Anyone else just love a clean and tidy house?

[NoEffingWay]

In my youth and when I first lived out of home I was a messy sod, and I didn’t seem to notice at all. I’ve just spent the last few hours tidying and setting things up for next week. The washing and ironing are done, the house is freshly hoovered, a candle is lit. Food shopping done, work bag packed- you get the picture!

It didn’t happen overnight but I gradually seemed to realise a) I was living in a grotty house and b) if I keep on top of things, it’s no more than an hour a day plus a bit more at weekends to live in a house that is always ‘guest ready’.

I fear I have officially reached middle age 😂

@Arramintais it usual for cleaners to change bedding or do you pay extra for this?

I’m going to try those tips! I’ve just realised that I’ve said to myself “it’ll have to be next Monday as we’re currently away and then we’re minding our grandchildren until Sunday…ie more procrastination in a way! Will definitely have to try even one thing off your list this evening when we get home. Might start with hoovering this evening.

I’m like you, I can’t relax in an untidy environment. Too much muddle makes my teeth itch and I feel twitchy until I sort it out.
I actually quite enjoy housework and tidying, ironing and putting things away.

from day one my childre. have seen me run the hoover round/iron/wash up.
they just sat and watched when babies and when they were on the move i’d give them a box of bits and bobs to play with while i got on.
having chn doesn’t mean you have to give them your full attention all the time.
ny mental health would be even worse than if i had a messy house!

This.

I love a clean and tidy house. But I hate cleaning with every fibre of my being.

I wish there was a life swap thing where I could cook dinner for someone’s family in return for having them clean. Cooking is fun, cleaning is a nightmare.

@MusicMakesItAllBetter While I don’t have a diagnosis of anything, I’ve been wondering recently, to be honest! When I compare myself to my husband or sons, they decide to do something, start it straight away and stick at it until it’s done. Meanwhile, I procrastinate, find a million other things I could do instead, start on a task and get distracted by something else and so it goes. I write “lists of things to do” and usually only manage one or two off the list but end up doing other things instead!

I smiled when I saw your username, as I’m often distracted from whatever I’m supposed to be doing, simply by passing the piano and deciding to spend “just a few minutes” practising something. An hour goes by without me realising it! I honestly think I’m just a procrastinator, though, as, when I really put my mind to things, set a timer, and stop daydreaming and allowing myself to get distracted by other things, I accomplish plenty.

I’m loving reading this thread! It is really inspiring to read about the effects of a tidy house on others, and I really do think it’s true. Now I just need to get off my lazy rear and put a bit of effort in to achieve the same!

😁

It's not a bad thing to be ND.
Whenever I tell someone that I have ADHD, some people are like oh I'm sorry.
Why??? I'm not sorry lol I've had my whole life explained to me these past 10 months since I was diagnosed and while a lot was a bit overwhelming at the time, everything now makes sense and I'm good with it all ☺️ I feel the best I've ever felt although I have had counselling this year and that was amazing.

I digress (I do that a lot too).

I smiled when you said you can't walk past the piano without stopping for a little tinkle on the ivory's and before you know it an hour's gone 😁 I do this daily just not with a piano sadly 🤣

When I'm getting ready to go to bed I start taking things to the kitchen and then I'll see something and think that needs to go away, so I'll put it away and then I'll see other things and before you know it 15 minutes to half an hour have passed and I still haven't taken everything out to the kitchen.
Then it's the bedtime routine of teeth, wee, face. Putting my Bluetooth on for my earbuds for my sleep guided meditation, checking the alarms are all set (which they are because I don't turn them off except for Saturdays and Sundays). Then I faff for a moment just to make sure I've done everything I need to before I can get into bed.
Meanwhile my DP is waiting patiently (most of the time) to go to sleep.

Procrastination isn't lazy. I can't remember right now why it isn't but it's not laziness.

To do lists; I stopped making daily lists as at first I was doing it from top to bottom like a 'normal' person would and I would get ADHD paralysis so I'd literally get stuck and not be able to move on with the list because of one thing that I literally couldn't get on with doing 🤷🏼‍♀️ wtf is that all about???

It never dawned on me to do something else from the list or that I could do the stuff in any order I liked because my brain doesn't work like that. So I started writing a list on a Sunday of things that I'd like to have completed by the end of the week. No pressure to do it on a specific day just to have it done at some point in the next 5-7 days.
I found it much easier to manage that way.

My son is ND and it was seeing myself in him as a kid that made the penny drop, mental! It appears my daughter is too.
DP is not 😆 bless him 😂

I do have days where I do a lot. I remind myself of that when I don't get things done.

Im crap at cleaning but really good at tidying!
Which is good coz the tidiness kinda disguises the lack of regular housework!😀

@MusicMakesItAllBetter Actually your idea about making a list of things to achieve over 5 to 7 days makes a lot of sense. It’s worth giving it a go, I think.

@henlake7 I think tidying is key. It’s so much easier to clean a tidy room. Whenever I see cluttered rooms (eg aspirational magazines where there seems to be “stuff” on every conceivable surface) I wonder how clean it all could be!

Same, although i cheat and have a cleaner.
They do a big clean once a week and i clean and tidy daily to maintain it.

Im far more stressed in an untidy / chaotic environment.