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Bumpitybumper · 09/03/2025 19:58

I think many people don't realise just how patchy the science around Neurodiversity is. They treat a diagnosis as if it's the same as being diagnosed with some physical conditions where definitive testing can be conducted. Assessments for ADHD and to some extend ASD are incredibly subjective. They rely on observing behaviour, self reporting and 'evidence' provided by other often bias sources. The parameters of these tests change as our understanding increases but it is almost certain that we are nowhere near an end state for any of this.

So we now have anyone that is struggling looking for a diagnosis that they can often internalise and make a fundamental part of their identity. It is so dangerous when we know so little about the brain, genetics and how they impact our behaviour.

JoyousGreyOrca · 09/03/2025 20:08

Dangers of diagnosis are real. I heard a young man with ASD complaining that once he was diagnosed with ASD, any negative behaviour was dismissed by his parents as due to ASD. He talked about one situation as an example where he was angry at what was happening, but his anger was just dismissed as a symptom of ASD.

Soontobe60 · 09/03/2025 20:09

SecretMoomin · 09/03/2025 16:27

Many of the private diagnoses are for low income families, who have been kicked back, often because teachers lie on forms and in assessments (have experienced this myself), but are 100% sure that something’s going on, often because it runs in families.

So there’s a bias because we’re pressured to seek a diagnosis or there’s no support (even though we’re told otherwise).

Most private diagnoses go through paediatricians and psychologists who also work for the NHS, it wouldn’t be in their best interests to diagnose a child falsely.

At the end of the day the problem relates directly back to schools who are unable to support children effectively, so more and more children are struggling. Fix it and you fix a lot of societal problems.

The likelihood of teachers lying on forms is lower than that of parents lying on forms. I have always completed any screening tools honestly, reflecting how a child presents in school. I don’t comment on behaviours that parents tell me they witness at home on a daily basis, but that doesn’t mean I don’t believe them. I do the same for DLA application forms, and with one exception from the numerous forms I’ve completed, every child has rightly been awarded it. When a parent approaches me about concerns of ND, I may ask if there’s anyone else in the family who has a diagnosis, because we now know that familial connections are high.
I know many SENCOs, all of whom spend massive amounts of time pushing for assessments for children who are so obviously ND. It’s a shit show mainly due to funding, or lack thereof.

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Soontobe60 · 09/03/2025 20:12

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/03/2025 16:54

it’s disproportionality middle class white people that seem to get diagnosed in adulthood.

he was of the belief that the overwhelming majority of children diagnosed with with ADHD had suffered ACEs and this is what triggered it.

That sounds like a classic causation/correlation issue.

Let's say ADHD is normally distributed over the population (which is unlikely because the deficits mean it's more likely to be in poorer/less resourced families). Children with fewer resources and more ACE are more likely to get diagnosed because the parents can't finance away the issues. But also, chances are if the child has ADHD, one parent has as well. So are the ACE a chicken or egg, or a little of both? ADHD means a higher likelihood of offending. Parent offends = ACE. But that's genetic, not a 'trigger'.

The MC parents cover it up with money, time and resources, until the MC adult seeks a diagnosis.

I've been mulling this over a lot. DD got a very early diagnosis. She had classic boy type ADHD so it was noticed and diagnosed. But our tutoring and parenting and resources and management and tricks and tips and all that helped a great deal and means I doubt very much she would get a diagnosis push from school now. Some teachers look genuinely amazed she has it when told. She has learned to mask, code-switch and generally work with her ADHD. She isn't 'cured' though.

It looks like ACE 'trigger' ADHD but when I look at the children with the same diagnosis and ACE, they are much worse now than DD is. Because their parents can't throw money, time and resources at their child.

I think (or hope) that the assumption that ACE is the main trigger for ADHD is pretty much debunked. But I do think for some children, it’s a significant cause.

