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SecretMoomin · 10/03/2025 17:21

PocketSand · 10/03/2025 16:52

@SecretMoomin DS2's GOSH report singled out his primary school because all the evidence they had submitted for a clearly autistic child tried to claim all was fine and he was NT. They were told to educate themselves. They didn't. Just convinced themselves the parents were the problem. Don't kid yourself it doesn't happen.

I haven’t once said that things like that never happen.
However IME it’s very normal for schools to be in denial of any needs and to write reports saying so, sometimes whilst asking behaviour support workers in to help with the child. You couldn’t make it up!

Kirbert2 · 10/03/2025 17:42

frozendaisy · 10/03/2025 17:09

And what has happened around here, is there is one school that happily takes on children requiring additional support because they like the extra cash, this doesn't filter down to better provision, and many parents (ourselves included) apply, and in our case were lucky to get, places in schools with Heads who are under academies so can more easily exclude pupils. Our children had spent long enough, 7 years, with violence and disruption in their educational setting, it wasn't going to change for the 5 years that they have for secondary, so we moved them.

The school that is within the travel distance that will take pupils, and their percentage of educational support is above average. And it's still chaos. It is a race to the bottom.

And this is what is going to happen more and more across the country, if it isn't already. The competition for schools that can offer a less disrupted education and deal with, frankly outrageous in some cases, behaviour are going to be oversubscribed. But we weren't prepared to leave our children's one stab at secondary and GCSEs in the hands of an ineffective Head. And it works really well, particularly with the youngster's school, the oldest is out of there in a handful of weeks so utter irrelevant to us now, but the other school has great provision for children who can manage with main stream, with no turning down of lights or uniform relaxation, and a smaller number of SEND children benefitting from a decent SEN department.

A LA has to provide a school place, not necessarily a school place where you want to go. And children do get passed from pillar to post until they are in a LA school where it is much harder to exclude them. This all legally falls under the Equality Act, they are provided a school place.

That is exactly the kind of school my son needs. He is on the assessment list for ASD and ADHD but his EHCP in the works is unrelated. He doesn't have any behavioural issues and he isn't violent. He's academically behind now due to the amount of time he has been out of school and he'll need to re adjust to the school routine but other than that, the EHCP is due to all of the physical care he will need during a school day such as transfers when he needs the loo.

His school are telling me they are still the school for him, they just need time and the EHCP to come into play. Hopefully they are right.

godmum56 · 10/03/2025 17:46

see this is why I think it needed to be two books. She is conflating two issues.

BIossomtoes · 10/03/2025 17:50

godmum56 · 10/03/2025 17:46

see this is why I think it needed to be two books. She is conflating two issues.

She’s not. The book is about over diagnosis across the entire healthcare spectrum. The issue is the same regardless of condition.

soupyspoon · 10/03/2025 18:04

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 10/03/2025 13:16

Task lighting exists. I have a rechargeable task light that clips to my desk and cost around £12 from LIDL.

Short-sightedness is not alleviated by extra lighting but by moving closer to the object being looked at. The definitive solution is corrective spectacles and I question why any short-sighted child isn't given appropriate glasses.

Children could also be permitted to wear sunglasses indoors, perhaps with restrictions on brand names to prevent them from becoming a "oneupmanship" tool.

Just to be pedantic, along side the right glasses, the correct lighting is absolutely needed. I need very bright light to see anything these days yet am wearing the correct prescription. And I dont like bright lights, I get headaches from them.

Jade520 · 10/03/2025 18:10

Meh, she strays into silly territory when she says she's glad no one diagnosed her as autistic because she was timid. No one gets diagnosed for being timid or being 'really into' something, try being very literal, black and white thinking, struggling with transitions, sensory issues, echolalia etc - she's talking absolute nonsense there so to me that just discredits everything else she says.

godmum56 · 10/03/2025 18:37

BIossomtoes · 10/03/2025 17:50

She’s not. The book is about over diagnosis across the entire healthcare spectrum. The issue is the same regardless of condition.

I don't think that it is.

