Male in female toilets

[Conniebygaslight]

So yesterday I'd popped to the supermarket and after my shop went to the loo. It was empty, I went to the cubicle which was ajar and pushed it open. There sitting on the toilet was a bloke in his 40s with his trousers and pants around his ankles. He frightened me to death. I shot out of said toilets and reported him to the staff. If a child had gone in there alone I dread to think....dodgy as hell. And no it wasn't a bloke pretending to be a woman.(Not that that is any better)

Very coincidental you posting this today because I was discussing men in women's spaces with my adult son yesterday.
I was telling him about an incident last year when I was about to go into the Women's toilets in the local Morrisons when a woman coming out advised me not to go in because there was a man in there. I didn't see the guy at all because I chose to use the toilet in the Mother and baby/ disabled cubicle instead - which in theory I know I shouldn't.
So I understand perfectly how upsetting your experience was. And as you say if it had been a child going in the consequences could have been serious.
I know some supermarkets in this region had signs up at one point advising parents not to let their children use the toilet facilities unaccompanied following an assault on a young girl in one a few years ago.

Tbf, unless the guy grinned or smirked at you like he wanted you to find him it could have just been a mistake. I have a couple of times gone into empty men's loos and only realised when I came out I was in wrong one. I think once there were no urinals and I only realised as a bloke came in and I went out, and one time as I came out of the cubicles I saw there were urinals tucked away around a corner that I hadn't spotted going in😳

I went into the men’s bathroom by mistake in a museum. I went straight into a cubicle, didn’t notice the urinals. It was empty when I went in, when I came out two men were using the urinals, one was washing his hands. They all laughed. It was horrible. I basically ran out of there.

I did the same thing once too. On a job interview. The male manager showing us round gestured to where the toilets were in relation to our base for the day. Turns out they were the ones for him to use, not women, and I scared the other male staff when I came out.

The OP said the door was ajar, surely we all close and lock the door when we use the loo.

I did this at work. Only realised I was in the men's when I saw a bloke washing his hands at the sink and checked the sign on the doors when I went out. There were two toilets next to each other and they were both mens, and having seen the sign on the other door I assumed it was the women's.

Why was the cubicle door not locked though? If the lock was broken, every single woman I know would use a different one, OR if they were all full, shove their foot against the door or anything else to hold it shut and ensure they weren't walked in on. This man didn't seem to care?

Of course it wasn’t a bloody mistake… unless men habitually don’t shut the door when they’re using a cubicle?
It was to intimidate and/or give himself a thrill.

The door lock might might not have worked well. Some don’t quite catch. So you dashed out and reported him for sitting on a toilet! Was the toilet intended for male and female? If not was it clearly marked for female use?

She said it was the female toilets @HappydaysArehere

This was Morrisons too...

Why was his door ajar....?

Yes it was ajar.

Clearly marked

I never allowed my children to go into public loos alone, this is why. I cannot understand anyone who would,

Yes, I reported him to the staff, are you seriously saying I shouldn't have done...?

Did the staff do anything?

She asked if I was OK and said she'd investigate immediately

Astounding amount of posters here seeming to not mind men coming into women's toilets for a) a big shit b) to upset women c) just classic shits and giggles

I had a male colleague who used to go and use our Women's toilets on night shifts (when he thought it was quiet and wouldn't upset anyone) because he said the 'Men's were rank'... Yes that's why we don't want you coming into ours FFS

If the man had made an honest mistake he'd have locked the door. If the lock didn't work he'd have chosen another cubicle like all normal people, or tried to hold it shut a bit, or called out when someone pushed it.

Just sitting there boldly with the door open does not smack of honest mistake.

Honestly the sheer entitlement of men, and handmaidenry of women, is astonishing.

It is very depressing. Morrison's has form for this. A 10 year old girl was raped in a Scottish Morrison's by a trans identified male, Katy Delatoski? Was let off first offence, re offended and served time in a womens prison. But of course this never happens...

You'd think, but apparently men often don't - I had the same experience in B&Q (where they have just the one toilet for everyone) - pushed the door open, to find a bloke already sat in there. The door locks fine, he just didn't bother

I believe that it was a problem mentioned in a government office, where they'd installed mixed sex toilets, and the women were complaining that the men never bothered to close the cubicle doors while using them

Maybe he was assigned male at birth but she was actually a woman who looked like a man?

Please be joking

That's a bit of a reach - Pervy men probably outnumbered women with DSDs by more than a hundred to one.

Also, self conscious women are less likely to sit with the door ajar waiting to be found.

You lost me at 'assigned male at birth'.

If it was a mistake he would have made some horrified/apologetic noise when OP opened the door. But I'm pretty sure there was a reason why he didn't lock the door and left it a jar. Vile man.