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A thread for anyone home alone this Easter weekend

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OpenPalm · 18/04/2025 09:34

Does anyone want to check in with activities & ideas for afar they are doing, if they find themselves alone this weekend? Feels like it will be a long few days.

I am taking it hour by hour. Will read my book in the sunshine once I get out of the bath. You?

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Friartruckster · 20/04/2025 18:04

@Clytemnestra21 that’s a tough one.

@OpenPalm I’m a keen fan of BBC Sounds too. In addition to ’This Cultural Life’, I’m a keen fan of Desert Island Discs - life talk with music.

I spent the day at a local art gallery that also does a particularly pleasing fruit scone. So pleased it was open and was appreciative of the staff working today.

Looking forward to a bit of phaffy gardening this evening.

I did fill the holes in my walls ready for painting. These are the jobs that are least exciting but so pleasing to have done. Doing so, gives me a small but very significant lift.

🌷🐣

ithinkicanithinkican · 20/04/2025 18:19

@Friartruckster Yes, wee jobs like that are very satisfying to get out of the way! Your afternoon sounds nice.

IstayhomeonFridaynight · 20/04/2025 18:27

I went for a swim in local pool yesterday and today - lovely and quiet today. Going to do the Spring cleaning this evening thay I've been planning to do since Friday.

My student DS is at his girlfriends - for years it was his Dads every second Easter. I'll give him his egg when he's back tomorrow. I've accidentally eaten mine.

OpenPalm · 20/04/2025 18:49

Starting to feel a bit low, so thought I would tune in. My friend blew me out on the walk plan and as it got cloudy, I just didn't bother going alone. Hmm maybe I should just do a brisk 5 km before it gets dark.

@Clytemnestra21 I hope you have been ok today, spending most of the day in bed sounds like something I used to do when I was at the start of my divorce. You say it has been nice to not be busy, and it sounds like you have had a restful day, so it sounds like you've taken it in your stride. I must have made 50 cups of tea today :-D but no chocolate, or alcohol, which is good as I've been trying to claw back control over those. Diary writing sounds a good idea.

@LlynTegid Your walk sounds lovely! Ducklings sound so cute. In the lockdown year I used to walk along the river and see the mother ducks carrying their babies, oh so delightful!

@Friartruckster Yes! I meant to add that I like listening to back episodes of Desert Island Discs. There are some really great old ones! I listened to Salman Rushdie's novel, Knifed (?), too, the other day. Oh I should have gone out. Art gallery and scone sounds so comforting and satisfying. I'm so stupid sometimes, now I'm cooped up waiting for evening video call with partner. I'm an idiot sometimes.

The DIY jobs are great! I didn't do any of that although I did tidy away piles of clothes and potted up some flowers in the garden. I also cleaned the window ledges. Ho hum, life on the edge!

@ithinkicanithinkican and @ssd I caught up with your series suggestions earlier. I will try some of these. Wish I could lose myself in a series. I am struggling to concentrate. I wish my partner would communicate better with me. I think he has been sleeping for the past few hours, but it would be nice to be reassured. Tbf it's unlikely he's doing anything raucous or worrying, but I am feeding that patr of my mind too much.

@AuntMildred I hope you went to that show in the end. How was it? I often go to the cinema alone (actually I prefer it, as I find it awkward to talk/not talk with friends while watching!) and have done the theatre a bit alone. Holidays have often been alone, I'm used to it now. It can be a bit awkward to eat alone but I take a book.

My relatives were a bit shocked that I was on my own today but they are used to being in big family groups and travelling in convoy. Nightmare. When I think of that, I can appreciate this silence.

@IstayhomeonFridaynight Swim sounds refreshing. Wish I was into swimming! A sauna after would be nice, too. Good luck with the spring cleaning. It is weird when DCs start having boy/girlfriends and then there's this other layer of turn-taking. One of mine is travelling and I think missing Easter at home this year. They usually come to mine even if it's their dad's turn. Ex doesn't mind and I take it as an excuse to cook a feast and buy loads of goodies. So, so weird this year.

Urgh must not get depressed! Thank you for lovely posts. Flowers

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LoyalShaker · 20/04/2025 18:56

Some really inspiring ideas on here. For those people wanting book suggestions, I really loved "Where the crawdads sing" it was a real page turner and has a twist at the end.

I hope you all have a really enjoyable Easter break.

IthasYes · 20/04/2025 19:39

That's crap OP, letting you down

ssd · 20/04/2025 20:48

My suggestion for a really good book is The Nightingale. Think its by Kirsten Hannah.

Friartruckster · 20/04/2025 20:52

@OpenPalm did you get out? It’s the hardest, and this having to get up and going is the challenge. Sometimes it’s “thank heavens for cake”. My tummy is like a magnet pulling me out the house and to the cake server. I am so superficial 🥴

CalicoPusscat · 20/04/2025 20:57

I'm home alone but quite happy now as my friends seem happy and getting up to their own thing. So happy Easter all in all.