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selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/03/2025 20:15

LadyRoughDiamond · 09/03/2025 16:10

I work in an education, husband is a GP - we’ve both seen an increasing level of diagnosis of neurodivergence. The one thing we’ve both commented on is the strange coincidence that, specifically, private ASD/ADHD/other clinics never, in our experience, send a report back stating that a patient isn’t neurodivergent. That’s a 100% positive diagnosis rate, which is very unusual in medicine. Referrals through CAHMS/NHS tend to have a lower positive diagnosis rate.

Another poster, further up the thread, commented on how this seems to be a middle class phenomenon. This would fit with it being the private companies that possibly over-diagnose. I guess there a lot of money to be made from anxious parents looking for answers.

Why would a patient or private clinic send you a no-diagnosis report if they weren't diagnosed? It would be like me phoning my GP to tell him that I didn't have cystitis.

Soontobe60 · 09/03/2025 20:19

SecretMoomin · 09/03/2025 17:09

That’s not true though.

If you’re stupid enough to pay private and go to some spurious clinic then yes, maybe. But will your diagnosis be taken seriously by school or the LA? No.

In general though you go private you see the same paed and psych that work within the NHS, and the parents who go private have often gone through hell before taking that route. An NHS paed would not risk their license giving out falsified diagnoses.

You’d think that’s the case, but you’d be wrong. A colleague of mine is SENCo in a private secondary school. The number of students that rock up in Year 8 with a private diagnosis, before the school has even had chance to commission any investigations, is eye watering. These are children that haven’t been on a CAMHS waiting list for months and months. They’ve not even had a referral. There really is a private system out there that is being exploited. In my State primary, our kids are lucky if they get seen within 2 years of referral. Their parents absolutely cannot afford a private assessment.

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minnienono · 09/03/2025 20:20

She makes many excellent points, but, a big but I truly believe there is something in our lifestyle today that is increasing the symptoms of neurodiversity- there are many reasons you may have symptoms that meet the criteria eg many genetic disorders do, and I think we are doing things that cause it too, in myself I think it's my mobile phone, constant entertainment, instant gratification, I've become noticeably more fidgety, I bore easier, I need constant input ... that's me, I'm 50, what are we doing to young brains! I have no "proof" this is observation combined with the thoughts of my friend who works in public health. And this is not dismissing the symptoms btw, they are real.

Soontobe60 · 09/03/2025 20:21

Hazel665 · 09/03/2025 18:02

I remember a multi disciplinary at CAMHs where I spoke at length with the psychologist, and he was of the belief that the overwhelming majority of children diagnosed with with ADHD had suffered ACEs and this is what triggered it. He was very concerned that we were starting to medicate children living in chaotic families with very powerful drugs before trying to deal with the environment those children were exposed to.

The thing is, a child with ADHD has more than likely inherited it from one or both parents. The parents' ADHD is what is leading to the chaotic family life, and the child's ACEs (adverse childhood experiences) will be caused by the parents' ADHD. It is the parents that need help/diagnosis first, then the children, otherwise the whole thing becomes generational.

Yep!

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whatsthatBout · 09/03/2025 20:22

Wildflowers99 · 09/03/2025 18:03

But the science to suggest they’re wired wrongly is fairly tenuous, like with gender identity.

But there is something that causes ASD that must have a scientific basis. My diagnosed autistic son can function fairly well but he tiptoes everywhere, flaps his hands constantly, squeaks and stims and makes high-pitched noises all the time, has various sensory needs and aversion as well as learning difficulties. He is clearly very different from his typical peers and there must be a reason. I didn’t drink, smoke, took my prenatal vitamins, he’s been brought up in a loving and stable home. I wish I knew what and why- whether it simply is in genetic makeup and/or some kind of environmental factor.

I think clearer understanding of the cause of autism and a more easier/accurate diagnosis test would be extremely beneficial to individuals with autism and it is so frustrating to see pushback against it.

soupyspoon · 09/03/2025 20:22

Soontobe60 · 09/03/2025 20:12

I think (or hope) that the assumption that ACE is the main trigger for ADHD is pretty much debunked. But I do think for some children, it’s a significant cause.

