I couldn’t edit my post further, but wanted to add information about anxiety caused by sensory issues, not from a place of victimhood, poor me, but because people are clearly not understanding that those of us diagnosed autistic aren’t just people who have normal difficulties (depression, anxiety, friend issues) but take it the extra mile, but have a diagnosis based on a set of specific criteria which may manifest in different ways, hence looking very different (eg demand avoidance and complete compliance (not a good thing for autistics!) are opposite behaviours, both come from the same source and can be improved with the same methods) - but the root of the behaviour is the same.
(I used to be a complete victim because I was always a step or ten behind my peers and couldn’t for the life of me understand why or catch up, and then had to fight through the issues my dc had, and life was utterly shit, and I had so many wankers telling me they knew best, but then I was diagnosed and was able to work it out. I’m not a victim now, but I’m not standing for anyone suggesting any autistic is, because unless you’ve walked a mile in their shoes…)
So, sensory issues - yes everyone can find loud noises difficult, or bright lights, flickering lights, low buzzy noises, smells, etc difficult to take.
From an autistic perspective it disregulates the nervous system.
So for example - loud noise effects - distorts my hearing and takes a little while to stop, my inner ears tense up (don’t know how else to describe it) and I get headaches. If I can’t escape it to recover, or other stuff is going on and adding to the stress, I end up feeling anxious, really jittery, like my skin is a force field that’s breaking up and I’m disintegrating, if left too long it affects other senses, so I can’t see properly, I can be disoriented, I can panic. This is not something you can CBT away. It’s something that those on the spectrum need to be aware of and need to learn how to manage. Loud noises are just one of many things that can set off this sort of reaction.
I had health anxiety and social anxiety for years, but the sensory type is like anxiety on steroids, and needs some specific strategies to recover. These sorts of strategies are things we learn to use for our children (if you have NT children this is likely to be new information because you don’t need to do any of these). We learn to build up a sensory diet, which is almost a toolkit of strategies to deal with the sensory anxiety.
I think some people posting are really clueless about ND conditions and the very real effects they have. I agree there’s more about, but I don’t think it’s a big mystery. Life is far more complicated and frazzling than it was. Humans aren’t coping with it.