having with yours about men at the moment.
This was a man who, it seems, was trying to have sex with me. Not because of anything positive about me, he just wanted something sexual, almost at the expense of me, really.
On the other hand, I have some great friendships with men, who haven't expressed any desire towards me at all. Guess which scenario is the most fulfilling.

JudgeBread · 16/05/2025 15:26

I'm sorry are you asking if I'd kill myself if no men found me attractive ever?

Is this a real question?