I dont understand what you're saying, you say you hope that the theory that ACEs are a trigger for ADHD has been debunked but then say you think for some, its a significant cause? You're saying the same thing

However I think what worries professionals is that the traits and behaviours that are seen from trauma and attachment difficulties are sometimes (and I dont know how much) are confused with ND traits

The current theory is that ND is something you have or dont have. However the behaviours are very very much affected by ACEs, by the wrong type of parenting for that child so the children who are largely highlighted at school are children whose needs havent been well supported by their parents. There are always outliers of course and excpetions to the rule.

Soontobe60 · 09/03/2025 20:27

Wildflowers99 · 09/03/2025 18:08

I don’t think it’s a case of ‘hey presto’ at all, but the success rate is 75% for both assessment and reassessment, so I don’t think it’s very difficult either. At present 1 in 16 children claim DLA.

It may well be that 1:16 claim DLA, but I’m pretty certain that of those who claim, very few receive it. Out of my school of 400+ children and 15% SEN, only 10 of our children receive it. That’s not for want of trying. They all have EHCPs and 5 are waiting for special school place.

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soupyspoon · 09/03/2025 20:27

whatsthatBout · 09/03/2025 20:22

But there is something that causes ASD that must have a scientific basis. My diagnosed autistic son can function fairly well but he tiptoes everywhere, flaps his hands constantly, squeaks and stims and makes high-pitched noises all the time, has various sensory needs and aversion as well as learning difficulties. He is clearly very different from his typical peers and there must be a reason. I didn’t drink, smoke, took my prenatal vitamins, he’s been brought up in a loving and stable home. I wish I knew what and why- whether it simply is in genetic makeup and/or some kind of environmental factor.

I think clearer understanding of the cause of autism and a more easier/accurate diagnosis test would be extremely beneficial to individuals with autism and it is so frustrating to see pushback against it.

My own theory is that its simply genetic for children like your son, its his make up, its his brain creation

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/03/2025 20:28

Skipthisbit · 09/03/2025 16:49

Adults seeking ADHD and ASD diagnosis are showing an almost 100% ‘success rate’ ?
How can they be? How can it be that unlike any other illness … neurodiverse diagnosis is 100% self reported symptoms and has an apparent 100% ‘success rate’
from referral to diagnosis

One of my parents was interviewed by the assessor and meeting notes exist from when I was at primary school, when the head teacher referred me to EdPsych who didn't detect me because no one was looking for autism in girls in the late 80s. There are two diagnostic interviewers and they look at how you behave in the interview as well as what you say.

So try again with "100% self-reported symptoms". You're basically calling late-diagnosed adults liars.

JoyousGreyOrca · 09/03/2025 20:29

Soontobe60 · 09/03/2025 20:21

Yep!

Have you read what ACEs are? I have read nothing that says ADHD or ASD mean someone is more likely to abuse a child, be an alcoholic or habitual drug user.

JoyousGreyOrca · 09/03/2025 20:31

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/03/2025 20:28

One of my parents was interviewed by the assessor and meeting notes exist from when I was at primary school, when the head teacher referred me to EdPsych who didn't detect me because no one was looking for autism in girls in the late 80s. There are two diagnostic interviewers and they look at how you behave in the interview as well as what you say.

So try again with "100% self-reported symptoms". You're basically calling late-diagnosed adults liars.

It was very different in the eighties to now. Nowdays children are diagnosed even though their symptoms are only seen at home and so self reported by the parent. This is at odds with the DSM diagnostic criteria.

Huckyfell · 09/03/2025 20:32

If you type into Google, what is my problem, I have a fear of vomit, I am always late, I worry about what people think of me, I can't look after money etc, etc, etc, there is a name for my illness.
It degrades the people with real illnesses. Or maybe not?

