Weird things happening around death

[Whatishappeninginmylife]

New username because this is specific.

my lovely mum died very suddenly this morning. It’s a huge shock. I couldn’t get there in time and am hundreds of miles away.

but. I lost a glove a few weeks ago. I was really annoyed about it and retraced my steps. Today, I took a route I don’t use that often, looked down and saw my glove in the gutter of the road. I’m sure this is coincidence but it’s very strange. What are the odds?!

Regale me with your unexpected tales please.

Thank you. Very well said.

When my grandad died, it was very unexpected even though he was elderly. I had to phone my brother, who was very close to my grandad, and knew he was at work, 45 miles away, and would now have to drive home having received that news. When I called him, he was obviously on hands free in the car so I asked where he was. He said he was just turning into my street as he’d had a really strong feeling he needed to leave work and drive to my house. In hindsight he says it was madness to just leave work two hours early and drive to me without even picking up the phone but he felt a compulsion to do it, which he just didn’t question.

The same brother inherited my grandad’s watch. He wore it to the funeral and realised later that it had stopped around the time the funeral service ended. He took it to a jeweller who couldn’t get it started again but decided to still wear it months later on the day we scattered our grandad’s ashes. When we got home afterwards, my brother realised the watch had started again at the exact time we left the memorial garden.

Sorry for your loss. When my Grandad was dying he asked for my brother. My brother arrived and my Grandad said our names one by one and never spoke again. He died just over an hour later. The next day we went to the nursing home to collect his belongings. His watch had stopped at 11.40, the exact time he died.

My lovely grandad died and we were a bit tight on money as I was pregnant and had reduced hours at work.
Nan wanted me to go and see her the next day but petrol would be tight. I opened an old purse that evening and found £20. I like to believe he put it there

Two things.

My lovely gdad died in 2006 and on the night before his funeral, while I was practising my reading for the next day’s service, the main living room light kept flashing on and off. (Never happened before or since).

A funnier one was my lovely grandma on the other side of the family. As soon as £1.00 coins came out (yes, I’m that old) she would always tape two inside my Christmas card, and two inside DSis’ card, every single year. Her eyesight deteriorated as she aged, but she was far too vain/glamourous to wear glasses. One year DSis got the usual two pound coins, but taped in my card was one pound, and one penny.

We should ofc have politely ignored it, but being gobby little tweens, we asked why she didn’t like me as much as DSis any more and showed her the “evidence”. Bless her, she doubled down and said we should be more bloody grateful. From then on, to fully “style it out”, one of us would get the penny from her every year. 😂 Far from feeling hard done by, it became a proper Christmas ritual.

Many years after her death, I was about to put DS’ Christmas money in his savings pot, when I noticed a pound and a penny just sitting next to it. I’m not woo, and I’m sure there’s a logical explanation, but it was a lovely feeling that she might still be around somehow.

This is so lovely & funny too, your grandma sounds like a real character x

My gran was an identical twin, they’d always had weird twin-woo things.

My gran had been really poorly and was in hospital but was pretty stable.

In the middle of the night her sister woke up, insisted her husband drove her to the hospital. As they arrived the nurses looked confused and said, ‘oh did someone get hold of you we didn’t think there was an answer’.

They’d been ringing the landline (pre mobiles) and got no answer, presumably because they’d already left.

They just had a few minutes to say goodbye before my gran passed away.

I hope we all have that.
It’s amazing
I am I tears now

Thank you.

Hope is such a human thing.

I like to think that I'm rational and scientific in how I deal with the world.
But the butterflies just seemed so rationally unlikely. Halloween and Christmas Day. I'd not expect to see butterflies in the autumn and winter.

I really love that some others are finding comfort in these stories. They’re remarkable, thank you

Ds2 had a lovely respite carer who we all adored. He died v suddenly. I was very upset and went to my Mum's for the night. In the morning I felt someone tap me on the shoulder as I lay on the sofa. No one was there. Would like to think it was him... 💙

I didn't tell my DC about the light orbs till much later .
DC were about 21 and 19 at the time , we'd had to leave them Home Alone .

We saw the orbs on our camera footage on DH phone and they aren;t dust or lights , they move differently .

My Dads house didn't have cameras , his spirit could've been galloping round his house and I'd have thought "bloody central heating being noisy !"

I think we look for coincidences we wouldn't normally pay attention to and assign meaning based on our own spiritual beliefs. I'm an atheist and lost my mum at a young age and my dad more recently. They loved me both very much and I've never doubted had they been able to reach me from an afterlife, they would have. I have never felt any sort of absence of any seen any sorts of signs, just felt an aching loss. They're gone and their energy died with them. I do think we see what we want to see.