Dogsbreath7 · 10/03/2025 19:32

Treeleaf11 · 09/03/2025 16:11

A relative of mine in his late sixties was diagnosed with a form of Leukaemia 8 years ago after a routine blood test but its a type that may or not progress. no other symptoms. He has blood tests every 3 months to monitor changes but so far it hasn't changed. in a way its good it was picked up but i cant help think the worry of it has ruined his retirement and last healthy years. if he hadnt known he would have enjoyed life more.

I may have same / similar dx. You are right, it is a negative to know and it has changed my view of what my retirement means (no retiring abroad in case I need expensive meds).

But now I am post dx ‘depression’ (had talking therapy), I absolutely needed to and glad I know. I can make decisions in my future factoring in the uncertainties. I can control my exposure and reduce risk of early death. I am kind to myself now I know and understand why I am fatigued. I have vaccinated.

The only reason dx and knowledge is being questioned is because we don’t have a fit for purpose health system. We can all clap for the NHS but it frequently lets us down. ( how come Germany and France have effective health care? Perhaps because money is spent where it is needed rather than spending trying to PREVENT access).

In terms of ND, my dd was dx after 5 years of MH issues. We waited for CAMHS even though we could afford to pay privately as we didn’t want her dx to be dismissed because it was a private dx. Yes we missed it at primary but so did every nursery provider and school teacher, because as a non disruptive girl she was easy to ignore. Yet another example of discriminatory bias is in the ‘system’.

OneAmberFinch · 10/03/2025 19:53

Jade520 · 10/03/2025 18:10

Meh, she strays into silly territory when she says she's glad no one diagnosed her as autistic because she was timid. No one gets diagnosed for being timid or being 'really into' something, try being very literal, black and white thinking, struggling with transitions, sensory issues, echolalia etc - she's talking absolute nonsense there so to me that just discredits everything else she says.

The problem is that all the things you describe are very easy to convince yourself you have, and even to actually start doing them (see also: tics in teenage girls, etc). Some of these things may be occasional foibles that you see on a list, then convince yourself are real struggles that you have, then build into your self-identity, then start doing them more often, then talk to a bunch of supportive friends in a support group about, then start documenting, then take to a doctor and describe them using all the right words...

Basically I'm saying literally every other similar condition is highly subject to social contagion. It would be really weird if this were the one thing that wasn't.

That isn't to say that there aren't some people who genuinely suffer seriously - but that not every person with a Diagnosis(TM) is in that category.

Soontobe60 · 10/03/2025 21:04

frozendaisy · 10/03/2025 15:51

But this is the issue that has arisen, there are so many pupils that have EHCPs now that it's impossible to fulfill them all.

What if your son's school just cannot find a member of staff for his needs? Or they have to split their support staff and then other parents who have a certain level of support complain because some has been taken from them to accommodate an additional EHCP?

I am not saying your son should not have an education and it sounds like his school want to provide it for him but how would you react if they are unable because they are swamped with other EHCPs?

This is the growing reality because so many students are getting a diagnosis and parental demand for SEN provision.

When one our our pupils receive their EHCP, we work very closely with the LA and support services to ensure the right support is provided. Schools that fail to provide such provision as detailed in the EHCP are failing in their responsibilities.

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Huckleberries · 10/03/2025 21:13

Thank you for this

I've known a few women - it does feel like it's more often women - who have had unnecessary treatment for "cancer" which was later thought to be abnormal cells. On a scan that seems to mean anything they don't recognise.

Sadly I think she's undermined herself with some of her other comments but the questions around cancer have been suppressed for a while. If doctors finally speak out about erroneous "treatments" that's a good thing.

remember when they wanted all over 50s to take a polypill? There's a strange dynamic with over eager doctors.

BooksandBugs · 10/03/2025 21:45

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 10/03/2025 12:07

I object to the phrase aspie supremecy but it is a term widely used to acknowledge the privilege that lower support needs individuals have in advocacy compared to our high support needs individuals and therefore as someone who has lower support needs than someone who is non-verbal with lifelong developmental delays, I would want to protect them from treatments and testing in which they can not consent.