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/03/2025 20:34

whatsthatBout · 09/03/2025 17:11

I’m not sure what to think of this. I have a child who was diagnosed ASD at age 4, from my experience of the assessment and evidence required I don’t really understand how somebody could obtain a diagnosis without genuinely being NT?

TBH I would like to see more research on what causes ASD. I sometimes look at my son with his constant flapping hands, little high pitched noises, tip-toe walking, delayed speech etc etc and think something has gone on or caused this and I have no idea what or why. My DS is an absolute joy but I’ve met parents where there is huge challenges and needs (being unable to walk, talk, still in nappies at age 9) and the only explanation they have is simply ‘autism’. For some reason I find a big section of the ASD community push back massively at any kind of research to identity or explain what autism actually is. I don’t understand it.

For some reason I find a big section of the ASD community push back massively at any kind of research to identity or explain what autism actually is. I don’t understand it.

If a genetic cause was found, the prenatal testing and subsequent abortions would result in autistic people being wiped out. Some autistic people aren't particularly comfortable with that prospect.

JoyousGreyOrca · 09/03/2025 20:38

A genetic cause is very unlikely

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/03/2025 20:40

Wildflowers99 · 09/03/2025 18:02

I think cases of severe autism (the non verbal kind) have massively increased, but the type which people had no idea about until their child was 12 needs through review as I think the symptoms are all tangle up with anxiety, depression etc.

Making is something everybody does to some level, it’s perfectly normal to have different faces you show to the world.

Strangely, when you keep getting social interactions wrong no matter how hard you try, that tends to cause anxiety and depression.

It's very common for autistic kids to cope in primary school and then fall apart in secondary when social interactions get more complex and sexuality starts to manifest, adding a layer of extra possible motives to have to navigate when interacting with other kids.

SwedishSayna · 09/03/2025 20:41

@whatsthatBout do the families of severely affected autistic people want to find out the cause, in your experience?

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/03/2025 20:42

CuteOrangeElephant · 09/03/2025 18:57

I wouldn't be surprised if that was the case. My whole family has mild neurodivergence, amongst them there is diagnosed ADD, ADHD and autism, some in combination with a high iq. My own DD has some issues too. I suspect my father has autism.

Once they have found their niche and are out of school, everyone has turned out well and holds down regular jobs. No one is on benefits. Almost all of them have quite technical jobs.

I have a cousin with a more severe case of autism (has never been to a regular school), he is a successful programmer.

Your family are exceptions, not the rule. https://www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/news/new-data-on-the-autism-employment-gap

soupyspoon · 09/03/2025 20:42

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/03/2025 20:34

For some reason I find a big section of the ASD community push back massively at any kind of research to identity or explain what autism actually is. I don’t understand it.

If a genetic cause was found, the prenatal testing and subsequent abortions would result in autistic people being wiped out. Some autistic people aren't particularly comfortable with that prospect.

That isnt a very good argument for preventing scientific discovery.

Soontobe60 · 09/03/2025 20:43

Remember people with undiagnosed/unmedicated ADHD have a much shorter lifespan than a NT person and their brains aren’t the same shape as a NT brain

I’d be really interested to see the peer reviewed evidence for this is.

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JoyousGreyOrca · 09/03/2025 20:44

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/03/2025 20:40

Strangely, when you keep getting social interactions wrong no matter how hard you try, that tends to cause anxiety and depression.

It's very common for autistic kids to cope in primary school and then fall apart in secondary when social interactions get more complex and sexuality starts to manifest, adding a layer of extra possible motives to have to navigate when interacting with other kids.

I am not autistic but struggled socially at secondary school. The learning curve is massive.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/03/2025 20:44

JoyousGreyOrca · 09/03/2025 20:38

A genetic cause is very unlikely

You've not met my family then. You can see the same signature behaviours in my late DGF, my DF, and me, despite me being female and having undergone female social conditioning.