I felt a bit miserable earlier then cheered up.

Seawolves · 20/04/2025 21:23

We went to watch the tractor run, there were 250 of them! Little 'un has struggled with his tummy today so I now have him on a very slow overnight feed to try to keep his calorie intake up, it feels like an uphill battle at the moment. I ended up having beans on toast for dinner (then discovered the bread was mouldy!) and I've made a start on prepping for tomorrow's roast with DD and her husband.

Presentingme · 20/04/2025 21:27

Thanks for this thread, OP :)

I've been all over the place today, which reflects my emotional state over the last few months. Started off very anxious, cried a bit etc. (stressful time in family at the moment; I'm putting too much pressure on myself; I'm halfway through a part-time degree alongside work; I'm moving house; AND I'm getting over a breakup with someone who I suspect is a narcissist...the joys). Saying that, I've also had moments where I've really enjoyed the sunshine, my new plants in the garden, went for a lovely walk earlier and I've just started a big self-development project so lots of interesting things on the horizon!

I echo what a PP said upthread; I'm not particularly religious but Easter really does strike me as a time for renewal and growth.

OpenPalm · 21/04/2025 09:39

Good morning everyone, and happy Easter Monday if you are celebrating Flowers

@IthasYes Yes, I did feel let down by my friend. In all fairness, I called it off but because I saw from social media she'd already gone on a very long, sunny walk with a different friend, so by the time we were arranging time, place, etc. she was complaining about it being cloudy and about being too tired to walk. She is very coarse with our friendship. Maybe I am too sensitive, but it upset me so I suggested a different day. I also felt mildly irritated by her suggestion we shelter in a church. She's not English, but I feel she should know that I am not religious and that that is not appropriate. A church is not a coffee shop! :-D Oh I am being waffly and irritated. Bet you wish you'd never asked! :-D

Looks like a few of us could do with some gentle, tender care:

@Presentingme Sorry about your emotional rollercoaster yesterday. I know that feeling of being all over the place. Being alone makes it worse. That is a LOT of stress that you are going through: house move, study, narcissist. You are working on a lot of obstacles; many things nibbling away at you. Hold on to the joys, the little pleasures. You are more than those horrible things, and they WILL pass. A big self-development project sounds amazing! How brave, and how interesting, I wish you could tell us more.

Yes, not religious but Easter is a progressive time - also in the calendar. We've passed 1/4 of the year. What do we we wish to achieve over the next 3 quarters?

@LoyalShaker Thank you for recommending "Where the Crawdads Sing". A friend of mine couldn't put it down. If I'm not mistaken, it's also a film. Hope you are having a peaceful break.

@ssd The Nightingale looks like something I would enjoy. Thank you for the suggestion. I also saw on a different thread about your anxiety. Hang on in there. I have been in that place and could give all sorts of suggestions but I still suffer - maybe that's why we are all here. I have to control the gearbox of my mind in order to stop it torturing itself. Sending you soft thoughts and gentle "mind helps".

@Friartruckster Thank you for asking after me. No, I didn't get out. Big mistake! I was so stupid. By the time 4pm came by, it felt too late, and then got restless and irritated. I am mildly socially anxious/agoraphobic so it takes that extra oomph. Cake is an EXCELLENT draw. Haha sometimes we need it to be superficial!

The nicest thing is that in my solitude, I sent a friend a text and she was complaining about feeling neglected by her kids and spending the weekend alone, so we will meet to visit a museum in a short while. (Maybe cake opportunity, @Friartruckster !). Then later on, I had a really lovely video chat with my partner. We are back to communicating on a deep level. I love it when we talk philosophical, it reminds me of the special side of our connection.

Hello @CalicoPusscat , glad you are happy home alone, that is lovely to read. Contentment has won over misery! We must all hang onto this.

@Seawolves Your post about the tractor run really touched me yesterday, as I imagined your little one being all tucked up and watching and feeling safe and content, with you having a lovely glow of satisfaction of being a comforting Mummy and tending to his needs (lol, overthinking, moi?!). Sorry about his tummy. Poor you, the obstacles sound very wearing. I am sorry about the mouldy bread :-( You deserve so much nicer stuff. I am glad your DD her her DH are coming to see you, and the roast will be lovely! Sending you a massive bunch of Flowers

Wellll. I am going to organise this museum trip and maybe cake or lunch after. Drizzly day, already chatted with partner. This thread is making me realise how much he and I communicate over the day, and stay connected despite the different countries. Will try to do a bit of work today as well.

Happy day to you all, and don't forget to come back and share ideas for overcoming the solitude blues! Much love.

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MananaPenelope · 21/04/2025 11:20

Morning everyone on this lovely thread. I’m pleased to see that people are feeling contented 😌.