If there's to be research into the causes of autism, it should be on consenting autistic adults with lower support needs, i.e. people like me, and even then with strict ethical guardrails in place because people like me can still be vulnerable to coercion.

It's not OK to use non-verbal and pre-verbal kids for this.

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If a non-verbal child had cancer, we'd treat them right though? They can't consent. Would we treat them only if they'd die without treatment? Should we treat if the cancer would kill them in 10 years? Wondering why it's different to treat their autism

BooksandBugs · 10/03/2025 21:48

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 10/03/2025 12:54

On a different note, reading the pp who talked about the ethics of studying the causes of autism- I get that, but at the same time, I also wonder if knowing a cause might help? I’m not aware that autism can be ‘seen’ in scans etc, unlike ADHD, which presents with a thinner prefrontal cortex, but if there is a structural or causal association wouldn’t that have potential value for treating/making appropriate adjustments without children having to go through the exhausting (and often, yes, traumatising) processes within the health and education systems?

That was me.

I see what you’re saying, and I think there’s an important distinction to be made. Understanding the neurological or genetic underpinnings of autism could absolutely help in terms of making appropriate adjustments and reducing the need for children to go through exhausting and often traumatic diagnostic processes. If, for example, autism could be identified earlier and more accurately without relying on subjective assessments it could mean earlier access to support, which would be hugely beneficial.

The concern many in the autistic community have, though, is about how that knowledge is used. Historically, research into the causes of autism has often been framed around prevention rather than support. That’s why there’s so much pushback, it’s not necessarily about resisting scientific understanding, but about ensuring that understanding isn’t weaponised against autistic people.

I also think we need to be careful with the idea of treatment. If we’re talking about treating co-occurring conditions like anxiety, sensory processing issues, or executive functioning struggles, then yes, research could absolutely improve targeted interventions. But if “treatment” starts to mean erasing autism itself rather than accommodating autistic people, that’s where it becomes a serious ethical concern.

So I’d say the value in this kind of research depends entirely on intention and application. If it leads to better understanding and support, that’s great. If it leads to increased stigma, eugenics, or a push to “cure” rather than accommodate, that’s where it becomes deeply problematic.

Many of the trials stated that they had the right to pass on data collected to third parties who weren't at liberty to disclose their intentions with that data.

So you could sign up and consent to something in good faith that it was with the aim to improve the lives of autistic people, but once the data collected had been passed on, it might not be used in a way that is quite so altruistic.

It would be fantastic if research was run by autistic people, for autistic people, and data was not passed on to third parties, but then there's still the issue of informed and enthusiastic consent.

You can't start stripping away people's right to consent in one area without it then creating loopholes for other groups of people to start having their rights to consent removed too. It also means that should someone consent on someone else's behalf, can consent be withdrawn by the individual in the clinical research trials if their guardian doesn't wish them to.

The problem is that then, there are autistic people like myself who can enthusiastically consent, but it's not creating a large or varied group of autistic people in which to collect data from and it will be bias and skewed.

There is a lot to consider and I think research can be done ethically, but everything needs to be done in a proper manner and nobody should have their rights revoked as a cost saving measure.

Do we have any other examples of conditions where we want accomodations made but at the same time, we don't think the conditions should be treated? Just thinking it would be good to have a parallel so people can understand this point of view better

Supersimkin7 · 10/03/2025 22:44

Deafness. Some deaf people think it’s an asset and defend their perceived right to have deaf DC who they don’t allow medics to investigate a fix.

Schizophrenia, some types of delusion. One type makes the schizophrenic keen to chop off body parts - cos their leg doesn’t feel right, for instance, so it’s got to go. They’re very keen on their perceived rights to be one-legged.

Thing is, patients can refuse treatment but doctors can also refuse to give it, particularly surgery, so this lot don’t get far.

Eh? I don’t see where the idea of only the autistic doing autistic research can make sense. I get that some people don’t think autism is a bad thing, but that’s not connected. Autism doesn’t give you extra human rights - if it did, how could they apply to research?