I get it, and normally I’d be more of this way of thinking. I’ve had many an argument with her about the feathers she found etc. But the glove was uncanny. I’ve walked that way a number of times and not spotted it, it’s sat there since mid January unmoved. I had been planning to go a different route, changed my mind last minute, and there it was. Such incredible timing.

OP’ I am glad you gained comfort from finding your glove. I visited my mum (she lived 150 mikes away from me). She came to me and gave me one of her rings, insisting that I took it. She said ‘I know you have always loved it and I want to make sure you get it’. I remembered the words as she repeated them twice. She put the ring in my hand and gently folded my fingers over it. I was due to go back to see her 2 weeks later. A few days before I returned, she suddenly collapsed and died, with no warning. The ring is one of my most treasured possessions and I miss her every day.

I had a very similar thing happen with my mum giving me a ring. I hadn’t read your story before I added mine this evening but so strange!

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP.

My cousin passed away suddenly in the middle of the night. She was the light of all our lives; we loved her dearly, and she, too, loved life. She was truly someone who was grateful for everything she had, no matter how big or small.

I remember the day after her passing, her body was flown back home (we are Middle Eastern), which isn’t customary in our culture, as we believe the deceased should be buried immediately in the place they pass away. However, she had requested to be buried back home. Although I didn’t go, that night I stayed at her house with my cousins and her children. I clearly remember waking up in the middle of the night to a gentle breeze and someone touching my face, telling me to go back to sleep as I tried to open my eyes - and so I did.

Whatever that was, it felt so real, and I refuse to accept it was a dream. I firmly believe it was my cousin coming to say goodbye (we were very close), and I will continue to believe that for the rest of my life.

@NewMarmiteJar you’ve posted this before- I remember reading it with my child in my arms and it brought me to tears. I’m so sorry for your loss 💐

When my FIL was dying at home I said to my dh late one night I think you should call your mum to see how things were. FIL died next to her, whilst she was on the phone to DH.
I just had this strange sense he was going.

So sorry for your loss.

My mum died a few years ago. She lived in Scotland and we live down south and we flew up for the funeral. I stayed on with one of my daughters but my husband and other daughter had to get back for work so I drove them to Glasgow airport. Just as I was exiting the airport to go back to my dad's a deer ran out in front of me. It was so unexpected there. I took it as a sign.

When my father in law died, he had been living in a home and we used to take his clothes to wash. I had them hanging on the airer in the spare room to dry and I came back from work to a really wierd smell, like vegetable soup, and it was coming from the clothes. We were perplexed, couldn't understand it. A few hours later we got a call to say he had died. I immediately lost my sense of smell and it took 6 months to come back.

When our last dog died, we left the vets and went to the river. We all sat by the bank and a man and his three dogs came past. The dogs all sat with us - the man was amazed, said they usually hated strangers. It was incredibly peaceful and special.

My condolences to you OP. My mum died suddenly 10 days ago, I wasn’t there and I’ll still in shock , I’m hoping I get some sign from her

My mum died very suddenly and unexpectedly. I had a very odd dream the night she died, I was in my childhood home and watching her from my bedroom window walking out the gate, waving and blowing me a kiss. I thought it was one of those crazy dreams you have when I wakened the next morning and thought nothing of it until I received the call that she was gone.

I'm sorry for your loss OP.

There's a specific song that makes me think of my mum and it always comes on when i'm thinking of her or somethings happening in my life that makes me miss her more.
There's also a song that links to my sisters dad and a few times when i've been worried about my sister it's come on the radio- and it's not a common song to hear.

I'm not a spiritual person at all but the night my mum was passing away I was sitting beside her bed in a sort of half dozing half awake state and I very clearly saw a light and a man standing silhouetted in the light- it was really weird and really comforting.

I went to my husbands aunts funeral she was over 90 and very active in her church. I was surprised that her family had a humanist service as I know she would have liked a church service. I went to my church later in the week and got a Mass said for her. I returned home and was upstairs tidying when I noticed a white card lying on the bedroom floor.i picked it up and opened it and it was a thank you card from this same aunt that I received over 30 years ago and had totally forgotten about. It was for a gift I had given her. I did not even know I still had it. I feel this was a message thanking me for caring about her faith. It was a strange feeling but it made me glad.

So sorry for your loss OP 💐💐

When I was on the train to London after my dad's funeral a huge moth appeared and landed on my leg. I brushed it off and it landed on my bag. This happened again and again it kept flying in circles to land on me. Probably coincidence but it felt like a sign.