I’m going into York today to collect a parcel, loose plans really but I expect I’ll browse Fenwicks for a bit and have coffee somewhere. I need to go to a couple of shops for specific things. I might go to the Minster for evening prayer if I am still there at 5 ish, although I prefer evensong, evening prayer it isn’t my favourite service at all, it always feels like a service you simply observe rather than participate in.

I expect one of my kids will either come along or that I’ll have to detour/pick another one up along the way.

Back to work tomorrow, but I will try not to think about work until then.

Friartruckster · 21/04/2025 13:33

@OpenPalm your ‘visit a museum’ friend sounds like the friendship worth investing in.

In terms of ‘cake as a magnet’ for getting out when my thoughts are yelling ‘nah! You don’t wanna that’ whilst drawing out a scroll of reason why. My response ‘who’s managing this show?’ Aka I manage it, it doesn’t manage me. Now off to take my own advice - creosote the fence. A long list of reasons not to 😱. I’ll be back to give an honest account of what’s been done, with the MN rule - no photo, it didn’t happen 😵‍💫

Deathraystare · 21/04/2025 19:35

Well apart from working I did not much. I did listen to Audible as I have a load of free books on there. I am normally 'free' to work Easter and Christmas as I am on my own and don't visit relatives much. I am ok with it. Forgot to get myself some easter eggs but did get two Cadbury's creme ones (2) and had them on Saturday!

Friartruckster · 21/04/2025 20:45

And that’s a wrap fellow Easterians. Well done. And here’s to the summer.

It’s fab journeying with you this Easter.

Seawolves · 21/04/2025 20:46

I hope everyone had a good day?

DD and her husband came, we took little 'un for a walk which seems to really soothe him when the day isn't going his way. He woke before midnight last night and then was awake until 10 this morning when he took a nap on the carpet while I got things ready for our roast. He's a bonus to our family as I am his foster parent but he's very much a part of the clan.

AuntMildred · 21/04/2025 20:49

Thanks @OpenPalm for the thread and to others for their advice too. I’m afraid I didn’t go in the end, I left it late and it only had one day left. I’ve decided in future to buy a ticket in advance if I want to go to something even if it’s on my own. Some good tips on here for when you feel conspicuous doing things solo even though it’s more in our heads than not. Thanks!

ithinkicanithinkican · 21/04/2025 22:28

Yep, we made it through! Would be happy to keep company again in the future.

OpenPalm · 22/04/2025 10:07

Good morning, everyone. WE MADE IT! Smile
Some replies:
@MananaPenelope I love York, and Fenwicks is a great place to mooch about. Hope you had a lovely day. The Minster is magical, and I expect yesterday was particularly peaceful and reflective given the Pope's death. Those services where you can just "be" are wonderful for spaces to think. Welcome back to work today, and I hope your day (and rest of days!) are going well. Thank you for company Flowers

@Friartruckster You were right, my museum friend is fabulous. A breath of fresh air. We listen to each other and we help with decisions and things we would do if we had husbands. I gave the walk friend another chance but we missed each other. No matter. Hope you creosoted the fence! Still post a pic if you feel like it! Would love to see your progress! I need to do mine... Confused

I really appreciated your "who’s managing this show?" coping strategy. You gave me great food for thought (literally!) and this thought kept my mind stable yesterday. These little posting groups can be underestimated for the great help they can give. Thank you for being there over these days! Flowers

@Deathraystare Yeahhhh I had periods like that, I as pretty much frozen to the spot with my Audible or BBC Sounds on. It's good that you can control your work days and stuff like that... Not having relatives to visit can give extra freedom. Pleased you got through it! Flowers

@Seawolves Oh what a wonderful day you had! A foster parent is special SmileWhat a wonderful thing you are doing. Little poppet sounds like he had a super walk and a nap on the carpet was just the ticket for him. Awww. Thank you for being part of this thread this weekend. It has been truly humbling to read your experiences. Flowers

@AuntMildred I know that feeling too well! I end up leaving stuff too late and not bothering. Great idea to buy in advice. I'm going backwards and forwards with a trip, should just book in advance and get on with it. Thank you for reminding us of that message. Flowers

@ithinkicanithinkican @Friartruckster and everyone...

We made it through! It's a wrap! Easterians, I am touched to have found you all. How funny that you can start a piddly little thread on here thinking nobody will reply, and it ends up being a warm place of safety. Smile Please look out for future company threads, I would love to "meet up" with you all again.

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Friartruckster · 22/04/2025 11:20

@OpenPalm “How funny that you can start a piddly little thread on here thinking nobody will reply, and it ends up being a warm place of safety.”

Absolutely. 💃🏼🕺🏼

Friartruckster · 22/04/2025 11:25

How about a thread titled ‘I’m thinking/imagining xxxx. Feel unsure, so keep putting off. What one SMART thing would you suggest I do now to get me going? And so nearer to making my dream a reality?”

A call to the sisterhood.

SMART - classic time management- small, measurable, achievable, relevant, timed.

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