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 10/03/2025 22:55

OneAmberFinch · 10/03/2025 19:53

The problem is that all the things you describe are very easy to convince yourself you have, and even to actually start doing them (see also: tics in teenage girls, etc). Some of these things may be occasional foibles that you see on a list, then convince yourself are real struggles that you have, then build into your self-identity, then start doing them more often, then talk to a bunch of supportive friends in a support group about, then start documenting, then take to a doctor and describe them using all the right words...

Basically I'm saying literally every other similar condition is highly subject to social contagion. It would be really weird if this were the one thing that wasn't.

That isn't to say that there aren't some people who genuinely suffer seriously - but that not every person with a Diagnosis(TM) is in that category.

There cannot possibly have been any social contagion surrounding autism in girls when I was referred to edpsych in 1990.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 10/03/2025 23:14

BooksandBugs · 10/03/2025 21:45

If a non-verbal child had cancer, we'd treat them right though? They can't consent. Would we treat them only if they'd die without treatment? Should we treat if the cancer would kill them in 10 years? Wondering why it's different to treat their autism

If you read that comment chain, you will see that we are talking about research. We are discussing experimental treatments being carried out on someone who doesn't have a life-threatening illness. We are talking about drugs or surgeries carried out with the motive to capture research data, not to help the person. When we are talking about children, they cannot consent to being research subjects.

When experimental treatment decisions are made about children, it is because the child is at risk of death or irreversible harm without that treatment. The doctors may ask for permission to collect research data during that treatment, but the reason for that treatment is to save that child's life. It is never acceptable to give children medical treatments just for the purposes of research.

Autism doesn't kill and it doesn't maim, so the desire to treat it doesn't override the ethical barriers to giving experimental drugs to children. They've got to be tested on adults first before they can be considered for children.

There was a guy in 1930s and 40s Austria who liked experimenting on autistic kids. His name was Hans Asperger. We reviewed what he did that and from that figured out that experimenting on autistic children, or indeed any children, is a very bad idea.

HeBeaverandSheBeaver · 11/03/2025 06:35

@selffellatingouroborosofhate

There was a guy in 1930s and 40s Austria who liked experimenting on autistic kids. His name was Hans Asperger. We reviewed what he did that and from that figured out that experimenting on autistic children, or indeed any children, is a very bad idea.

That statement isn't actually accurate. He saved thousands of kids(boys) from being sent to camps as they were very bright. He set up schools for them and worked with them to learn more about the way their minds worked. But he was involved with the nazis so that's why his name has been blackened. Fair enough.

However the way you have said it makes it sound like he tortured people.

QueenofFox · 11/03/2025 07:17

SecretMoomin · 09/03/2025 18:04

You cannot get DLA without a ton of evidence from relevant professionals - eg Paediatrician, GP, schools, support workers.

You can’t just decide you’re going to get it and hey presto! It just doesn’t work like that.

This is absolute rubbish. You just fill out a form. We have one for a physical disability and it took about 10 mins and no one else is involved. You do need to be able to write articulately and it's a system that massively favours highly educated middle class parents.

also similar about diagnosing children being hard now - in parts of London, private ed psych are passed around who will diagnose children, it's just a question of how much you can pay. SenCo's are then bypassed as they need to implement what it's recommended even if they don't agree with it and EHCPs are given by councils who cannot afford the appeals by v expensive specialist barristers. It's absolutely a system that favours money and those that most need help don't get it because they can't access the system. I suspect the author also lives in London or SE and sees this rate of over diagnosis by pushy parents. The sentence about people who want to help finding people who want a diagnosis rang true. Kids are faving a crisis due to lack of time with parents, school stress, screens and these over-diagnoses aren't helpful.

Superhansrantowindsor · 11/03/2025 07:26

She’s brave writing that but I agree with what she’s saying. Of course people are going to take it personally and get very defensive but I think she has made some perfectly valid points.

soupyspoon · 11/03/2025 07:34

Soontobe60 · 10/03/2025 21:04

When one our our pupils receive their EHCP, we work very closely with the LA and support services to ensure the right support is provided. Schools that fail to provide such provision as detailed in the EHCP are failing in their responsibilities.

I see this a lot on here, this blanket 'the school are not meeting their legal duties'

But if there is no member of staff, if you cant spread your TA's out because you only get 8k for them and that has to meet a number of children's needs so its not really 1-1, what on earth do schools do?

The resources just arent there, the expectations (which have also been written into law) are unreasonable. Im no fan of schools I think the school system needs a complete overhaul, most of the 'adjustments' people are citing above for ND students are actually just child centred/person centred methods which should apply to all children, however thats for another day, but despite my view about schools you cant get blood out of a stone, if the resources are not there, they cannot be delivered. EHCP or no EHCP

Wildflowers99 · 11/03/2025 08:03

@soupyspoon agree completely. It’s all very well saying the schools are ‘failing in their legal responsibilities’ like it’s some kind of moral failing or lack of will, but the reality is the legal rights for children were conferred at a time when they anticipated under 100,000 kids to actually need it. We are now in a place where half a million children have EHCPs and this is rising every day. This rise was never anticipated when the law was created and as such, it now massively over promises and cannot deliver. Not the schools fault at all.

OneAmberFinch · 11/03/2025 08:13

@soupyspoon 100%

I actually think this is the case all over the British state

Very generous paper commitments that are set out as legal/statutory requirements

Not enough funding to actually commit to those things in practice, for more than a small minority of people

Complicated hoops to therefore select who is able to access it to keep it to a manageable amount

An ecosystem of support networks, private funding, assistants, civil service administrators etc built around those hoops

A worse system for everyone who does not want to or can't jump through those hoops

AlertCat · 11/03/2025 08:25

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 10/03/2025 22:55

There cannot possibly have been any social contagion surrounding autism in girls when I was referred to edpsych in 1990.

Autism does exist. But are you saying that there is absolutely not a problem of over-diagnosing health issues including autism? Because that’s the point that’s arguable. There are vastly more kids (and adults) with diagnoses now than ever before- if each and every one of them is in need of a diagnosis and adjustments, is it not reasonable to ask (a) what is neurotypical and where does it become neurodivergence? and (b) why are there so many more people now who either have more difficulty with the world than people in previous generations did, or have more severe levels of need?

Those are questions that should be looked at simply so that we can (dream of) have a mainstream system that actually works for the maximum number of children and a specialist provision system that those who need it can access without the current years of trauma and struggle.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 11/03/2025 08:37

HeBeaverandSheBeaver · 11/03/2025 06:35

@selffellatingouroborosofhate

There was a guy in 1930s and 40s Austria who liked experimenting on autistic kids. His name was Hans Asperger. We reviewed what he did that and from that figured out that experimenting on autistic children, or indeed any children, is a very bad idea.

That statement isn't actually accurate. He saved thousands of kids(boys) from being sent to camps as they were very bright. He set up schools for them and worked with them to learn more about the way their minds worked. But he was involved with the nazis so that's why his name has been blackened. Fair enough.

However the way you have said it makes it sound like he tortured people.

He sent kids to Am Spiegelgrund knowing that they would be killed there.

Bumpitybumper · 11/03/2025 08:49

Wildflowers99 · 11/03/2025 08:03

@soupyspoon agree completely. It’s all very well saying the schools are ‘failing in their legal responsibilities’ like it’s some kind of moral failing or lack of will, but the reality is the legal rights for children were conferred at a time when they anticipated under 100,000 kids to actually need it. We are now in a place where half a million children have EHCPs and this is rising every day. This rise was never anticipated when the law was created and as such, it now massively over promises and cannot deliver. Not the schools fault at all.

Exactly this! This is why reform is needed because the current rules aren't working for anyone.

They are completely unaffordable from a financial perspective. They are unsustainable from a resourcing perspective. They encourage parents to think they have an entitlement to a level of help and support that realistically can't be resourced or funded. This leaves them feeling bitter and angry when they can't access what they feel they are entitled to and encourages resentment to fester between them and the school.

We need a much more honest conversation as a society about how we approach SEN education going forward. We need to manage expectations and make sure what we do commit to as a country is actually delivered instead of promising the moon on a stick and then failing to deliver much at all.

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